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One Shy Guys Approach to Hot Women; A Response for Wonderful1
Hot or Not
I wrote this article in response to “wonderful1“ article called, “What does a girl need to be asked out?" First of all, it was a very interesting read, thanks for the experience. Now to my point. I to was (am) a shy guy. But I found it easy to talk to some hot women, while difficult to talk to other hot women. For a while, I had no clue why things seem to be this way. Then, with time, I started to slowly realize something. Some “hot” women, especially the ones I could approach, talk to, and ask out, made it easy for me to approach them. Maybe they sensed my shyness and adjusted their mannerism accordingly.
The other type of “hot” women seem to be the type of woman that was hot, and knew she was hot; and therefore expected ALL guys to approach them in a certain or specific way. Now for me, these women who knew they were hot, I found very difficult if not impossible to talk to. It was as if they carried a huge chip on their shoulder that said, “I’m hot, I know I’m hot, so you better know it too!” This type of displayed attitude is a turn off for me. That’s right, a shy guy is expressing why some “hot” women are turn-offs. I’m shy, not desperate.
In the Mix
Think of it like this. I can only speak for myself when I say this but, ... to me, a women’s beauty is a two part thing. The first part is her outward beauty. This is what attracts me to her in the first place. The cover of the book if you will. The second part is her inner beauty. This is her personality, the way she responds to and treats people. For me, she has to have the two parts in place and at a certain balance before I can try to talk to her.
It’s funny. I consider myself to be an average man, and yet I have had some women in my past who I thought were/is beautiful, tell me that I was not approachable because of how I looked. I guess what I’m trying to say is that it is easy for you to get asked out by just about any guy, as long is you project yourself as a woman that is balanced.
Think about it. The next time a shy guy (or any guy) looks your way, you do not need to turn on the charm, because he has already picked up on that; your outward beauty. After all, he is looking at you. Now the question is, is your inner beauty attractive to him as well. Before you can answer that question, you need to understand your inner beauty as seen from a male perspective. Is your displayed inner beauty ... shyness, domineering, humorous, to hot for you fool, off putting, caring, ... I think you get the idea.
Understand this, and I think you will come a lot closer to answering your question, “What does a girl need to be asked out?" Mind you, ... this is just my (one man’s) opinion. Good luck.