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Why the Most Faded Moments in Marriages

Updated on October 14, 2018
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Faded moments in marriages may not surprise you!

Married for twenty years, and everything they once enjoyed had started to fade away.

Why do moments fade in many marriages?

Have you lost interest, or are you affected by your hard day at work?

When couples have had enough of complaining from each other the signs come to light. Intimate moments are one of the first to disappear in a marriage. Each partner chooses to live in their own plans that allows for the loss of togetherness in a marriage.

  • For Example:

Many couples don't have many mutual friends, or no friends at all. It can be boring if couples don't have much of a social life. One partner against the other is not a true relationship.

  • For example:

She has lost feeling of his touch, and he just keeps on pushing her away.

Remember footsie-footsie!

  • When you fell asleep on his chest with a slight dribble on his shirt!

  • How often does that happen anymore?

One of the partners has to keep the spark going if the other does not care, of the styles of pampering. No bringing her flowers, or her favorite chocolates. She longs for him to buy her something special, as he did in the past but that didn't happen anymore.

Making birthdays, or wedding anniversaries a great day is far from that thought. Too many years have passed by and the interest had fallen away. At times special days are overlooked and are treated as any other day. There is absolutely no attempt in making the day a memorable one.

  • What happened to spoiling each other once in a while?

  • You can't miss someone or something if they or it is never there, can you?

When you first met, it was different just like a fairy tale life. You were taken out to dinner, received gifts on special days, and enjoyed the simple things together. As the years have passed even that little you had to enjoy seems to be far from your reach. Love is there but not enough to keep you going in your relationship.

  • How and why do moments just fade away over the years?

If you don't spend time with your partner, you tend to forget how special your relationship once was in the past. The problem shows for itself, that you will keep on missing that person from your life, until one day you adjust to that lonely life and stop missing them at all.

Communication helps but if not practiced daily that too will vanish. True love will stay, but will hurt forever. Emotionally confused and don't know how much you can cope with the marriage you would just want out. Fun moments, the laughter, happiness, smiles, touches, the communication, intimacy, and playful times, can all fade away very fast.

Does age have anything to do with your behaviors?

If you live by the number as in your age it can affect your personal life more than you ever know or could of realized it. Both partners should be active in their relationship or marriage.

Sometimes it sounds more as a one-sided marriage. Where one partner constantly tries to make things right, while the other shows no interest. It takes effort to share special moments, and commit to one another. Avoid fighting about the same problem, stay away from bickering, and focus on each other.

  • Why is time often lost for the special one in your life?

No plans made for a get away vacation. He doesn't think you are sexy like when you first met. When a married couple spends less quality time together, and they don't go anywhere together, lots can be lost between the two people.

When one partner is focused on other issues, and the other wants to have some fun it can put both people on different sides of their pages. He puts her needs last and when there is nothing to talk about much more can disappear.

If they sleep as two strangers in a bed that too can be such a failure. Faded moments show and the hurt never goes away. No matter how much you try to make your marriage a worthy one, there would be no sign of improvement. Married couples spend times together.Experience life together.

For example:

Couples go out to enjoy themselves together. To experience their good life and to have a good laugh. To share moments, and memories on any time of day. When moments become lost moments everything else goes a different path. The path you did not expect.

Life becomes dull and boring.

Nothing can or would stay the same as from the start in any relationship. To keep a good marriage one has to work on it. To have a strongly built relationship hard work is required to keep it way.

Bond sacredly.

Partners don't necessarily have to go every where together, or be together all the time. Sometimes it would be nice to have your partner by your side. To be hand in hand or a simple enjoyment of an evening seated side by side.

In many marriages love doesn't fade, just the moments you yearn for each day. If faded moments are not alive in marriages, partners can become lonely and live without the other easily.

There is no companionship.

Affections can feel dead on the outside. Though one can still feel alive on the inside. Partners grow apart, and can feel most distant.

