My Best Friend Died Today : A True Story
Lorena Kay Lund
04/15/1967 - 01/09/2012
Love and Blessings to my friend Lorena Kay Lund : Who died this evening in Phoenix, Arizona. She will be missed and loved by all who knew her. But now will be with Xena and Harmony in the next world. You were my best friend.
I do believe she really will be happier, her life had not been the kindest. She tried really hard as long as I knew her, but her life was far from happy. She had two dogs she loved, but they both died of old age in the last year. She and I were close, but she was never really happy. I think this is the right thing.
I wish more of you could have met her, but such kind words from my friends means a lot. It is sad, don't worry I will be okay. Life is what we have to share together. Love is the Law. Blessed Be.
You were my best friend and will be in my heart always.
I hope that in the next life or the here after, you were able to find some peace. Your life brought much more happiness into my world than I ever could have dreamed. I loved you.
For those who knew her, loved her, lost her, and have now found this webpage, this is to honor Lorena's memory and it is also for you to remember her.
She touched us all forever.
A LORENA UPDATE: LORENA WAS TAKEN TO THE ER ON FRIDAY MORNING. AFTER HAVING TO BE RESUSCITATED 4 TIMES THEY GOT A HEARTBEAT AND PUT HER ON A VENTILATOR. SHE HAS SINCE GONE INTO CARDIAC ARREST 1 MORE TIME. AS OF THIS EVENING SHE HAS LITTLE TO NO BRAIN ACTIVITY, A VERY WEAK HEARTBEAT AND CAN ONLY BREATHE ON THE VENTILATOR. AS OF TOMORROW MORNING SHE WILL BE TAKEN OFF OF LIFE SUPPORT.
This was posted on Facebook for Family and Friends of Lorena Kay Lund on 01/08/2012.
It was the last communication that would be posted on her Facebook wall from her family concerning her death.
In some ways I knew her better than her own family, we had all our karma and things said in life. We had no issues unresolved, it was a great friendship. That is rare to have no regrets.
I guess you take chances sometimes and they work out. If I told you how we me, most would be shocked that we became so close. It was a friendship forged in honesty, we knew who each other really is...not what we wanted the other to be. We had one or two hard moments, the rest was pretty amazing. Like a sister, girlfriend, lover and friend all in one. And she was the smartest damn woman I have yet met...
Despite being a big girly dork.
She loved to do huge jigsaw puzzles, glue them to canvases and frame them as art. She had several dozen from her life. She meditated by doing beading. She had thousands of boxes of beads seaparated to make jewelry when she felt like relaxing.
She liked reality TV, news, had her fave soaps and liked Grunge rock. Alice in Chains was her favorite. She was a recluse, it was by chance we even met. You could pass her on the street and never meet her. She was a person that is always walking the other way.
She was born an Aries on Tax Day.
Her spirit was free thinking, aggressive, thoughtful and proud. Her freewill and intellect was a force of nature. Her sexuality and physical body was beyond naturally in tune with its animal magnetism. Her ability to lust for knowledge and still succumb to her higher self, made her the most challenging human being I have ever known.
She was wild, womanly, magical, mature, innovative, creative, passionate, funny, dirty minded, loud mouthed and honest. She was worldly, witty and wise, but not opposed to using bribery, blackmail and blowjobs if necessary. She was good hearted by nature, liked sharing her thoughts, loved being naked and would open your mind, without changing it. She was my muse, my mistress and my best friend, even sometimes with benefits.
No one word could describe her and no one person could try.
Lorena was if anything a lady.
Lorena was very impacted by the death of Lane Staley from Alice in Chains and the song ''WOULD"
- This song is about going through rehab and its aftermath. The last part of the lyrics wonders if the future is any more promising.
- Guitarist Jerry Cantrell wrote this song for the late lead singer of Mother Love Bone, Andrew Wood, a very influential figure in the Seattle music scene. Wood died of a heroin overdose in 1990. Two of his band mates in Mother Love Bone, Stone Gossard and Jeff Ament, went on to form Pearl Jam. (thanks Live Freak - Beirut, Lebanon)
- This first appeared on the soundtrack to the 1992 movie Singles, where Alice In Chains appeared as a bar band.
- Sadness and drug addiction played a big part in the band's music for the rest of their career. Their songs often reflected the life of lead singer Layne Staley, who died of a drug overdose in 2002.
