- Gender and Relationships
Pardon me, am I the Door Woman?
Have you ever been coming out of a store and held the door for someone coming in, only to have them and their offspring march into the store, head held high and not said a WORD? Nothing, not adult, not child. No thanks, no attempt to help hold the door, no manners whatsoever! I bet this has happened to you, hasn't it?
One day, I decided to call someone on this rude behavior. I opened the door to leave a store, and a woman in her late 30's toting her Louis Vuitton purse, and wearing her Prada clothing, marched into the store, with her teenage daughter in tow, never saying a single word, and not allowing me to leave the store first. As I walked through the door, I turned and loudly exclaimed: "YOUR WELCOME!" to this oblivious woman, whom I am certain did not get the gist of my loud retort.
Another time, I was existing Massachusetts transit with a very large suitcase coming from Logan airport. As the "T" stopped, the doors opened, and before anyone could exit the train, people started to load on pushing and shoving their way into the small compartment. I raised my voice again, announcing that those who were entering needed to back up so my daughter and I could roll our suitcases out and make room for them to enter!
Rudeness has become almost epidemic in all parts of the country, and I know as I have lived all over the country! Drivers honk and flip their middle fingers at you, people try to cut in lines, others move into the middle of a lane in order to be able to turn against traffic, often holding lines and tangling traffic. If you are kind enough to let someone in, they ignore this gesture, or the cars behind you begin honking their horns.
While living in Massachusetts, which is THE worst state for driving, bar none, in my estimation, I was at a Dunkin Donuts and paid for my coffee and sat at the drive up waiting my drink. The driver behind me started honking at me to move my car, and my coffee has not yet been poured and handed to me! The entitlement issues people have are astounding to me!
While working in the Boston area a woman came into where my husband and I worked and started SCREAMING at him about her daughters account. My husband, cool and calm, stood while she was screaming and waited until she stopped. He calmly asked her "where all her anger was coming from?" only to have her meet his gaze with her mouth gaping like a fish. She honestly believed he would begin arguing back and when he didn't, she did not know what to do!
While at the grocery store a few months ago, a man nearly ran over me because he was on his cell phone. He turned to me and sarcastically stated:"sorry I did not see you, I was on my cell phone". I told him then he should get off his cell phone then. He looked right at me and said "F--k you lady". This came from a man who I judge was in his early 30's. His comment upset me so much I reported his belligerence to the manager. By this time he was gone, but not before yakking his way out the door and running into several other people. Totally unfazed, he felt it was his "right" to chat away and disregard others.
I try diligently to live my life without judging others, and it is hard to do in this world. But since I am not paid to be the doorman, it would be nice if someone at least reciprocated with a sincere thank you for my efforts. I do not think it is asking too much for someone to remember their manners. We all have to live on this planet, so what is so hard about some appreciation?
Thanks for listening while I vent!