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PART 1 Powerful Attraction Energy to draw into you the Relationship of your Dreams’

Updated on May 19, 2012

Attract the boy or girl of your dreams; have the relationship YOU want!

Pay attention, this really works if you apply the principles outline. But make sure you also read PART 2: By following the ink below!

Many folk seem to have problems creating the kind of blissful relationship they long to desire, instead, some folk always attract the same kind of personality from a partner whereas their relationship eventually ends with tears because of mistreatment & heartache from their once thought loved one!

But YOU personally, may have something to do with why this happens more than you can imagine!

You must know the kind of person you are before you can attract the kind of person you want & this information concerning attracting the right kind of boyfriend or girlfriend will help you consider the factors for picking up the most sexiest & considerate date to start your relationship with.

And you can sure bet that there is someone ESPECIALLY FOR YOU OUT THERE!

But you got to change your ways from the very bottom of your heart to be able to draw this personality unto you.

The scenario goes something like this……

We are all creatures of energy!

Many of you whom have read my articles would have heard me state this many times before!

So how does this apply to dating & relationships & attracting your ideal girlfriend or boyfriend?


It goes something like this…

What you truly believe about yourself…

How you truly perceive yourself….

How you carry yourself in this world….

What you truly feel you deserve out of life & out of others & what you feel you are truly capable of providing….

& more so! HOW YOU TREAT OTHERS…..

Especially within your relationships….and I mean….



At any time in your life!

Your partner will truly believe and perceive this of you as well.

So if you mistreat yourself & don’t think highly of yourself……



Cool isn’t it?

& now you can learn how to Attract the ideal girlfriend or boyfriend that YOU choose & not the other way around!

But before you can pull the man or woman you want you must first look inside & bring up & face up to what you DO NOT want out of a relationship especially as your choice could eventually lead unto marriage!

You’ve heard the old adage of….face up to & stand up to your fears & remorse’s of your life so that these feelings can finally disintegrate leaving you free & open to attract something or someone new?

And if you like this idea….Please read on….

You may consider taking a deeper closer look inside & searching for positive perceptions of how you can become someone different if you chose to especially concerning not just your personal values but also the values of others no matter how an ex partner made you feel in your past relationships?

Maybe you been devalued by your ‘once lover’ even many times before & been kicked into the curb on a rainy night with nowhere to go & no one to speak to that truly understands the crap you are feeling right now.

Or maybe you’re reading this with the notion that you have been trying but failing, to find a decent lover to share your time with?

Life’s a bummer sometimes!

But read what I got to say…

It may help you….

To have any of these positive perceptions about yourself concerning self respect & your worth to another, especially within a dating partner…

You must definitely change your way of thinking about yourself…first.....

For the better!

But wait there’s more….

Because this is just step one of your two way metamorphosis from a measly little moth into a vibrant sexually valued guy or doll that I know you can be….

You just got to convince yourself that you are a sexually valued creature that is here to be pleased by another & you have what it takes to please another too.

With total honesty & true sincerity!

But alas!

You must change your way of thinking about not only yourself…

But towards others as well….

Even if they’ve done you wrong love wise….

Especially if they've cheated on you in the past.


And this will be your penultimate step to free your mind to attract the one you want.

Did you hear what I said? Free your mind so you can attract the one you want!

Otherwise you will more than likely keep attracting the same kind of sort that you have been previously.

And this isn’t good.

But you got to do some work first….

& this work begins inside your own mind…

As you know, before you can even begin to portray positive high values into the mind of your ‘new intended lover’ about YOU you must instill these perceptions into your own mind first!

So they become your very persona…

Your energy……

Your very energy that you radiate outwards, subconsciously, & even consciously…..

Of a highly valued sexual human being…..Just like you were born to be!

To be pleased by another & to have the best that life has to offer you….

It doesn’t matter how you look!

There is always someone for everyone even if you did think you found them before & your relationship hasn’t worked previously!

Right now…..

It doesn’t matter how others make you feel.

It’s how you think about yourself inside that really shows on the outside!

Others will perceive this outer energy that you will portray from your interior perceptions of yourself!

And you must realize you have the value to also please another too.

Are you with me so far?


Let’s begin with step 1…..

We are all creatures of energy & our energy is created from within our mind. The way we see, or think about ourselves, & of others & of our life situations in general will create our perceptions & especially our emotions….

And this is how we feel within ourselves which radiates outward of ourselves….

Our emotions!

& these emotions are responsible for our


Energy created by our very emotional feelings inside vibrating invisibly & others around us

(Or even far away! But that is another article.)

Will pick up on & response to ‘as such.’

I hope I’m making myself clear here?


We are going to start with step 1 as this is the most important factor for freeing yourself ready for the attraction process to kick in.

Eradicating negative emotions & perceptions of you & your ex partner!


Before you can attract the ideal partner you must think deep & search inside yourself & face up to all of the negative aspects & immature actions of any past experiences within your relationships you have encountered previously.

And this will mean taking notice of anything you have done wrong, as well as all of those things that your partner had done to hurt you too.

You will find emotional traits such as….





You will have mistrusted, hated & blamed them. And you will have been hurt!

And the opposite applies too! You may have been mistrustful towards your partner too & you may have hurt them?

