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Obesity and Online Dating

Updated on April 3, 2018
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

How dating affects obese people?

I know of a few people, who won't speak out, because they are not confident enough to meet other people.

Due to their unhealthy eating habits, and their overweight issues obesity is increasing in many parts of the world.

The lack of confidence has made these people feel this way.

People grow, and change all the time so no need to feel out of place in life.

They should be able to take the necessary precautions.

Prevention is the key to better lifestyles, though not many choose to live healthy lives.

In most cases, people don't follow through, and allow themselves to get bigger, and out of shape.

I understand it when eating can get out of control, but that does not mean obesity should lag them behind from living life normally.

Most individuals choose to eat fast foods, and let down their guard to relax.

To go for what is the quickest of meals in all this going on; they don't realize their mistake on eating the wrong foods.

Obese people don't want to be looked at in public; at least most of them want to be away from crowds, and are afraid to be constantly stared at.

In many cases, online dating becomes their way of meeting people. It is a comfortable manner in which to make conversations freely.

The person on the other side won’t see them for who they really are, and will accept their relationship immediately with some fake photo.

It is sad to see how such individuals can use such a cover to hide their true self.

· An example of someone I once knew!

She has always been bigger and did manage to have many relationships. After her recent break up the young lady wants to try online dating.

When you reach a stage of obesity you don't want to show off your body.

Wearing a swimming costume is out of your mind.

Most people be it men or women don't feel as sexy anymore.

You want to find someone who will accept you, for who you really are. You need to lose the weight with your own mind.

Obesity causes many illnesses. You can prevent such health problems by eating properly.

· Unfortunately, online dating is not going solve that issue.

The person online is not familiar with you, so the nasty comments and insults won't be heard from the other person.

Obese people dating online are actually living a lie, or are in denial.

Low self-esteem creeps up, and that allows for less effort in losing the weight, instead the obese person will eat more to feel good and neglect their appearance.

· How dating online make you less obese or invincible?

Dating online does not make you less obese.

When you date online and choose to avoid meeting the other person, and continue to grow big the relationship will eventually fall apart.

In trying to meet people online to avoid them seeing your actual shape is not going to fix you in any way.

· Be true to yourself and show your true self.

Don't be afraid, or insecure to come out with who you are. It does not mean when others don't accept you that you can't accept yourself.

If you make the effort to lose that weight you can show a difference in your life. When you choose to live a quality life then dating won't look and feel so bad.

Obesity holds you back from dating the traditional way, like face to face with the person and online dating makes it feel too easy.

· The bottom line here online dating is not showing the true you.

People do show interest in each other no matter their appearance. When you are most conscious about the weight, the problem starts with that nervous mode, or the feeling of a less confident mind.

Don't let your obese life get in the way of dating. Sometimes people are attracted to others for different reasons. The personal appearance does matter men, and women have the similar issues.

People are far from perfect!

Don't let online dating be the most comfortable. You can meet someone in person and show your true being then go ahead with your dating life.

Acceptance is great, and when you don't have that from the one you want in your life, then you don't have the one.

People break up for all different reasons.

For example:

You can break up with your partner for some kind of defect they have, or for not having the perfect toes.

There are no perfect people, only when you are in love with someone will you find them to be perfect one for you.

Obesity should not stop you from living.

You can improve your life if you make the effort.

Obese people or not you should not take a break from dating just keep an open mind.

A sense of humor can attract someone to you, or your kindness and not the way appears to be in weight.

Never give up on love.

· For example:

She had good dates, and bad dates, and weighed two hundred and seventy five pounds. Her dates were not pleased with her weight, and had told a few comments, more nasty comments.

Only the fittest and healthiest survive dating it is a rough and tough world. If you are prepared to meet your date in person and show yourself to them you show courage and confidence.

You should not be afraid to meet people and date the one you want.

Dating is challenging only when you find faults with yourself.

If there are faults let it be you can always work on yourself to get it right.

When in search of a relationship with friendship and trust it is possible, regardless of your weight you can do it the old-fashioned way.

Online dating does not always show you what you want to. The unrealistic expectations of what a good relationship and partner is do not even show in online dating.

Instead of giving one person a chance to get to know them they become too picky with online daters and have more than one online date.

Chatting to the different people you barely know is a way of hiding you from your true appearance.

I know that people are attracted by what they see, and the better you present yourself.

The more opportunities you have to connect to others.

The better you look and the better you would feel about yourself and the more confident and free you would be about meeting someone.

Some people won't date obese individuals. It would make them sick to even think of that obese person.

· Would you date an obese man or woman?

People have different choices in dating, and would avoid who they don't like, it is how one accepts their challenges in life.

· The fat or the skinny are out there, the choice is yours.

Most people are not attracted to obese individuals, and that is a problem many daters. Online dating becomes the easy way out.

Online dating is not always safe and does provide an insecure mind for obese people.

Dating online allows one to feel less confident and this affects obese individuals mentally.

With an open mind meeting people can be tried face to face instead of online dating.

Obesity can lead to many health issues. Insecure people are often self-conscious.

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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Au fait so nice of you to stop by and share such a thoughtful comment.''To start, I don't think there is a perfect answer to anyone's dreams.'' You are so right in what you say here. Thank you very much for commenting.

