Older Man and Younger Woman
Older Men and Younger Women
What could possibly be wrong with Older Men and Younger Women dating or entering into a relationship? There is not a problem with the people concerned, so why should it bother anyone else?
It does though. So often the man is often referred to as a "pervert", a "dirty old man" or a "trophy hunter" and the woman as a "gold digger" or "manipulative and exploitative".
It would seem that the majority of people have their own idea of what they believe is 'too old' and so is, to them, not acceptable. If such people are not part of the relationship then why should it concern them at all? If a couple are comfortable together then surely the age gap is irrelevant. In different cultures around the world age gaps are more or less acceptable. It is in the West that the geatest 'hang up' hangs.
People of all ages are attracted to each other and 'falling in love' is not exclusively the realm of the young.
Today relationships between Older Woman and a Younger Man are becoming much more common.
Old Men and Young Women
In April 2010 a baby boy was born to the partner of Raymond Calvert. Raymond is a 79 year old British pensioner. His partner is 25 year old Charlotte. The age is difference is 54 years. Should anyone have a problem with that? They love and care for each other. All people have to do is accept!
Recently the 41 year old wife of 74 year old Gerry Burks gave birth to a healthy baby boy. The age gap there is just 33 years. Does that make it easier to accept?
People seem much more inclined to accept an age gap when the people involved are rich and famous. There is a list of these in The Much Maligned Sex Tourist. Why this should be more acceptable is a bit of a mystery.
Dirty Old Man
It Is Not Just About Babies And Marriage
There are those who say that age gap relationships will not work because the couples interests are too different. Shared interests between couples are important but it does not mean that all interests should be shared. In fact there is a lot to be said about having hobbies and pastimes that are not in common.
Marriages and relationships fail every day regardless of age gaps and interests. People fall in love again. It has been said that "youth is wasted on the young" and sometimes that is true.
The older man brings with him experience, staying power, tolerance, affection and understanding. Younger women have beauty and youthful vibes. Such relationships work as well as or better thany many.
Age is not just about firm or flabby bodies, wrinkled or smooth skin. Age is personalities and experience too. Laughter and loyalties are common to all. There is always shared ground to be found. Steady ground, a foundation on which to build.
A Personal Perspective
Everyone is different. We should accept and not condemn as long as no laws are being broken and nobody is being hurt.
Old or young any bit of help you can get to get back into the dating game can only be a good thing.