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How to Make Yourself More Attractive for Your Husband
Make Yourself Attractive for Your Husband
When your husband was just your boyfriend and you were eager to impress him, you spent hours debating what to wear for a date. You simply wanted to look your best and nothing less would do. And when he appreciated the effort and complimented you, it was well worth it. But now he has married you, you are careless about your look. Do you still love your partner? And he still loves you? There should be no reason why he shouldn’t, afterward that was why he married. Or is his love for you dwindling? Most men are attracted to women who are pretty, and dainty, and possess appealing feminine charms. I presume you want your partner still to be as well groomed and attractive as when you fell in love with him. a good appearance is at a premium everywhere.
Many women complain that after settling into married life, their husbands don’t compliment them or they don’t get the same attention they received when they were courting. But did you ever stop and think whether you pay the same attention to detail that you did when you were dating? When you first met, you ensured that you looked your best. A few years after, maybe because of caring for your kids and you got busy handling this with your work schedules, you tend to neglect your look. Women often get caught up with juggling household responsibilities and a career and often, dressing to get their husband's approval doesn’t really figure very high on their list of priorities. And you have put on some pounds as well for lack of exercise. Your partner might still find you attractive but some might not. And you want him to make that effort for you; you need to do the same for him. You want to boastfully tell your friends,” Meet my husband.”
I am confident that you appreciate the necessity for proper dressing. Don’t think because you’ve got married, you can now slob around the house in evil-fitting clothes, picking teeth. It doesn’t cost much to be neat. The shabby-looking wife’s appearance says negative things about her. She portrays her as careless, inefficient, unimportant, lazy, and unhappy. A wife should look nice for her husband. There are still standards to keep up, and you owe it to your husband to show that you care about staying as attractive as you can for him. He will feel valued and respected when he knows that you took time and care to improve your look for him. Your husband will obviously be stimulated by what he sees.
My motive here is not to make you have an inordinate focus on looks. My goal is to make you appreciate the need for you to look your best for your husband. Occasionally ask your husband for his opinion about what he will like seeing you wear. He might surprise you with his good taste. It is a matter of showing your partner respect by taking their view into account. It is him who’s going to be looking at you most. While you should strive to look your best, the fact remains that your outward appearance is simply package that should lead to the valuable gift of a virtuous woman inside. The summary is to keep a balanced perspective because, “Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” (Proverb 31:30)
Here are some areas to consider as you care for your body and develop beautification plan.
Stay well groomed. There are a lot of aspects of your appearance that you cannot control. Luckily, however, attraction is based more on those parts of your appearance that you can control. Staying neat, clean, and paying attention to your appearance will attract your husband more effectively than undertaking any drastic things. Be sure that you:
- Brush your teeth twice a day
- Shower regularly
- Shave or trim as appropriate
Good looks depend on the maintenance of sound physical health. Do what you can to improve yourself. Look your best by taking care of yourself. If you look your best, it is not only your husband that will benefit. You will feel better, more confident and assured. If you are overweight find an exercise that suits you. You will feel better physically, mentally, and emotionally after a good exercise. Studies show that exercise increases the endorphins (the feel good hormones) in the brain, producing a natural emotional lift. It increases the flow of blood and oxygen to the brain cells. Have a workout routine that you can do at least three times a week. Don’t use lack of time as excuse; you can start with short, thirty minutes. You don’t need to join expensive aerobics class if you don’t have the wherewithal. Do some floor exercise when you wake in the morning. A daily walk of from one to two miles should always be taken if health is to be preserved. In addition to the daily walk, some simple gymnastic exercises can be practices just before retiring at night. The slightest of these exercises will aid in strengthening the muscles, and assist the circulation of the blood.
Diet is one of the most important considerations in the preservation of health and good looks. Try a better eating habit. Eat healthy meals and avoid excess salt and sugar. Eat more natural, non-processed foods. Many physicians believe that to keep the body system in healthy condition, we should drink a lot of water every day. The water helps to carry impurities of the body off and cleanse the inside of the body.
When you are asleep, nature can do more for you than in a waking state. You are completely in her hands and she takes the opportunity to build up your worn-out tissues, by strengthening your nerves, and by putting the entire machinery of your body in correct running order. This reinforcement depends largely upon a sufficient amount of sleep.
The frequent cleansing of your body is important to physical well-being. The skin is a porous tissue which, day and night, is in a state of activity, taking in certain materials and throwing out others. The waste material consists mainly of carbonic acid, and of matter useless to the system and most poisonous when allowed to remain upon the body. The skin also takes in oxygen from the atmosphere, through the pores. Therefore, unless the entire surface of the body is cleansed, the pores will become clogged with impure matter, whose accumulation will finally exclude the oxygen necessary for the preservation of health. The daily bathing of the entire body is requisite for perfect health.
