~ Prayer for Marriage Restoration ~
Giving up “Me-ness for We-ness”
~ PRAYER FOR MARRIAGE RESTORATION ~
Marriage is ordained by God. It was meant to be a Covenant relationship designed and sanctioned by making a Covenant with God. A Covenant is a sacred vow witnessed by God and made to God. For Christians it is the most solemn agreement that one can make between a man and woman.
A Covenant requires sacrifice it represents the merging of two lives. The “two becoming one.” This does not mean one gives up their own personal identity. Two strong hearts join together as One. They cleave together not out of neediness, but because of an undying ever increasing Love & Commitment to one another. The desire to have a loving complimenting companion is the motivating factor to honor their commitment they made to the Lord.
Loyalty is fleeting for many...
Many marriages are dissolving for a plethora of reasons. Many are and have been “unequally yoked” from the very beginning. Many have embraced worldly concepts and the idea of “what is good for me” takes precedent. In some cases one of the spouses is simply ready to have their own life. All of the above are sad. It is important to continue to ignite the flames of love, honor, commitment, intimacy, communication, respect, passion and understanding. Many couples allow marriage to become a secondary priority and treat it accordingly. Slowly, but surely they begin to allow their needs to be met outside the marriage as well!
Many have allowed manipulation and deception to embed itself in the relationship that only smothers intimacy. Many have behaved so repulsively towards one another that respect and sensitivity have been cast into the sea of unforgiveness. Many have allowed domestic violence and abuse of all sorts!. Many are bound by compulsion and ambivalence that only serves to vamp the very life out of one another… Instead of building a healthy home environment. They build a marital nest of confusion, turbulence, pain and unhappiness. This should not be!
Marriage was never meant to be a competition of wills nor a degrading of one another’s character. Divorce comes about because of the hardness of the heart. Many carry that hardness into the next relationship. Divorce is taking and leaving many casualties! Much too much residual collateral damage has been left behind.
If you are a believer and you married without truly first seeking the Lord; REPENT! Pray daily for your spouse and your marriage. Ask the Lord to lead you from this point on. You cannot change anything that has happened. "The Lord will never leave nor forsake you." But you on the other hand must humble yourself and now earnestly seek His assistance going forward from this point on. Start today inviting the presence of the Lord within your heart & your home.
Life presents many challenges as well as marvelous celebrations! Marriage is about learning how to commit to someone who you can learn to be transparent with. To build and share an ongoing growing, loving, lasting mutually satisfying physical, emotional and spiritual relationship. To nurture, one another and give each other healthy space as well. To have one another’s best interest at heart. To celebrate and encourage each other through the challenges that life presents from time to time. As you now move forward toward building a healthy strong fulfilling marriage together, begin to sincerely live your lives to please God.
In the Lord you can discover everything that you will ever need for life, daily living & eternal life in Heaven. Allow Him His place within your marriage and let Him use you to spread that love to others as well. Just think how life would be if this was really the case for most marriages. God really has a marvelous workable plan for marriage. Instead, God’s design for marriage is constantly being pushed to the background. Too many instead embrace infidelity and alternative sexual relationships and listen to bad ungodly, ungodly advice…..
If you are at a place in life and you know that your marriage is not all that it is meant to be… Or if you are having an affair either emotional or physical … Or if you never really thought about the vows you made or the seriousness of marriage…. Or if you have let anything and everyone come between you and your spouse... Know it will not just get better on its own. Marriage like anything else of value takes work, are and maintenance! You must do something, don’t continue to just live in a mystic haze of unhappiness! REPENT! Which simply means to CHANGE IT! Keeping in mind you can only change yourself!
