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7 Best Ways for Sustaining Intimacy and Romance
Generating Intimacy and Romance
Generating intimacy and romance in a marriage cannot occur without both couples investing considerable time and effort into bringing out the newness in each other. Expressing appreciation, inspiration, adventure as well as trust and respect at all times will go a long way in creating oneness and constant.
The lack of intimacy and romance in a great number of marriages continues on a downward spiral. Thousands of marriages all across the nation are on the rocks due to a number of factors, including busy-ness, selfish distractions and unresolved feelings of anger and fear. But the lack of intimacy and romance in a relationship leaves both partners exceedingly empty and searching for fulfillment. As a result, a visit to divorce court could be right around the corner.
A marriage without romance and intimacy is a dead marriage. The purpose of marriage is to create an increasing oneness between each other. Every move and touch becomes more and more significant. Loving deeper and deeper is a requirement for marriages which desire to leave a legacy for loved ones to brag about from generation to generation. I know couples who are well in their eighties whose love for one another is stronger than it was when the couple first met. The obtainment of such great love should be the goal of every marriage.
Greater intimacy and romance in a marriage becomes a model for all the couples who are watching the relationship as well as those who are wondering if marriage is worthwhile. Sadly, in today’s society a trip to divorce court has become an alternative after every little disagreement or lack of feeling for the other person. For example, some claim they have outgrown their partners while others claim in- reconcilable difference as the means for filing for a divorce. Thousands of couples are willing to endure the ups and downs of a marriage. The phrase “UNTIL DEATH DO US PART” has become just an empty and meaningless phrase.
However, if a marriage is going to become a living legacy, a couple must earn it every day. The Disconnection mindset must be eradicated forever. Intimacy and romance must become an ever increasing practice, regardless of off and on feelings. Each partner must speak life into the other for the sake of nurturing and bringing fourth each other’s gifts and talents. Each must become one another’s hero.
The intimacy and romance in any marriage, in which the couple is willing to invest can be greatly multiplied by practicing seven effective rituals. In order to stay committed to these rituals, a couple must release many distractions that may interfere with the growth of the relationships. Distractions such as living on twitter, Facebook, and watching too much sports as well as hanging out with friends must be modified when it comes to growing a powerful marriage.
The Seven Rituals for Sustaining Intimacy and Romance
Write romantic poems
It is alright to purchase a good romantic card once in a while, but nothing expresses the words that come directly from the heart. The sincere words from our hearts allow our loved one to see into our souls where truth dwells
Rating Your Romance and Intimacy
How Strong is the Romance and Intimacy in Your Marriage?
Speak Romantically to the Other
Nothing is more powerful than spoken words. When we speak uplifting, appreciative words directly into the heart of our partner, intimacy is accelerated. Don’t let feelings of inadequacy or shame keep you from verbally giving your heart to your spouse. You don’t have to be Romeo or Juliet. Just be yourself.
Do Dinner under Candle lights
When is the last time that each of you went out for a nice romantic dinner? Don’t just wait to your anniversary to practice this ritual. Do it as often as possible. Rekindle those times and feelings when you first start dating. You must keep that sense of newness stirring in your relationship.
Spend time walking away from it all. Get away and forget about the daily grind. Take long leisurely walks around the block, in the park or along the beach. You don’t have to be on a vacation to appreciate the beauty of the surroundings near you.
Making Everyday Special
A Week of Romance/Initmacy
Morning or Evening Walk
Meet for Lunch
Write a Poem
Dedicate a Song
Say,"I Believe in You"
Say," I love You"
Read a Romatic Book
Watch a Romantic Movie
Breakfast in Bed
Visit Art Musuem
Go for Boat Ride
Growing Your Marriage
The greatest gifts you can give to a partner in marriage are kindness and forgiveness, which captivates the heart and soul of an individual and draws him deeper toward you.
Surprise with Gifts
Giving gifts never grow old. Surprise your spouse with that particular gift that you know that will enliven his or her life. You can get an ideal of what your partner wants just by listening to their day to day conversations. You may not be able to purchase that special car or ideal home for your better half, but you can surprise them with the little things such as the watch that he has been talking about or the elegant dress she has been saving up for
A Night in an Elegant Hotel
You don’t have to go out of town to make reservations for a hotel stay. Forsake the usual. Give yourselves a new environment where you can hide-away and watch your favorite movie, go swimming, exercise and have breakfast in bed. Random adventures such as these go a long way in strengthening the quality of your marriage.
Serve the Other for a Day
Pick a day in which you serve your spouse exclusively. Suspend all distractions for that day just to focus on him or her. Refuse to let them do anything. Serve them with all year heart, mind and soul. Play the hero. Rescue them from all their worries and cares. Couples who do this discover what really important thing in their lives is: having the opportunity to love and build up one another in love.
These rituals must become a lifestyle if a marriage is to become great. Once the habit of practicing theses rituals become natural, the depth of love and devotion can only increase. It will be hard to imagine being with someone else if commitment to these rituals are taken seriously.
Read! Read! Read! Nothing is more important than keeping romance and intimacy alive than by reading great books on relationship building. In your readings, you will find people who are going through many of the same challenges you face with your marriage. New ideas and refreshing comes through staying informed about new ideas and findings in marriage enhancement. Remember, the practice of intimacy and romance are top priority in the making of a great marriage. Even when the other partner has slackened in his devotion to the other, one must push through these up and down of marriage in order to rekindle its fire.