- Gender and Relationships
Nine signs you are likely to have an affair
Adultery is one of the most common causes of divorce. Many of these cases could be avoided if either spouse could recognize the signs and symptoms that accompany a future adulterous relationship.
1. Spend excess time away from spouse
Marriage bonds are strengthened when a couple spends quality time together. However, the opposite is also true: Marriage bonds are tremendously weakened when spouses are apart for long periods of time, whether it be because they are literally miles away, or because they work so much that they no longer take the time to talk to each other. One can be miles apart from their significant other even when living under the same roof.
2. Time with spouse is no longer joyful
You start to notice all the little defects and imperfections of your partner, and unlike before, now they seem completely intolerable. Somehow, your spouse is no longer as attractive as they used to be, even their voice seems to bother you. Careful, these are signs that the love in your relationship is starving and very close to dying.
3. Start to think about someone else specifically as a companion.
Suddenly there is someone in your life that you find appealing and attractive. You find yourself inevitably gravitating towards them. You start to wonder how good of a companion they could be.
4. You spend a lot of time with a friend of the opposite sex.
Friends are great, but beware if your best friend is someone of the opposite sex. I'm not saying that a person shouldn't have friends of the opposite sex, I'm saying to be careful when your BFF is from the opposite sex as this can lead to romantic feelings developing on either side.
5. Your confidant is someone of the opposite sex.
Same as above. Confiding your problems, especially your marriage problems, to someone of the opposite gender can lead to amorous relationships.
6. Grass is greener on the other side.
Comparing your spouse is a sad sign that things aren't as good as they could be. Sometimes it is inevitable to do some comparisons. However the problem arises when you find yourself constantly comparing your spouse to someone else and you do nothing to stop these negative thoughts.
7. Fantasize about having an affair.
This is probably one of the most obvious signs you are about to cheat. You probably don't know the person with which you will cheat, but as soon as the opportunity arises you will take it.
8. You fantasize about having an affair with a specific person.
When you already have someone in mind for a possible affair, things become even more dangerous.
You probably have enough reasons to believe that person would be up to an affair, which means you have been spending enough time with this person to see him as a possible candidate.
9. You can't remember the last time you were intimate with your spouse.
Something is terribly wrong with your relationship if you can relate to this sign. Intimacy in a marriage is essential to keep the flame burning. Lack of sexual intimacy could lead to extra-marital relationships.
If you can relate with these signs, your relationship could be in trouble. Work harder to keep alive the love that once brought you together and stop your marriage from becoming another sad statistic.
More on Preventing Extramarital Affairs
- Preventing Extra-Marital Affairs | Psychology Today
35-45% of marriages involve a sexual or emotional extra-marital affair. By Barry W. McCarthy, Ph.D....
- Why Do People Have Affairs - Causes of Infidelity - Woman's Day
Learn the causes of infidelity and how to prevent extramarital affairs at WomansDay.com.