- Cantrell sang the intro on this. Lead singer Layne Staley had to convince him to do it.
A LORENA UPDATE: LORENA OFFICIALLY PASSED AWAY WHEN LIFE SUPPORT WAS DISCONNECTED ON MONDAY JANUARY 9, 2012 @ 12:05 WITH FAMILY AROUND HER. SHE HAD STOPPED BREATHING ON HER OWN THE NIGHT BEFORE. LORENA FINALLY HAD THE PEOPLE WHO SHE CARED ABOUT WITH HER TOGETHER FOR HER FINAL DAY.
No one who is remembered in the hearts, minds and souls of those who walked the Earth with them are ever not with us. This is so very true, it is the journey of life that is important. Love is the Law...
FOR THOSE INTERESTED. THIS IS A POEM I WROTE FOR LORENA AND PUBLISHED ON HUBPAGES WHILE SHE WAS STILL ALIVE ON 10/11/2010. IT IS TITLED ' OUT OF MY BODY '.
GOODBYE MY FRIEND. MY LOVE. XOXO BLAKE4D
This is the last email message Lorena sent me online to my Hotmail account before she left for her stay in Prescott for rehab. We spent her birthday in a motel for a chance to hang out and relax for once. I had just got my big tax refund and we got a room for her birthday on Tax Day April 15th.
She wrote me, " I'm really sorry. My mother called right before I was gonna call you. I didn't answer her call but checked for voice mail. She said she was on her way to Phoenix because she thought that I left a message this morning. I called her right back to tell her that she was mistaken and not to come here. Freaked me out! We talked for over an hour. She needed reassurance that I am OK after leaving the program early. I am very sorry. Let me know when you are home via Facebook. I will be online or checking for messages often. Hopefully U will be awake."
This is the last private IM Lorena sent me online via Facebook. It was just two weeks before Christmas 2011, which we spent together in Phoenix.
She was having a bad day upon returning to her rehab stay in Prescott, " Hey you. Long time, no talk. Got my phone taken away again last week (though this time not my faullt. A couple of other girls blew it so EVERYONE lost phones, computers, cars etc.. ) Believe it or not I didn't give them my computer so I am using it now to type this message. The house phone is almost always busy cuz there are three new girls here and no one has their phone. I really hope we get them back soon! I have lots more to tell you but I will wait til we are talking on the phone. Ill try calling you tomorrow. I love you and miss you!"
This is the final obituary posted in the Arizona Republic obituaries:
Lund, Lorena ... 44, of Phoenix passed away on January, 9, 2012. She had just completed a rehabilitation program at Decision Point, Prescott Az. She was born April 15th, 1967 in San Francisco, Ca. She was preceded in death by her two beloved dogs, Harmony, and Xena. She was going forward with her new life in a career as professional dog groomer starting January 9th, 2012. She was surrounded by her family at the time of her passing. Lorena is survived by her mother, Genette Griffin, father, Robert Lund, step-mother, Margereta Lund, Brother, Kevin Lund, and sisters, Frances Berg, and Elizabeth Dowell. At the wishes of her family there will no public service.
Her family, friends and everyone who knew her will miss her dearly.
Since first publishing this on the weekend of Lorena's death, there has been some issues with friends, family, and others that may have known her. A few of these have felt the need to post comments below, some of which are nice and others that are not. It was not my intention to make a hub that was glorifying the loss of Lorena, drawing sympathy towards me, or to cast anything in a negative light about her life or death. This is a tribute to her life and having known her through the last eight years before her death, I know what her thoughts about such would be. I am not claiming to have known anything except who she really was. That was always enough in our friendship, brief as it may have been. I will not censor or edit any comments left below, but try to remember her life and not focus on the past. Anything else is not hers to worry about any longer. She is at peace somewhere, somehow, and no longer worried about this world and its problems. To the right is a picture from her childhood, adolescence. Before anything had taken her innocence or grown into adulthood. She was happy. That is what she wanted all through life. Just to be happy.
Goodbye Lorena. You will be missed.
This is my favorite picture of Lorena Kay Lund eating an apple.
Lorena Loved Music More Than Anything in Life. so Here Is a Song for Her. Blessed Be to You My Friend.
© 2012 Blake Ford Hall