Treat moments in a marriage special

Love makes you happy

In most cases, it is the lack of interests that tear them apart.

When partners feel the lack of love they move away from each other, and find love elsewhere. In cases where the couples still love each other they stay together and expect their partner to co-operate to their needs.

In the process the needs of the other falls away unnoticed. Faded moments makes partners go into different directions to find their happiness, or to make their own lives.

  • For example:

She would live her life to the fullest while he would focus on his own like, with whatever interests he has. The couple don't get to spend time together instead enjoy good moments separately. The actual reason for finding her happiness in her own way is to continue living. She can see he had stopped living his life.

She doesn't want to be in that way. The continuous complaining is not going to make things right for her. No one is being dishonest , and there is no loss of trust. They love, respect, trust, and communicate with each other all the time. The moments are not there anymore. It is sad to see such changes in most marriages.

People don't have perfect lives, but when it comes to marriages, without great moments it can make a partner feel unloved, and less-cared for their whole lives. You can't always want things to go your way. If love is not faded other moments could keep you together longer. It depends on how couples approach their lifestyles to make time for that someone special.

  • Time is precious, and everyday should be treated as a good one.

One day your partner won't be there and life must go on. In these cases, one can feel broken up and can have many regrets. Most married partners take each other for granted, this is what spoils a good marriage.

  • What do you think can keep a marriage alive?

Marriage is a great Commitment

What are the faded moments in your marriage?

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© 2013 Devika Primić


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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Good Day Indian Chef you are so right clapping involves two hands as a marriage needs both partners to work their hardest. Thank you for sharing your direct thoughts here well said.

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      Indian Chef 

      4 years ago from New Delhi India

      as a proverb in Hindi which roughly translated as you can not clap with one hand, same way marriage can not go on if only one partner is giving effort and not another. Very useful hub.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi CraftytotheCore you are so right about having the man that loves you me too I have a man that truly loves me the little things we do together or moments we spend together makes it all so perfect. Thank you for sharing a valuable comment have a nice day.

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      4 years ago

      Very informative Hub and great perspective. I like that picture above, snappy ever after. LOL When I married my ex, I thought it would be forever. It was really disappointing when he changed. We both wanted children, but after having them, he wasn't interested in being a dad.

      I'm so happy I'm remarried now. But looking back, there were warning signs that my ex was losing interest. At first I blamed myself, but then came to realize that it was him. He is a totally different person now. His style has changed, he has physically changed, and he turned vegetarian when he was once a regular sushi eater. It never made sense, but we've moved on, and I'm so glad to have found a man that loves me. :D

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      moonlake so true thins have changed and so much is not noticed about each other, thanks for commenting and vote up.

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      4 years ago from America

      I think couples have so much going on now days it's hard to stay connected and they have to work on it. Your hub.

      Why The Most Faded Moments In Marriages is very interesting, voted up.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Vinaya Ghimire , married couples require lots of understanding and communication, thanks for stopping by

    • Vinaya Ghimire profile image

      Vinaya Ghimire 

      5 years ago from Nepal

      Since I'm a single, don't know what goes in married life, however, I felt enlightened to read this article.

    • rajan jolly profile image

      Rajan Singh Jolly 

      5 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      It does take both the partners to stop a marriage fading. Thanks for stressing this point, Devika.

      voted up and interesting.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thanks for commenting faded moments are often not taken to heart

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      5 years ago

      DDE...very informative hub with lots of helpful tips about keeping the spark in your relationship. Romantic gestures can, and often do, get overlooked and yet they are so important...thank you for sharing:-))

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you for always commenting on my Hubs have a pleasant day

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      Martin Kloess 

      5 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for this.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Wow! I am impressed by your comment thanks for the many honest comments

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      Shining Irish Eyes 

      5 years ago from Upstate, New York

      There are some key and telling sentences here. I commend you for an insightful, emotional and honest article. It takes two to keep those fires burning. No one individual can keep a relationship together. Team work, commitment and respect.

      I send blessings to you.


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