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My BBFF: God’s Gift To Me
BBFF is my version for the common bff term that I think originated as a cyber-language. BBFF stands for Bungisngis Best Friends Forever. The term bungisngis is both a Tagalog and Cebuano term which means laughing and giggling like young girls.
Once upon a time, in 1995, I met Engineer Veronica Malano in Systems Plus Computer College where we both were newly hired College Instructors in that school. My daughter was just 14 years old at that time while she was still single. The friendship had started during break time where both of us smoked in a cafe across the school premise. We talked about a lot of things. She was the most curious person I ever met and an extraordinarily attentive person to my story.
A good listener and intelligent at that, it took just a short time to break the ice that we became regular friends.
Yes that was a very long time ago, 20 years to be exact, my two children are now both married and I have 5 grandchildren, the eldest of whom is going to be an Architect this school year’s graduation day; I became a widow twice, married again; she married and became a widow too, and we are still here, still laughing our lives together.
In every turn and twist of our lives in all areas my best friend is present. If there is any person who can witness in detail what has been happening in my life all these years and why they happen, my bbff is the right person to be asked and vice versa.
There were lots of problems along the way to the point that we were not any more in speaking terms for years because we thought one is so stupid to make wrong decisions that led to the difficult situation in any of us in a given time but we realized that we were actually capable of going out from any labyrinth we had got into at a time. This only strengthened our faith in each other and the friendship resumed and flourishes; with a refreshed respect on each other.
We had been into painful personal life experiences…death of love ones, illness, broken relationships in romance, quivering job situations, financial difficulties but we both passed all the tests with flying colors and it is my bbff who know everything and we congratulate each other in every turn and twist of fate. We sometimes celebrate together special family occasions. We can laugh everything away after every storm and celebrate life with more hope afterwards.
Now that we are both old, I am 60, she is 58, there are no more worries and problems, imagined or actual that can affect us, each of us can remind each other of the worst things that had happened in the past which we passed with flying colors. After all we have a common understanding in the statement “This too will pass”. Everything in life will pass, good or bad, but a strong friendship that we have will stay to remind us of how strong we are to face every storm that came along. Now it’s laughing time for us thus the term “bungisngis” added to the bff.
My bbff is truly God’s gift to me, a symbol of God’s love to make my life more colorful and meaningful…she is an angel in my life.