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My Ex Is My Next
This post started with me listening to Angie Stone's "Back-up Plan" (video of live performance below). According to Angie, a back-up plan is another man you go to in the event things don't work out in your current relationship. Well of course, I don't have a back-up 'man', but I definitely have a back-up 'woman'- my ex.
Angie Stone Back-up Plan
My ex is one of the coolest chicks I have ever met. First, she comes from a great family. They are the type of people who find a cause to celebrate life and family every day. They don't let a child's or adult's birthday pass by without the entire family coming together to rejoice. Holidays are just birthdays on steroids for them. The value they place on family is ingrained in every person's heart including my ex. Also my ex is a hardworking woman- so sexy. But even sexier is that when she is done making the money, she doesn't mind spending the money. As a self-professed gold digger, I like that. (We'll get to my gold digging in a later blog.) Lastly, have you ever stood next to someone who you felt truly complimented you? My ex is an immaculate dresser. She could give Jay-Z swag tips. When I walk in a room with her, I feel like the first thing people may notice is that we are a lesbian couple. The second thing is that she is looking good from head to toe. I love going out with her.
But let's not forget that she is my ex for a reason. Remember in last week’s blog I mentioned that I had a drinking problem at a time. Well, you attract what you are. My ex had a severe problem with alcohol also. On alcohol she became a drunken hot mess- staggering about, becoming a little too friendly, and being an absolute embarrassment to the lesbian community. Although she was a hard worker, she was definitely not an educated worker, which was most evident in her speech. As a then English major, that drove me insane? Did I mention that somewhere in the midst of our relationship she became more masculine than many men? When we started dating, she was only masculine when we went to the club. Well, once she came out to her family, she had nothing holding her back from becoming who she really wanted to be. I like feminine women, so that was a definite turn-off. Perhaps the straw that broke the camel’s back was my lack of orgasm. This woman looks like she can put it down, but she didn't even know how to go down. Just recall the growling man from "Waiting to Exhale" who Whitney Houston's character had sex with, that was her.
But we are both very different people now. I don't know that it can work or will work, but if my wife and I should part, I would like to explore my options.