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Practical Therapy: Knowing and Understanding Relationships Vol. 6
The War Within. The... Booty??? Without
We are all creatures of wanting.
We want to be nurtured and cared for. It feeds us.
Makes us grow.
A lack of nurturing drives us mad, in many ways, that most times we don't realize, to ourselves. It becomes not only an internal, but an external manifestation as well.
This takes us on the next stretch of our journey.
Part 2: A Matter of Sex: Being intuitive
Awash with an obstinate belief that this series is unique, amongst others of its' genre-all authors believe the same, I'm sure-it is my sincere hope that no one, searching for love or ways to keep that fire from dying, will feel excluded or as well off or more confused, than before they stumbled into this hub series, when finally this series have been concluded.
Being a person, of this excitingly "modern" world, on my part, I have made and will continue to make every effort to be "politically" correct and not offend anyone.
It is my belief, through experience, that love is non-discriminating in it's choosing. It has many levels, and takes on many different forms.
Not in the least.
In this second and last portion of this chapter, like in the first part, we are dealing with the personal aspect of an intimate relationship.
However, unlike the first part, instead of focusing on your own personal relationship with self, you'll be placing most of the focus on the self-intimacy of your partner, potential partner, or pretend partner.
I said pretend.
Understand that the intimacy of self is exactly that. A personal understanding and knowledge of yourself that no one except you can fully understand and appreciate.
That's what makes it so important. From that personal relationship is derived your feelings of loves, hatreds and opinions for and about things and experiences that you encounter throughout your life.
When we talk about focusing on the self intimacy of another, we're not talking about actually finding out the specific details of their interpersonal relationship. That would be impossible, without some extensive, exhaustive and, probably, embarrassing probing, particularly if you're dealing with a pretend partner or potential partner.
The focus that we are referring to is on the observing of the individuals subconscious external presentations of the internal relationship with self.
As mates-partners, if it makes you more comfortable-we have the responsibility to be so many things: a counselor, a teacher, a student, a psychologist. Sometimes, one at a time. Sometimes, all at once, depending on what situations, troubles and obstacles life may install.
Certain people have a natural affinity for certain things, while certain, other people have a natural affinity for certain, other things. Some people are natural listeners, with an almost endless reserve of patience. Some people are born with an uncanny charisma, that many others would find irresistible.
The things that don't come natural to us, we must learn, to some workable level of proficiency, for the benefit of our significant other.
This is where that natural human intuition comes in. But, before we really get into it, it is important to not lose focus, on what this chapter is really about. The title, "The War Within. The...Booty? Without.", is directly referring to your individual part, in an intimate relationship. It is not only referring to discovering and understanding yourself, but also internally developing your intuitiveness toward other people.
Being able to instinctively know what your partners needs are and knowing your partners emotional states is important to an intimate relationship.
Sometimes we, as human beings, have a difficult time expressing how we feel and end up keeping a lot of emotions bottled up. Sometimes we want someone to just know when we need affection and attention. Sometimes that responsibility will fall on you.
When you can intuitively identify the needs of someone else, coupled with a secure intimate relationship with self, you can enjoy the booty without-the treasure of a stable and healthy relationship.
Okay. With that having been said, we can go on with focusing on your partner.
In our next segment, A Matter of Sex, continued: Gender, we'll take a more relative look at the male vs. female aspect of a relationship.
Until next time, well met and be well.