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Opinion: Being Nice to a Man Doesn't Make You a Weak Woman
I guess I'm not a woman, or maybe I'm a doormat. I think I'd know it if I had supernatural powers.
I read all sides of all issues. Maybe it's a family curse. But what I hear from feminist blogs is one consistent, clear message; if you do anything feminine and ladylike, and even dare to promote such behaviors in women, you're a sexist piece of trash living in the past.
I don't get it. They attack "red pill women" for saying things like that they wish to try to give the man in their lives more sex, less mental stress, more of what makes them happy, and that they want to be beautiful for their man. How dare they?
Don't they know all women should aspire to be self-sufficient celibate or lesbian wilderness dwellers who don't need no man? Who lift their own sacks of rock salt, open their own queso jars, and squish their own spiders? And who only ever do feminine things like put on makeup for their own personal pleasure? I mean, come onnnn-uh, it is the current century.
But at the same time, you also hear feminists say men should do more to support women, and they hate when you use derrogatory terms like "beta", "cuck", or "faggot" to deride men who act feminine or subservient to women. To them, men being subservient to them makes them happy, so they approve. They say there's nothing about mowing the lawn, carrying heavy bags, or taking out the trash that makes a man less masculine or weak. So what's good for the gander is good for the goose, right?
I should be able to say that nothing about:
- providing a man with something that plays to his sexual fantasy (like acting like a naughty teacher or a bad cheerleader)
- trying to be prettier
- wearing makeup or lingerie for men (and not for my own personal "empowerment")
- growing my hair long (because almost all men I've asked say they prefer longer hair in women, even though almost all ladies agree that long hair is a pain in the ass)
and so on makes me a weak woman. It doesn't make me less tough, less smart, it doesn't encourage people to take advantage of me. It doesn't mean I can't or don't stand up for myself when something just isn't right.
If you're not going to deride your man for being unmanly when he does nice things for you, you should not be so judgmental and critical of women when they choose to do nice things for the men in their lives. Your idea of "equality" is wrong because it actually looks more like gynocracy, a world in which women are never expected to do anything and men are expected to sacrifice and give everything they have to women. But there's one word for a relationship that's all take and no give: abuse.