This is why this article discusses ‘Knowing who YOU are so that you can sort yourself out.’

And because of these negative emotions of past relationships your ego will more than likely run your new relationships that you may encounter in the future so this means you will hold perceptions of….





Onto your new lover before you even drop your guard to allow them the opportunity to be their real selves.

Strange isn’t it? But it’s true!

Because of your past relationship encounters you will automatically hold perceptions that….

Ready for this…..?


There we are I said it now…

And the best part is, you don’t even know you’re doing it!

And it is your EGO responsible for this.


We are all creatures of energy, so your ego shouldn’t even come into the equation at all?

We are born & then toddlers & we perceive the simple things of life without judgment first & this is how we learn along the way….

But now were all grown up we learn to perceive experiences of past that we tend to HOLD ONTO which has something to do with our EGO but the only problem is, our ego can prevent us from having the very best that life has to offer us.


Almost like you are carrying a grudge….without even realizing it? About your new love! Even before you have met them!

Spooky isn’t it?

Here is what I want you to do: take your time to relax & get connected to the quietness of your mind.

Search deep inside & bring up any bad relationship experiences you have ever encountered, one at a time, bad relationship experiences that you have done to others & that others have done to you….

Now bring to mind & face up to each & every one of these mishaps…& drop the blame!

It’s as simple as that!

Know that you want to improve your future so drop the blame & let go of the hurt.

Drop any blame towards yourself…

And drop any blame towards your partner/s.

Realizing that what have happened previously there must have been a cause for it one way or another.

But it doesn’t matter now. That was in the past. The past has long gone.

Even if it was your fault or theirs…it doesn't matter so drop the ego & the blame of yourself & of them & realize it DID happen!

But remember….

And this is the bigie so please understand…

You, & I, and everyone else here on this planet….

Are here to learn from every single experience to make each & every one of us better for the future, no matter what….

Now let go of….





Only to realize it was the past never to be repeated ever again….DROP THE EGO & FREE YOU’RE MIND!

Don’t punish your new love! They are not your old love!

Don’t punish yourself! You are now facing up to what you have done wrong & you are willing to let it all go to better your next relationship!

Forgive yourself…

Forgive others…


Please spend time & get this sorted first, you will know when you have achieved because you will feel a heavy weight lift from your shoulders & you will become more calm & at piece with yourself.

You may even find that you are beginning to create attraction from others around you so please take note of these messages & remember why this is!

PART 2: ‘Powerful Attraction Energy to draw into you the Relationship of your Dreams’

Let me know your take on this situation & if you’re into relationships don’t forget to read my upcoming articles on relationships especially part two of this series? Sign HERE & get instant updates & even create your own articles for profit!

All the best & happy relationships! Dale


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    • Inspired to write profile imageAUTHOR

      Dale J Ovenstone 

      5 years ago from Wales UK

      Thank you for the vote up rainpurplewine, its always good to truly let go & realize not all folk are the same.

    • rainpurplewine profile image


      5 years ago from ATLANTA,Ga

      This hub was a truly powerful message and I'm so glad I have ran across it. I think more often than not people do hold on to mad experiences with past lovers because it's often stored as trauma. Great read! Voted Up!

    • Inspired to write profile imageAUTHOR

      Dale J Ovenstone 

      6 years ago from Wales UK

      Thank you strictly for your comment

    • stricktlydating profile image


      6 years ago from Australia

      Really good and powerful advice. A great read!

    • Inspired to write profile imageAUTHOR

      Dale J Ovenstone 

      8 years ago from Wales UK


      Thank you for your response, there certainly are pro's out there that say, 'you can't change your mind' (or thought patterns) & I would disagree with them.

      What you are saying is to use repetition then your mind will start to believe then you will change physically, & this is what it is all about.

      Thank you for replying & for everyone reading, yes, choose & change your thoughts then persist with them for a better future.

      Regards Dale

    • ItsThatSimple profile image


      8 years ago from Florida

      If exuding positive energy doesn't come naturally to you, keep in mind that repetition and persistence will help your subconscious to pick up on the changes and they will become real. Like any skill or improvement including life long health commitments or muscle building it takes time and the longer you practice the harder it will be too go back to the unhealthy habits!

    • Inspired to write profile imageAUTHOR

      Dale J Ovenstone 

      8 years ago from Wales UK

      Thank you Karanda I'm glad you can see we attract like for like. Thanks for the caps comment too lol. Regards Dale

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      Karen Wilton 

      8 years ago from Australia

      This is so true Dale. So often in the desperate search for a soul mate, people forget to look at the vibes they are sending to others. It wasn't until I took a good look at myself that someone came along to respond to the real me. Nice use of capitals, by the way.

    • Inspired to write profile imageAUTHOR

      Dale J Ovenstone 

      8 years ago from Wales UK

      Thank you for your comment Chris, your right, issues that need to be looked at, considered, & dropped for a great relationship lol. Regards Dale

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      china man 

      8 years ago

      Having been in China 5 years now and in a relationship with the most beautiful and exciting girl in China, both inside and out, I had forgotten those western relationship issues - glad you have them nailed down Dale, good luck - Chris (previously from New Quay)


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