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Relationships: Conflicting Schedules
Are you up and on the computer hours before your mate is even up? Are you ready to go back to bed by the time they crawl out of their nest?
It seems to me that the most important thing is to communicate about what you're doing and when you're doing it. That didn't sound right, did it? You don't have to feel like you have to check in or something. It's best in my opinion, to make appointments and dates for things. You know the two are different. An appointment is something you have to do, and a date is something you do when you can choose to have fun together.
The how part, of this is the problem. If you continue to say something about what your partner's doing, it feels wrong, and can be taken the wrong way too. Abruptly announcing that you want to spend time together may get the other person going on about what they have to accomplish right then. Where as if you approach them calmly about coordinating your schedules, they may on the other hand be willing to work with you as it relates to time. When you discuss it, most often you find a way to be together.
There are little things you can do to entice your partner to get together for some fun. Leaving notes around the house, in lunch bags, and even on the bathroom mirror can get them start thinking about you. A quick phone call, or better yet an email or a text can be just the thing your partner needs to remember that maybe it's been a long time since you've gone out to dinner or to a movie. In order for the long term marriage to work you have to maintain what's going on, on a daily or weekly basis. So it's good communication, timing, patience, and subtlety that will have you spending more of your precious time together hopefully, doing something fun.