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Paid Girlfriends | Because Love Is Never Free

Updated on July 2, 2009

The Dream...

The Reality...

There's apparently an increasing number of young women seeking older men for fiscally based relationships. This is legal because its not solicitation, it's just exchanging your affections for money, not the same thing at all.

An intrepid reporter from the Times, UK detailed her own experiences in the seedy underworld, revealing how she joined a site named because, and wait for it, I am going to quote her here: “It was nothing to do with any gold-digging ambitions; I just wanted to sample some glamour and to be taken out in style. What woman doesn’t?”

Is this attitude representative of the delusions of British women? I certainly hope not. Sampling glamor and being taken out in style may not be gold digging, but it certainly is gold panning, and not all that much less abhorrent to people who like their love the old fashioned way 'for richer or poorer' etc.

If you'd like to read more of her interesting article full of justification of the shallow kind, read it here. It's a laugh a minute. Of course, at the end of it all is the required repudiation of all that paid dating and sugar daddies involves, because even if it does work for some women and men, the mainstream can't support such an idea. (And because, as the author discovered, being paid for favors doesn't leave a very nice taste in most women's mouths.)


The charming authoress finishes her article by chiding the men who believe that emotional bonds can be substituted with cash. Let us be clear here, the entire raison d'etre of this subculture is the fact that men can exchange money to enjoy the benefits of a relationship without the ties that usually hold a man down. Perhaps because the writer is female, she seems to demonize the men in these relationships and glibly excuse the women who are happy enough to take advantage of the man's wallet, after all, women are like crows, they just can't resist shiny things. She herself was happy enough to join their number until she realized that she couldn't have her cake and eat it too in that she could not experience the high life without also realizing that she was being paid and used.

Essentially, this sub culture seems to emphasise the worst traits of men and women. It allows men to 'want only one thing', and it allows women to be 'gold diggers'. If you're happy to settle for that kind of relationship, I see no issue with it. It takes all kinds to make a world, and love comes in many forms. However, if you happen to be a woman and you happen to decide that you'd like to experience the thrills of having a sugar daddy, then don't get your little Swarovski panties in a bunch when you are treated like paid help. A man who knows you're only in it for the money (and if you signed up for a dating site with any variation of 'Sugar Daddy' in the name, then you're just in it for the money, no matter how much you might be lying to yourself through a convulted web of justification,) is not going to respect you in the same way he would a woman who he met on equal terms. It's simply a fact of life. As they say, don't hate the player, hate the game.


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