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My Life is Not Your Story to Tell

Updated on August 27, 2017
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I grew up in a small town called Whitesburg, Georgia. As a poor Woodard girl, I had to make my own living and opportunities.

Are You Writing a Book About Me

Is that juicy nugget of information about me nagging at you, begging you to release it to the rest of your friends and the rest of the world? Do you feel the urge to gossip about me behind my back to make yourself little more attractive? It might seem like a temptingly good idea at the time, to dump me right in the middle of a funny tale or an embarrassing moment but your friend won't think so. In fact, your friend will be questioning your loyalty along with your lack of tact, wondering where the love you are supposed to have for your sister?

Some of the best books are biographies that tell the life stories of other people. However, I don't want you telling my story. First of all, you don't have all the facts. Your stories about me are one-sided, offensive, and judgmental. Gossiping shows others your insecurity and mean-spiritedness.

Here’s a tip! Get a life and stop talking about mine.

Isn’t it kind of silly to think that tearing someone else down builds you up?

— – Sean Covey

What Does The Bible say?

"God is just: He will pay back trouble to those who trouble you and give relief to you who are troubled, and to us as well. This will happen when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven in blazing fire with His powerful angels."

2 Thes. 1:6-7

Stop Talking About Me Behind My Back!

Gossip Hurts - Gossip is an unconstrained and often derogatory conversation about other people and can involve betraying a confidence and spreading sensitive information or judgments that are hurtful.

Is it always wrong to talk about others? The key is to look at one’s intent in discussing other people and relationships.

If you talk about your friends, coworker, or family member behind their back, think about how it is likely to make them feel. Before you pass along one more morsel of information, stop and think about what you're doing. Then make a pact with yourself to stop talking about people behind their back for good.

Speak No Evil

Research shows that individuals who gossip the most have very high levels of anxiety. They are not particularly attractive because they cannot be trusted. Spreading private information or negative judgments is painful to others and reflects poorly on the gossiper.

Counterfeit Friends

Why Do People Gossip? Facts!

  • To feel superior - People who don’t feel good about themselves temporarily feel better when they judge others negatively.
  • Out of boredom - When people can’t generate interesting discussions based on knowledge or ideas, gossip can rouse people’s interest.
  • Out of envy - People gossip to hurt those whose popularity, talents, or lifestyle they envy.
  • To feel like part of the group - People gossip to feel as though they belong to the group. When the base of acceptance being “in on a secret,” it is not based on a person’s identity. It is a maliciousness way to earn friendships.
  • For attention - A person gets to be the center of attention temporarily while talking about somebody else's life. Spreading gossip or rumors is like buying attention; it’s temporary and has little foundation.
  • Out of anger or unhappiness - A person can derive a sense of retribution with remarks.

Gossip Quotes

  • It’s sad how some people are so jealous and intimidated by you that they only have negative things to say when they know absolutely nothing about you.
  • Those who talk about others have lots to hide about themselves.
  • I don’t trust anyone who talks bad about someone else to me; they probably talk behind my back too.
  • For someone who hates my guts, you sure talk about me a lot! Love me or hate me, it’s still an obsession.
  • Rumors: are carried by haters, spread by fools, and accepted by idiots.
  • O, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice deceiving!

Food For Thought

"Gossip is just a tool to distract people who have nothing better to do with feeling jealous of those few of us remaining with noble hearts."
Anna Godbersen

"How would your life be different if you walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day you speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same."
Steve Maraboli

"Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people." Eleanor Roosevelt

Bitter Sweet - Conclusion - Counterfeit Friends Are Poison

Lots of times you can just sit back and look and see who your real friends are. Because lots of people pretend to be your friend but are not, I'm just saying, "Observe" and you can tell who the real ones are and who are just a counterfeit.

In other words, hate me all you want, try to start a crusade and try to recruit others to hate me, I couldn't care less, if there's one thing we can agree on is that I am not a fake friend collector.

I'm no longer surprised nor offended by individuals who use my life story for their pleasure.

Remember Karma! Everything that meant for harm for you will return to sender ten-fold. Now keep looking up and not around.

© 2017 Rosa Ann Crowder

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      Benita roberts 4 months ago

      Very good article sis

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      Misty Anderson 5 months ago

      Tell them (those who run their mouth about you) to kiss your a-s-s.

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      Threekeys 5 months ago from Australia

      How are you going? I am so sorry for this situation upon you. I wish I could make it better for you.

      May I ask you something? Could you do something about the initial perpetrator? Is there anyone to trust or befriend now? Or, did you have to leave the place you live in?