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      C E Clark 

      4 years ago from North Texas

      I don't think a person ever truly knows another person. Most people don't even know themselves. I've never met anyone in person that I met online. I have, however, met plenty of people in person and many of them were not what they presented themselves to be even standing there right in front of me! I'm not sure we should expect a person we meet, regardless of where we meet them, to be the perfect answer to our dreams. I think if we do we will be disappointed again and again. To start, I don't think there is a perfect answer to anyone's dreams.

      People who judge others firstly and most importantly by looks, age, size, money, or social position, get what they deserve -- someone just like themselves. The nicest people I have ever known would never win any beauty contests. It's funny how being less than beautiful teaches people to develop other better and more lasting traits.

      In fact, many of the people who join online dating sites are not obese or particularly ugly, but married. Being married can make it difficult for a man to find an 'exciting' woman because his friends and neighbors may disapprove -- or even tell his wife.

      Online a person can be whoever they want to be and make arrangements to meet without anyone in their circle of friends/coworkers/neighbors/family ever knowing.

      Computers and cell phones have made this sort of thing easy compared to the way they used to be conducted. Now people can have multiple affairs over a lifetime and never be found out . . .

      As always, your hub is food for thought . . .

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Author Cheryl you are lucky to have found your man this way. Finding someone online is not always that way. I have read and watched many unsuccessful stories Thank you for sharing part of your story here. Great for you take care and have a lovely weekend.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi shyron so kind of you to stop by. Interesting that the woman should even call you. I don't know how these people feel to met strangers online and are so gullible of what they read about online dating being a helpful way. Nobody knows the person on the other side. Thanks for the vote and for constantly stopping by. I appreciate your kindness. Take care.

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      Cheryl A Whitsett 

      4 years ago from Jacksonville, Fl

      I can happily say I met my prince charming on line but the pure H I had to go through to find him was horrible. Most people are not true to themselves, put old pictures on their profiles and lie about their age, drinking, smoking yada yada it was a nightmare for me lol but in the end I won with a great hubby.

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      Shyron E Shenko 

      4 years ago from Texas

      Devika, this is interesting and I voted that way.

      Unfortunately, online dating is not going (to) solve that issue.

      Online dating is only to make money for the people who run it. It is not really for someone trying to find a compatable person to date.

      I have two dating sites the continually want me to sign up with them.

      They want me to pay them? But they think that I am my husband.

      I even had one woman call my home and want to speak with Shyron.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader I remember that movie as well and it is a shame for one to break up for such reasons thank you

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      4 years ago

      Good points. I remember a movie- Boomerang- where the man broke up with the woman he was seeing because she didn't have the perfect toes.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Jodah, so greatly mentioned and so true thank you.

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      John Hansen 

      4 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Interesting read DDE. Online dating without revealing your true self is really a short term ego fix, but is rather silly for anyone looking for a long term or 'real-life' relationship. In a way it is a little like contestants performing on the voice who haven't succeeded because of their looks or a disability, so I can understand the initial attraction, but it doesn't last.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. thank you for all votes I am so glad you came by always appreciated.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      CyberShelley, thank you for sharing your thought s here I appreciate you stopping by.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      sunilkunnoth2012 thank you very much for commenting

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MG Singh thank you

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      4 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Online dating with the view that you need not show yourself is only putting off the inevitable. It may be a short term ego trip but eventually they are going to have to reveal the truth. Brilliant article once again that will provoke a lot of reaction you are so good at achieving this. Voted up,interesting and useful.

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      Shelley Watson 

      4 years ago

      Enjoyed this post, and I feel that lying about who one is online is really silly as what do you say when meeting the other person. Already there is a part of that person's personality one doesn't like, as that person lies, and doesn't like themselves enough to reflect who they really are. There are plenty of people out there who like fat, extra fat and obese people - rather be truthful and start off on the right path with your maybe future partner.

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      Sunil Kumar Kunnoth 

      4 years ago from Calicut (Kozhikode, South India)

      A fine topic and well written. It is a matter of great concern for all. I hope people take note of this hub and do something to address this issue. I was in good health till recently but as of now is over weighing by 5 to 7 kg. I will do something to get it reduced. Thank you for this nice post.

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      MG Singh 

      4 years ago from Singapore

      I think its a lovely post. Well done

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Erickdierker thank you for sharing your comment here it all depends on how the individual projects themselves out to others.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway thank you for sharing your valuable comments at my hubs your kindness is always appreciated.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I had a little trouble with this as "obese" to me suggests a very unhealthy overweight issue. I am fat but not obese. Meaning that I am healthy but have extra weight. I have a beautiful larger daughter and she is healthy and carries it well.

      Great stuff here and good for everyone to think about. My wife is overweight by at least 6% but when you weigh 81 lbs it is hard to take seriously.

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      4 years ago from USA

      A former coworker who was single did a bunch of online dating. She was downright portly but posted a photo that portrayed herself as much younger and thinner. When she met with guys personally the dates usually ended with very candid statements such as "I usually don't date girls as big as you," or "You're nice, but I'm not attracted to girls your size." Ouch. It's a size-sensitive world, although I think she may have contributed by falsely portraying herself. Her "picker" was obviously off, too.


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