Why the Most Faded Moments in Marriages
Faded moments in marriages may not surprise you!
Married for twenty years, and everything they once enjoyed had started to fade away.
Why do moments fade in many marriages?
Have you lost interest, or are you affected by your hard day at work?
When couples have had enough of complaining from each other the signs come to light. Intimate moments are one of the first to disappear in a marriage. Each partner chooses to live in their own plans that allows for the loss of togetherness in a marriage.
Many couples don't have many mutual friends, or no friends at all. It can be boring if couples don't have much of a social life. One partner against the other is not a true relationship.
She has lost feeling of his touch, and he just keeps on pushing her away.
When you fell asleep on his chest with a slight dribble on his shirt!
How often does that happen anymore?
One of the partners has to keep the spark going if the other does not care, of the styles of pampering. No bringing her flowers, or her favorite chocolates. She longs for him to buy her something special, as he did in the past but that didn't happen anymore.
Making birthdays, or wedding anniversaries a great day is far from that thought. Too many years have passed by and the interest had fallen away. At times special days are overlooked and are treated as any other day. There is absolutely no attempt in making the day a memorable one.
What happened to spoiling each other once in a while?
You can't miss someone or something if they or it is never there, can you?
When you first met, it was different just like a fairy tale life. You were taken out to dinner, received gifts on special days, and enjoyed the simple things together. As the years have passed even that little you had to enjoy seems to be far from your reach. Love is there but not enough to keep you going in your relationship.
How and why do moments just fade away over the years?
If you don't spend time with your partner, you tend to forget how special your relationship once was in the past. The problem shows for itself, that you will keep on missing that person from your life, until one day you adjust to that lonely life and stop missing them at all.
Communication helps but if not practiced daily that too will vanish. True love will stay, but will hurt forever. Emotionally confused and don't know how much you can cope with the marriage you would just want out. Fun moments, the laughter, happiness, smiles, touches, the communication, intimacy, and playful times, can all fade away very fast.
Does age have anything to do with your behaviors?
If you live by the number as in your age it can affect your personal life more than you ever know or could of realized it. Both partners should be active in their relationship or marriage.
Sometimes it sounds more as a one-sided marriage. Where one partner constantly tries to make things right, while the other shows no interest. It takes effort to share special moments, and commit to one another. Avoid fighting about the same problem, stay away from bickering, and focus on each other.
Why is time often lost for the special one in your life?
No plans made for a get away vacation. He doesn't think you are sexy like when you first met. When a married couple spends less quality time together, and they don't go anywhere together, lots can be lost between the two people.
When one partner is focused on other issues, and the other wants to have some fun it can put both people on different sides of their pages. He puts her needs last and when there is nothing to talk about much more can disappear.
If they sleep as two strangers in a bed that too can be such a failure. Faded moments show and the hurt never goes away. No matter how much you try to make your marriage a worthy one, there would be no sign of improvement. Married couples spend times together.Experience life together.
Couples go out to enjoy themselves together. To experience their good life and to have a good laugh. To share moments, and memories on any time of day. When moments become lost moments everything else goes a different path. The path you did not expect.
Life becomes dull and boring.
Nothing can or would stay the same as from the start in any relationship. To keep a good marriage one has to work on it. To have a strongly built relationship hard work is required to keep it way.
Partners don't necessarily have to go every where together, or be together all the time. Sometimes it would be nice to have your partner by your side. To be hand in hand or a simple enjoyment of an evening seated side by side.
In many marriages love doesn't fade, just the moments you yearn for each day. If faded moments are not alive in marriages, partners can become lonely and live without the other easily.
There is no companionship.
Affections can feel dead on the outside. Though one can still feel alive on the inside. Partners grow apart, and can feel most distant.
Treat moments in a marriage special
Love makes you happy
In most cases, it is the lack of interests that tear them apart.
When partners feel the lack of love they move away from each other, and find love elsewhere. In cases where the couples still love each other they stay together and expect their partner to co-operate to their needs.
In the process the needs of the other falls away unnoticed. Faded moments makes partners go into different directions to find their happiness, or to make their own lives.
She would live her life to the fullest while he would focus on his own like, with whatever interests he has. The couple don't get to spend time together instead enjoy good moments separately. The actual reason for finding her happiness in her own way is to continue living. She can see he had stopped living his life.
She doesn't want to be in that way. The continuous complaining is not going to make things right for her. No one is being dishonest , and there is no loss of trust. They love, respect, trust, and communicate with each other all the time. The moments are not there anymore. It is sad to see such changes in most marriages.
People don't have perfect lives, but when it comes to marriages, without great moments it can make a partner feel unloved, and less-cared for their whole lives. You can't always want things to go your way. If love is not faded other moments could keep you together longer. It depends on how couples approach their lifestyles to make time for that someone special.
Time is precious, and everyday should be treated as a good one.
One day your partner won't be there and life must go on. In these cases, one can feel broken up and can have many regrets. Most married partners take each other for granted, this is what spoils a good marriage.
What do you think can keep a marriage alive?
Marriage is a great Commitment
What are the faded moments in your marriage?
© 2013 Devika Primić