Online Dating Is It Worth Trying?
For about a year, I've tried three different online dating sites. I'm 50+. The results have been mixed. I had some fun, a few brief positive experiences, but found it to be mostly frustrating. Beware there are a lot of online shoppers out there and they are not always the age they listed themselves as.
My best experience was a 8-week friendship of some kind that almost lead to a relationship. She also looked like the photos she posted which is not always a common occurrence.
My new friend (connection) was from South America. She was a medical doctor in her country and worked for a family medical practice here in New York. However, she wasn't truly available. I later learned she was separated (not divorced) from her pill-addicted spouse and was not a US Citizen.
It was a shame since I really liked her and we had many similar interests. I enjoyed the time I spent with her going to the movies, outdoor concerts, going on picnics, but it never got beyond the friendship stage.
It ended when her daughter arrived from Columbia to give birth. I was spared from online dating for awhile when a woman I met at a party four years ago, who I went out with twice back then, called me out of the blue to invite me to the movies.
That was a good thing at first as it lasted 3 1/2 months. We were getting to the relationship stage, but she confessed she had issues. Of course, so do I. It was the mixed messages that made my head spin. We were much more than friends. I truly liked her. She hit the Go button for sure.
After that ended, I was wounded for awhile, but shortly afterwards I got a bit more active with the online dating site I was on. I met a few people. One in particular was a smart and successful woman from out East on Long Island. I liked her personality, but simply wasn't attracted enough. Her cover photo had to be from at least 5 years ago and she was a long drive away; 30+ miles.
About three months prior to getting that call out of the blue, I had brunch with an attractive woman, my age who lived nearby. She was likeable. We went out twice and had a good time, but when she told me she still lived in her ex-husband's house, I faded away. I simply didn't feel comfortable with that situation. I could just imagine pulling into her driveway and seeing her ex husband peering out of a window.
My most frustrating experience was meeting someone in Manhattan (a 2-hour train ride for me) one Sunday who I had spoken first by phone many times before. She was originally from the Middle East. She was however a US citizen who was here over 20-years. Her face and skin was beautiful as per her photos. We clicked when we spoke by phone which was often prior to meeting.
Then we finally met. Her skin was horrible. Her photo was obviously retouched and had to be from 10 years ago.
I'll confess the photo I posted was two years old, but essentially look the same with some more grey hair. No one I met never said they wouldn't recognize me from the photo I posted. I've asked that question.
Online dating is a way to meet people. However, I would suggest you try a few of the major sites and compare your results if you could afford their monthly costs which average about $20-$30 a month. Still you need to continue to go out and except those party invitations. There's nothing better than seeing someone you're attracted to and having the chance to speak to them.
Also search and seek out those that you're attracted or like their profile (story). Especially those that live relatively close to you; say no more than 20-miles away.
The last site I was on. I decided to let expire. Two months prior to cancelling my subscription, I was getting too many message from fake members with the words; text me either on their forehead or below their photo. I ended up spending too much time blocking these phonies. I also got too many hearts or messages sent from women who were very far away; 100+ miles, many were from other states.
At that point, I had enough. It's now back to live action. I'm planning on starting a creative writing group. At a minimum, I anticipate being in the good company of other writers who love to write. Online dating has given me many stories to write about. I don't regret trying. It was a learning experience.
If I was younger say in my 30's or 40's I'd try again, but I'm not. I will push myself to go out more. Maybe join a Meetup group. Hopefully I can find a group that interests me and is nearby to where I live. And they meet on a day and time that's do-able for me.