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Online Dating Tips for Women - Are You Willing to Relocate?
Finally! You’ve sorted you username and photos and are now ready to start filling in your profile basics so Mr. Right can hurry up and fall in love with you. Let’s begin with the multiple choice questions. We’ll go straight down the list, using Match.com’s format.
1. Relationship Status.
Being that you’re going to be looking for Mr. Right, we’ll just assume you aren’t currently married to, or living with, Mr. Wrong. It’s worth noting a number of people lie about this – don’t you be one of them! That would be a whopper of no-no by anyone’s standards. Besides, unless you’re aiming for bigamy, I don’t see what good could possibly come from lying about it. I have personally encountered men who were married but sleeping on the couch, and tried to pass this off as being separated. Almost funny, if it weren’t so incredibly stupid and selfish. But, hey, I got off easy – think about what it must be like for his poor wife. *shudder*
2. Who are you looking for, and in what age range?
I see lots of folk (both men and women) listing age ranges in excess of forty years and, frankly, I’m not sure they gave it due consideration before settling on that number. For example, I’ve seen women aged 50 seeking men ranging from 20 years younger to 20 years older. As someone who’s been in a relatively extreme May-December romance (and I use that last word lightly) I just want to give you all a good shake and recommend you be sure that is what you want before you put it in your profile. You don’t want to have to turn away a good man after a few emails when you suddenly realize you can’t date someone the same age as your kids. That’s not really fair to him.
3. Where should we look?
This is an excellent way of letting people know whether or not you’re willing to relocate, so take advantage of it! If you don’t want to leave your neighborhood, make that clear. If you’re willing to move anywhere in the USA, you can say that, too. Heck, you can even say you’re looking for men in Japan if you want to. Think that sounds strange? Not at all. My own profile says I’m currently living where I’m living, but looking for men in the UK. Why? Because when men from the UK happen upon my profile, I want them to know I’d consider relocating – and that I’d consider relocating to their country. Something like that can make a big difference in giving a man a little nudge in your direction.
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