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"Never Talk About Your Pass Relationships To your new Love interest"
Never Talk about your pass relationships with your new love interst"
"Never Talk About Your pass Relationships with Your New Love Interest"
We all have had failed or broken relationships, but talking about them to your new love is a detriment to you and your relationship, because the information you give out may be used against you at a later date. Through life's experiences, I've learned that telling your new love , about you old relationship makes us vulnerable to our new love. I have suffered many oppositions set forth by me, being to honest about pass relationships or pass loves. In telling your new love of all your hurts and pains that your pass loves out you through, your hope is that they will stay a way from those same errors; but it doesn't happen. What happen is your new love , might use some of the same tactics that you told them about that happen with your old loves, which causes you more heart break and pain. I think your new loves attitude after we tell them all this information , is she or he let them get away with with doing all these things, they 're wondering what can they get away with at your expense.
We shouldn't leave ourselves open to someone else's emotional suggestions on how to live our lives, although sometimes, being to honest and open about your pass love or relationships can wreck havoc in our present relationships. I think it's best that we don't recount our pass relationships, with a new love. Talking about pass relationships shou7ld be off limits for each of us. You see, talking about pass mistakes doesn't help our new relationships, if anything it puts stress on them. I was hurt many times for this same reason, because I thought i should put all my cards on the table of truth, but in doing so, I made my self vulnerable to every fruit cake that wanted to take pot shots at me, because of my goodness. Being good women only pays - off if you find a genuine good guy that will cherish your goodness, and want take advantage of your goodness. Most men or women, see your goodness as a weakness to use for for all it's worth and leave you high and dry after they have gotten all that they can from you.
Then you're left with a broken heart, feeling used up and abused all over again. It would be really nice to find for once not to be used for your goodness sakes, but to be appreciated because of it. I'm sure many of you have suffered at the hands of others, simply , because you tried to be honest and caring. It's really sad to know that there are bad men and women, who are looking for the good ones to misuse and abuse them, because of their goodness. So, take your time, pray about it and try to find a decent godly man or women; you can love and trust, but we 're not going to talk about pass relationships and old loves, because they doesn't matter, the only thing that matter is your present relationship you trying to have now, that's the only things that's important right now, and nothing else.
Benny Faye Douglass