I pray that you did not marry to make one another unhappy... Think about it. Had you ever really thought about it; God totally knows what’s up? You are not fooling Him. Start by giving the courtesy that you extend to your friends, coworkers, acquaintances, lover, strangers or whoever else to the one who you supposedly committed to Love, Honor, Trust and……
Again, and I think it is worth repeating that divorce comes about because the hardening of the heart. Here is what the WORD of God says: “And He answered and said to them, “What did Moses command you?” They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce, and to dismiss her.” And JESUS answered and said to them, “Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote this precept. But from the beginning of the Creation, GOD made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh; so they are not longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what GOD has joined together, let Not man separate…” Mark 10
Take some time and really think about where you are going in your marriage? Have you taken a detour? Pray this prayer or pray your own prayer if you are seeking restoration for your marriage. It is your heart that the Lord is concerned with. Not how you make things appear to others. Embrace the powerfulness of TRUTH! It is here you will discover the TRUE LOVE that can only come from being connected to God! Life is precious!
Everyone comes to marriage with some type of baggage. Life itself can be difficult at times no matter how happy you are. However small or large don't let it weigh your marriage down. Let it be the catalyst for growing in God's Grace together. Build your Covenant Marriage with love, honor, loyalty & respect for this will help you weather and sustain anything. Make it a goal to together build something beautiful that lasts forever.
You can never ever really be happy when you jump from relationship to relationship without dissolving the former conflict. As a matter of fact it is very unhealthy. It just builds up and gains momentum and at some point those issues will appear again. If this has been the case; learn to allow the LORD to purge you from all that major baggage! Give yourself the gift of breaking the cycle of dysfunctional and sometimes generational unhappy relationships.
COME OUT OF DENIAL!!! It’s never too late. Commence to commit to discover and learn healthier relational dynamics then actually implement them in your own marriage NOW! Pledge to committing to the building of a lasting, secure, committed, satisfying, realistic, rewarding, marriage where Love, Respect and mutual concern take the helm. And let "Jesus take the Wheel!” Begin to give up “Me-ness for We-ness!
We first want to say Thank You for being our God and our Father! We Thank You Lord, that we have You to come to at anytime, anywhere and in any and every situation. Lord we Thank You for Your precious Son Jesus Christ who sacrificed His life that we may live life to its fullest. Lord, we come in the name of Jesus asking that you would open the pathway for healing for ________ (name of spouse and his wife ( husband) and restore their marriage. As your servant Lord I come realizing that you know what the needs are here. Without saying Lord you alone know what is going on, and all that has ever happened!
LORD GOD, I pray that you will allow healing and reconciliation to take place. That whatever hurts or disappointments they have experienced can be mended through the power of your undying eternal Love and your precious HOLY SPIRIT! We realize Father that they cannot change anything that has happened. But, they can go forth together keeping, renewing and once again honoring their vows. Father we realize that much spiritual warfare is about them. We realize that it wants to divide and separate them. We ask Lord that they invite you into the messiness to bring about order! Allow them to feel and experience your marvelous omnipresence. Lord we realize that ALL of your promises are true. We ask that you endow them with the necessary strength and wisdom to endure.
Father, WE ASK that you would knit their hearts closely together and allow nothing else to come between them. Lord we ask that they both take personal inventory, repent and seek forgiveness for any wrong doing. We pray that they extend love and patience to one another and that the lines of communication, sensitivity as well as understanding are once again opened. We ask that you will allow all the pain, hurt suffering and disappointment to begin to subside. Lord we ask that forgiveness is welcomed by each of them.
Lord we ask that you would allow your JOY to flow once again from heart to heart between them. Father, we ask that you direct them as they seek you first in building trust, transparency and both physical and emotional intimacy. Father we pray peace over their household. Lord we Thank You for being who You are and we realize that ALL the power, ALL the honor and ALL the glory belongs to You now and forever, and for this we will forever give You all the GLORY, HONOR & PRAISE. Holy Father we ask these and all blessings In the WONDERFUL Name of JESUS ....…
SAY YES LORD! TO YOUR WILL & YOUR WAY!
Together commit to embrace and respect your commitment renewal; TRUST GOD in & for everything! Remember this; Only with GOD does the impossible become POSSIBLE! For He is more than able. Know this; Everyday is a precious GIFT from the LORD! Tomorrow is not promised. Therefore begin today to live everyday to please GOD! ~ "TO GOD BE THE GLORY!!!" ~