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Need A Confidence Booster?

Updated on October 31, 2011

There are times in our lives that we humans get into a depressing mode which resulted from us analyzing our downfalls and what we seem to lack. It seems to become apparent to us one way or another- and we start to questions ourselves, or abilities, and start to think about just how limited we are.

This depressing mode can create an action- a rippling effect if you will, in our lives. And then after awhile we start to find more problems, become even more depressed, and/or take our anger out on ourselves, friends, family, or significant others.

Some time ago, I was sitting on a bus across from this gorgeous lady sitting next to her friend. She had long straight hair, a pretty smile, and a glowing complexion. So I started strategizing on how I would approach. And then this very tall, strong guy walked over and started talking to her. After he left, she commented to her friend… “now that’s the type of guy I like…tall, muscular build.” Now I’m barely clipping 5’10 in height, and the guy that approached had to be at the very least 6’3- 6’4. On top of that, at the time, I had lost a lot of weight/muscle due to personal stress…so I came up a bit short in that category also.

Needless to say, this caused a high amount of emotional stress. And though I didn’t approach her, I not only felt the sting of rejection, but a crushing blow to my self esteem. I became depressed. And it had an effect on me to the point where I couldn’t sleep much that night. The next day, I became a bit angry with my height and physical build. And when I noticed a guy walking past me outside that was a bit taller, I had a smug look on my face. This is the rippling effect that I was talking about. So clearly I knew that I couldn’t continue to feel that way. Therefore things had to change.

If you find yourself in a similar predicament that I was in, where you became depressed, discouraged, or disappointed because you felt that you’re not blessed with the talent, money, height, or looks that others seem to have, then just know, there are always things that you can do….

1. Don’t focus so much on your limitations…but look at all the positive things about yourself. If necessary create a list of 5-10 things that you like/love about yourself. Realize that you have something special to offer the world, to a woman/man, or relationship. You have to believe that you’re worthy of love, attention, or to have your own golden opportunities. You are in this world for a reason…realize how special and unique you are.

2. Recall past positive experiences. Start thinking more on a positive level. Recall the times you’ve felt happy. Think about how you’ve attracted someone that you had interest in, was able to get positive feedback from that person, and you’ve managed to date or get into a relationship with him/her. Or think of some goal you’ve achieved (whether big or small) that had a huge impact on your life. Realize that you are still capable of doing incredible things- and attracting amazing people/opportunities. Do the best you can do, maximize your overall image and abilities- and just continue to believe, have faith, and consistently put in effort.

3. Seek help. Don’t go through things alone. Seek out help from a positive family member, friend, or therapist that can help you through the tough times. Whether you need a shoulder to cry on or just someone to listen… be sure to seek out someone that could be that person that’s there for you in your time of need.


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    • loveguru23 profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Amis 

      7 years ago from Queens, NY

      Hi kimh039. Thanks for posting such positive comments! I'm glad you've enjoyed the article. :^)

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      Kim Harris 

      7 years ago

      This is awesome, loveguru23. I like how you shared your own personal story and then provided us, the reader, with the 3 solutions you had to work through the hard way! They apply to anyone who has every felt rejected or slighted too. Thanks:)


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