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Opinion Topic: Do nice guys really finish last when it comes to women, or do they get the last laugh?
It is generally thought that nice guys finish last. I personally don't find this to always be the case.
Nice guys finishing last.
We've all heard the saying "nice guys finish last" before. It's a saying that has become all too normal for most people. It's a phrase that most decent guys use consistently after being rejected by a woman, or various women throughout their lives. It's highly thought of that in today's society, women prefer "bad boys", or men who have an edge to them. I've even heard women say that they prefer guys who have a the "bad boy" image, but is a nice guy underneath it. This has led to many decent guys fronting and attempting to be something they're not. As I've gotten older and done more reading and studying on whether or not nice guys finish last, my views have evolved on this subject. In this article I'm going to discuss why I feel that nice guys don't finish last in the end. I'm in no way an expert or claim to be one when it comes to relationships. These are strictly my own opinions, so there is no right or wrong. Just things I've observed. I hope you continue to read.
Being who you are and not what society says be.
It is my belief that many a men go wrong when they stop being themselves in order to impress women. It's something that almost every guy has done in their lives at some point or another. I will admit that I was guilty of doing it myself in the past. I feel that there is nothing wrong with trying to impress a woman that we like. However, if it means doing or being something that is uncharacteristic of who you are, then it's an unwise move. The goal is to get women to like and admire you for the person you really are. One of the biggest reasons for this way of thinking is society. Too many guys and people in general are trying to live up to the expectations of what society deems acceptable. You should be and do the things that reflect who you are. Life is always better when we get the things we want in life, and when we get them while truly being the individuals we are. This is probably one of the ultimate forms of happiness that can be achieved.
Nice guys being overlooked.
If you view yourself as a "nice guy" and you've been rejected by a woman because you weren't exciting enough, it's not your loss. At least that's the way I feel. Whether you believe it or not, you've actually gained in my opinion. The woman that rejects you for being nice or "too nice" as they say, most likely will end up with a guy who mistreats her in the end. You'll actually end up winning because you've wasted little to no time with a woman who obviously wasn't right for you. This leaves you free and available for a woman who will appreciate your "nice guy" qualities. Some of these women that have this mentality actually try to keep the nice guy on hold. They view him as a security blanket just in case things don't work out with the bad guy. Whether you're a male or female, you should never been anyone's second option. It should always be number one, or nothing at all. It's generally regarded by many single women that they're aren't any good men left. That's not always the case by any means. Most of the good guys out there tend to get overlooked. This is due mainly because many decent guys aren't loud or talk a lot. They generally aren't the alpha males, or the "life of the party" as people would say. A lot of this boils down to personal responsibility. Some men and women just straight up make bad choices when it comes to choosing the opposite sex.
The important point that I hope is taken from this article is to just be who you are. Focus on being the individual that makes you the most happiest. It may not seem like it now, but people will notice and take heed to it. Like the saying goes, "real recognize real". This article isn't only limited to just men. It applies to women as well. I'm just writing from a males perspective since I'm a male myself. I hope this message will register with women who go out of their way to be noticed by guys as well. As I mentioned earlier, it may feel like you're not winning the game right now. However, just hang in there, you'll most likely end up having the last laugh. Would love to see others thoughts on this topic. Feel free to leave your comments. Thanks for reading.