Update your hairstyle
Your hairdo is what people notice first when they look at you. It frames your face, so choosing the best cut for your facial features is important. When last were you at your hairdresser. Most hairdressers are trained to distinguish the best hairstyles for various face shapes.
Update your makeup
Use make-up to enhance and draw out your God-given beauty. I don’t mean you necessarily have to spend hours every morning or any time you want to go for some engagement putting on makeup. Makeup is not meant to alter your look completely, it is meant only to enhance your look.. There are beauticians whose business it to help you look your best. While most people focus on their faces, I want to mention how important it is to take care of their skins. A gentle cleanser and a good moisturizer are valuable tools for keeping your face looking fresh and youthful. You could consider having a facial.
Don’t forget your smile
A smile is the best way to express the joy within us. A smile is contagious and is an inexpensive way to improve looks. Zimmerman wrote, “The universe pays every man in his own coin; if you smile, it smiles upon you in return, if you frown, you will be frowned at.” A smile can take a woman and infuse her with great beauty. Certainly we can’t smile all the time, but we should try to wear a smile most times. Don’t go around looking like you have just sucked a lemon. Smile and the world and your husband will smile back at you. Mother Teresa said, “The biggest disease today is not leprosy or tuberculosis but rather the feeling of being unwanted.”
Laugh together. As you grow older, you might start treating life with a greater degree of seriousness than you did as a young newlywed. Be serious when seriousness is called for, but make sure that you still know how to laugh and make sure your husband knows that you can still laugh, too. In order to keep your sense of humor alive in your marriage, you can do the following:
- Develop inside jokes
- Go to a live comedy show
- Rent a funny movie
- Let go of your inhibitions and act goofy or silly sometimes.
Check your wardrobe
Dress like today is important, and then it will do wonders to your self-esteem, your self-respect and your self-confidence. It is really not hard to choose something to wear that is clean and smart and looks flattering on you. You don’t have to spend a lot of money on clothes to look your best. When your budget permits, shop for new outfits in colors and styles that look best on you. For your dresses go for quality but always try to get the best price possible. In fact, the key to a good wardrobe is not having more clothes, but having the right clothes. The love of dressing well is inherent in most women. A Chinese problem says, “Three-tenths of good looks are due to nature, seven-tenths to dress.” Whether you agree with this view is another matter. Nancy Stafford wrote, “We need beauty in our lives - We are born with a deep longing for and appreciation of beauty. Our spirits are drawn to it. It calls to us, nourishes us, stimulates us.” Style is another. Often we see an outfit in a magazine or on a friend and assume it would look good on us. Not necessarily. Know your own style. What fits your personality?
Buy with him in mind. Once in a while, buy some sexy lingerie or a similarly sultry piece of clothing. Show it to your husband and let him know that you made the purchase with him in mind. You can also consider purchasing something eye-catching in his favorite color.The way you deliver the message can have just as big an impact as the message itself. For example, casually slip your newest piece of lingerie into his hand, then silently walk away with a slight sway in your hips. Your body language can convey more meaning than the words alone would.
Project self-confidence. If you don't love yourself, your lack of confidence and self-esteem may bleed into the interactions you have with your husband. Confidence is an attractive quality, and conversely, a lack of confidence can make you seem unattractive. Tell yourself that you are sexy, attractive, and interesting. Focus on your favorite qualities about yourself, and remember that your husband fell in love with you for a good reason.Speaking confidently and having a confident, upright posture will help you demonstrate your self-esteem. If you are unable to remove the negative thoughts you have about yourself, consider taking up practices like meditation or therapy for a little extra help.
Be supportive. Pay attention to your husband's needs and desires. Give him emotional and physical support when he's feeling low, even if he isn't honest about needing that support. Make sure your husband can feel love emanating from you through the sort of treatment you give him.
- Take an interest in his hobbies. You don't need to force yourself to love everything he feels passionately about, but encourage him to talk to you about his passions by being an active listener.
- Do something special for him every once in a while. Plan a surprise party on his birthday or cook his favorite meal. Offer to pack him a lunch or give him a shoulder massage after an especially long, tiresome day at work.
- Show sympathy if he is having a hard time.
Indulge each other's sexual fantasies. Make sure your sex life doesn't remain dull or routine. Ask your husband about his sexual desires, and tell him about yours. Support one another in bringing your sexual desires to life. Even if you might not have kinks to share, you can still add spice to your marriage by shaking things up in the bedroom:
- Try a new sexual position
- Rent a hotel room and order room service
- Hire a babysitter to watch the kids overnight so you don't have to worry about being interrupted
- Massage one another
- Wear new sexy lingerie
There’s not always much time in the mornings when you have a busy life, but you can still dress up for your partner on special occasions, such as birthdays, dinner dates, parties etc. every once in a while you can still spend some time in front of the mirror like you did when you first met, and make sure your partner can feel really lucky to be married to you and to stay committed to you.