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Plan Your Wedding with Traditions and Keeping on a Wedding Budget
Don't Over Spend
The cost of a wedding is skyrocketing. The average cost is between $26,444 and $33,055. But do not panic most wedding cost less than $10,000. The entertainment is the key to the success of your wedding. The ceremony is just to please your parents. The fun and the memories are made after when you and your friends start the party.
Many bridal parties are planning their own form of entertaining. It might be a custom dance or a short skit. Some couples are putting together videos that intertwine the bride and groom as they grew up. Some put together family memories to thank the parents and friends for ‘putting up’ with them. Whatever you plan is done at very little cost and brings more tears and joy than spending many dollars.
What are The Jobs of Bride and Groom
Today’s brides would like to forgo some of the old bridal traditions, but with a little knowledge, you can have it all and have it your way.
For the bride
1. In biblical times the brides wore blue. Choose the color of your happiness.
2. The veil symbolizes the wife’s submission to her husband. Lifting the veil at the end of the ceremony symbolizes male dominance. But wait, the bride is in control! If the bride lifts the veil in a gesture to give herself to her husband, she is showing independence. (Association of Bridal Consultants)
3. Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue is an old Victorian saying.
4. On the average, 7,000 couples marry each day in the United States.
5. The traditional American wedding averages $22,000. (Conde’ Nast Bridal Group)
For the groom
6. In ancient times the bride was captured by the groom and hid from her family. They hid for a full cycle of the ‘moon’ and drank a ‘honey’ wine.
7. The best man was part of the kidnapping process. His job was to keep the family away while the groom took the bride. (Conde’ Nast Bridal Group)
8. The average cost of a 7 night honeymoon is $3,471.
9. If the groom sees a pigeon, wolf or goat on his way to propose it is extremely good fortune.
10. Snow on the way to the wedding is a sign of fertility and prosperity.
What Are The Jobs for Friends
For the friends
1. Sprinkling sugar on the bride’s bouquet keeps her temper sweet.
2. If the bride’s family didn’t approve of the groom, they gave no dowry. The bride’s friends ‘showered’ her with gifts
3. Throwing rice represents fertility and many children.
4. Cans and old shoes tied to the car bring good luck by protecting against evil spirits.
5. Dressing alike is to cause confusion for the spirits and sending them away from the wedding. (Association of Bridal Consultants)
For the Ceremony
6. Every year an average of 2.4 million weddings are performed in the United States. (http://wedding.theknot.com)
7. 175 guests are invited to an average wedding.
8. The first kiss is the sharing and joining of souls.
9. Seventeen tons of gold is made into wedding rings each year in the United States. (http://wedding.theknot.com)
10. The longest wedding dress train was found in Germany and measured 515 feet.
For the Reception
11. Legend states when a bride and groom drink, whoever finishes first will rule the family.
12. If the younger of two sisters marries first, the older sister must dance barefoot at the wedding. (Conde’ Nast Bridal Group)
13. Several cakes were stacked on top of another. It was the bride and groom’s task to kiss over the tower without knocking it over. If successful they have a life of good fortune.
14. Whoever catches the bridal bouquet, will be the next one to get married.
15. The cutting of the cake with the groom’s hand on top to symbolize his desire to take care of her.
You have the opportunity to make your day as special and unique as you can dream. Guests are more relaxed and have more fun when you are happy and carefree.What are The Jobs
Spend Only What You Can Afford
Sticking to a wedding budget
The key to saving for any reason is to spend less than you earn. Now you have a wedding in your future. You know the date, so you know how much time you have. You need to start off with a budget. Decide how much you are willing to pay for this one day, once in a life time event. Times have changed and so have weddings. Many brides and grooms are paying for their own weddings. They are less formal than their parents and grandparents. Theme weddings, taking place in another country, state, boat, ski lodge or other venue. Decisions, decisions, decisions, have to be made before any procedures can begin.
When budgeting for a wedding, plan $100.00 per guest. This would provide $50.00 for the food and $50.00 for all the other wedding arrangements. If this is going to be a huge affair, you might want to hire a wedding planner. Again this adds to the expenses column. If the couple is doing all the planning by themselves it is best to start with a budget and a limit. The average cost of a wedding in 2009 was $28,500.
Some parents start saving for weddings as they saved for college education. Once the college is paid off, they continue with the same savings plan and use that money for a wedding. If the wedding never takes place, this money is moved into retirement funds or invested.
A money market account is an easy way to plan such an event. Save money in a money market bank account and withdraw to pay for the wedding. This money will be making a higher interest rate than a regular savings account. You may be limited to the number of withdrawals. No problem if you have a wedding budget, just take out one lump sum and use from checking account.
A regular savings account is okay for saving, but the interest rates are low. You can withdraw this money at any time. This account needs to be started as soon as the couple gets engaged, if pre-planning was not done.
Weddings can get too extravagant and cause more debt. It is up to you to prevent this. Stick to the limits and start trimming as soon as the red inks starts showing up.
Who's Idea Was All This Stuff?
Capturing my Love
There are many traditions or beginnings that followed marriage from early days to present. First type of marriage was capture, where the caveman just stole the woman he wanted. Second was the purchase or the arranged marriage. The man bought the woman via a contract. They all lead us to the modern way of marriage, love, planning and plenty of spending.
The best man in today’s ceremony could be related to the caveman times when the bride was captured. The warriors often help tribe members capture the woman they wanted. Then the best man or warrior stood by and protected the bride and groom incase the families tried to find the bride and bring her home. The honeymoon is thought to be the time the warriors would hide the new bride and groom until the families got tired of looking for them.
Origin of a Bridal Shower
In ancient Israel brides were told to wear something blue because it was the symbol of purity, fidelity and love. Having bridesmaids is from Roman times where ten witnesses were needed at the solemn marriage ceremony. Today’s guests throw rice at the newly married couples. Years ago tribes ate rice together. Eating together was the symbol for living together as a couple and rice was the abundant food. The bride and groom ate first, and then the guests sprinkled rice over them. The custom of throwing the rice at the bride and groom was an interpretation of this.
The circle is a symbol of completeness. A ring was used to represent the rounding out of the person’s life. Caveman used a bracelet on the arm or leg to indicate the capture of their woman. The first known people to use wedding rings were the Egyptians. The ring is worn on the fourth finger of the left hand. It is believed by ancient Greeks that a vein passed from this finger to the heart.
Years ago a girl in Holland wanted to marry a miller. He did not have much money, but he used to give his flour and bread to the poor. The father of the girl refused to give his daughter her dowry if she married the poor miller. The people of the town heard about this and decided to give small gifts to the girl and the miller so they could marry. They walked to her house and ‘showered’ her with their gifts. This is how the bridal shower custom started.
Smashing Good Cake
Wedding cakes go back to Roman times. The richest families made a special kind of cake. The bride and groom ate the cake and shared with some special guests. Then the cake was broken over the bride’s head as a sign of plentifulness. The other guests took pieces of the cake and ate so they would also have plentifulness in their lives.
In Europe guests would bring wedding spiced buns and piled on a table. The bride and groom were to kiss each other over the mound for good luck. A French cook thought it would be a good idea to make a mound of little cakes. This little action lead to the start of wedding cakes.
The whole key to your wedding is to enjoy the day. Don’t stress out in trying to make everything prefect, or try to please everyone. When everything is said and done the only two people who matter, are the bride and groom. Do it your way!