All About Love
Learn to Let Go
Anybody in their lifetime has experienced giving up on someone they love.
Either circumstance asked or because it's forbidden.
The latter means they are letting their mind rule over their heart for they recognize the right thing to do.
Whatever the reasons, setting someone free is the best way to do.
You felt by doing so, will make somebody happy even if deep inside, you're dying.
This is you being selfless because you are thinking of the other person's happiness.
Letting go is a very difficult learning transformation, but you can measure how strong you are.
The moment you realized you cannot have them forever that's the time to set them free.
You will get hurt, but better to leave them broken because time will just heal the pain.
That person will learn to accept that because you don't want to cause any trouble to them.
There is a reason it happened and the future will show the answers.
Let time take its course.
Before letter writing, they are pen pals.When they invented the telephone they are phone pals.
The user of mobile messages called them text mates and at this age and time exposed on the Internet they became chat mates.
The product of these are sweethearts, lovers, partners, cyber lover or whatever you want to call them.
The question is, is it safe to have what will you call as the latter?
I mean, you have not met them in person.
You have doubts, but still, you continue to go on because you love having somebody who takes care of you and what you felt.
You talk to them with no apprehension even if you still don't know if the one you are talking to or revealing yourself with is real.
What if the person tells you something different when you meet face- to- face or a bigger probability is that you are dealing with a Psycho?
Learn to trust your instincts and gut feelings and watch out for signs.
I was a product of the Internet Technology.
Both I and my husband were chat mates.
It so happened that we're from the same place.
So, it's easy to investigate if he's telling the truth or not.
I am not suggesting that everybody in cyberspace will end up the same as us.
There is always a risk.
It's vitally important to be alert every time. Look for telltale signs.
Sometimes, they pretend to be interested in you.
They will ask your work, how much you are earning.
Then, in the long run, they are just fishing for more information on you so they will know how fat your bank account is.
When you are gullible, you might end up as a victim of these so-called frauds.
Such as what other Asian women do, will make you their easy passport.
Sometimes access, so they could escape the kind of life they're living (poverty, hardships).
Others might even put a mask and make you believe they are always there when you needed someone to cry on, a sounding board, etc.
Then uses your vulnerability to their own convenience because they want to play with your feelings. Be cautious and open your mind to tell the distinction.
Sometimes it pays to see the person you are chatting with through a webcam.
You could see their facial expressions and body language that will help you with your assessment.
For you'll never know that your life may be at stake.
Falling in Love with a Friend
Sometimes too much closeness or as they say: "too close for comfort" can lead close friends to fall in love with each other. How many times did it happen that in a group of friends of both sexes, there is really a pair who will be attracted to each other?
This usually happens when a problem arises and the person seeking comfort from a friend of the opposite sex will tend to reach out to him/her and uses that person as a shoulder to cry on or the classic I-need-you-please-stay-with-me buddy. Instead of feeling depressed, mix emotions and confusion will surface, sometimes mistaking that feeling to love.
If this will happen, will you jeopardize the friendship in exchange for something that might be just short live? Before doing it, you must think and weigh things out. For once, like what I have said, you might just be confused. Maybe the person is just there to comfort you. However, if in case that person felt the same way with you, think of the consequences that your action will do. Try to ask these Questions:
Will we still be friends if we fall out of love with each other? After the feelings subside, one of you might tend to fall out. Are you ready to take this chance knowing that you cannot bring back the same closeness you have when you were still friends? Think about the time spent and the relationship you had with that person. If you are willing to gamble, then lost the friendship after, then go for it!
Is the relationship worth a try? If the basis for this is, an attraction at the spur of the moment because he/she caught you in your most defenseless state or you are helpless then, stop and think. The best thing to do is, hear the advice of another close friend of the same sex because they will give you sound advice. Knowing that you choose to believe what you just want to hear or see because you are too blinded by your emotions, they will direct you to what is the right thing for you to do because they know what is right as your mind is clouded while they can think clearly.
Does love start in friendship? So, they say. However, not at all times. Some friends become lovers or lifetime partners, but some are better off as friends. Do not embarrass yourself by pushing a relationship with that person. Meaning, be contented with the friendship. If things turn out to be different and there is a potential that you would become an item, then it is for you to decide if you are going to risk it or not. Just make sure that there's no room for regrets if the outcome will not be what you expected it to be.