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Updated on August 12, 2013
Mister Rogers
Mister Rogers

Where has the respect gone?

Aretha Franklin was singing about it in the 60’s and she demanded it, but today many people don’t know what respect is and even worse certainly aren’t giving it. The times have changed, oh how they’ve changed. Depending on how old you are and what era you were born it will certainly affect the timeline of this rapid decline in respect. Remember the days of Leave it to Beaver; I do thanks to syndication in the 80’s when I was growing up. It’s funny if you look at any sitcom that originally aired in black and white you will most likely see respect given and received. Mr. and Mrs., Sir and Ma’am, Yes Father, and Yes Mother; how often do you hear these terms in your daily life? I would suspect not very often. Somewhere between the 80’s and 90’s we stopped calling our neighbors Mr. and Mrs., but instead called them by their first names; we equaled the playing field.

I think part of the problem is that so many people are concerned with be equal to others that they have this misconception that showing another respect will compromise their own position. On the contrary, respect is more likely to be given when it is received, it is called mutual respect.


Respect - Aretha Franklin

Huh?

George W. Bush
George W. Bush

Respect; Can you define it?

Respect, who should be giving it and who should be getting it? Everyone! It seems that everyone wants respect, but yet so many people fail to give respect to those they want it from in return. What is respect? According to Merriam-Webster, Respect in the sense I’m addressing is; “high or special regard”. No wonder the confusion! Respect according to me is the treatment of another that does not compromise integrity. That is to say no person, either the giver or the receiver of respect is treated, behaves or responds in a manner that would decrease either’s value.

Shh, okay okay whatever you want honey bear

I don't care!!!!!!!

Respect your child

Show a little respect...

One of my biggest concerns is the lack of children I see giving their parents respect. Whose fault is that? Is the media to blame, is modern technology to blame, is it Hollywood and our violent movies and television shows, or is it rap music or heavy metal? No! No is the obvious answer because the first and foremost to blame for children not respecting their children is their parents! Yep, that’s what I said. Who else is going to be teaching our kids respect, Barney or Mister Rogers? Sure, there are ways to assist in teaching respect but it needs to be practiced and the lack thereof needs to be addressed. I see small children telling their mothers how it’s goin’ to be in Walmart. Sure, lets excuse the behavior on their age, but if that behavior is understood to be acceptable at that age what do you think is going to happen when they become teenagers? If a child does not have respect at an early age they aren’t going to magically develop it later, when they become more intimidating.


Does this mean that we as parents should not be giving our children respect? No, but that is not to be confused like treating our children that they are equals to us either, or they will treat us like we are on their level and quite frankly, the role between parent and child should be superior and inferior. A good parent will show their child respect and love and be nurturing and help build good self-esteems, but also provide discipline, rules and consequences. These are tools that children will need in the real world and by coddling them at home will only leave them vulnerable to poor interactions later. A child who is not taught how to respect a parent will more than likely resent that parent later in life, it is an essential life tool.If respect is not taught, given and demanded then self-esteems will probably crumble somewhere later in life and once the child reaches the age in adulthood around his mid-20’s when brains fully develop coping, reasoning and understand, he will blame his psychological or emotional problems on you.


I love you too dear

Lead by example

The respect that parent’s teach and demonstrate their children are essential for all relationships in life; peer to peer, sibling to sibling, student to teacher and lover to lover. Respect starts with the head of the home and one of the best ways to teach and explain respect is to live it. When there are two adults in a home it is crucial that they show respect for each other, for the health and sake of themselves, their relationship and for the child. If a child sees a lack of respect or blatant disrespect between either or both parents then all the teaching and lecturing about respect in the world won’t mean anything. The adults are only cementing the idea that respect is an option and not a necessity.

Time for School!

Has anyone happened to notice the drastic change in relationships at school, student to student and student to teacher? Teachers are no longer aloud to discipline without fear of repercussions from some entitled parent who feels their child was treated unfairly. Students bully students, daily, kids are taking their own lives and taking the lives of other students. Teachers practice the idea that students are their equal, compromising the superior adult role they should have and far too many teachers have had inappropriate relationships with students. No, no no! It is the parents’ job to teach respect, not the teachers; the teachers should require respect and not tolerate the lack thereof. If kids are being taught about respect and I mean being genuinely taught respect then there would be far less bullying because that is an ultimate for of disrespect and it should be foreign to a child. Sure, every child in their lifetime is going to have their feelings hurt at one point or another by a comment made; a comment that may or may not have been intended to hurt. That is normal, that is a part of life. But…no child should be subjected to repeated ridicule, ever. Teachers need to maintain a level of respect in their classrooms without fear. I don’t mean ruler slapping, paddle, dunce-cap, ear pulling kind of discipline like back in the day (the days I might add when children respected their elders.)

I know a parent, who is actually a friend of mine, that told me last year her 8th grade daughter “just got suspended for punching a teacher”. I said; “Oh my God, what did you do?” She replied; “I called the school and told them that the teacher shouldn’t have grabbed my daughter’s shirt, I would’ve punched ‘em too”. I couldn’t even nod my head and smile like I agreed. I didn’t even know how to exit the conversation or the room for that matter. I don’t know what this world is coming to when schools are being harassed because teachers attempt to have some control of their classrooms and students.

Respect and You

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Ziyena,

      Ah, good point! I have to admit; I can't stand shows like 'Jerry Springer' either. What really annoys me is the following he and the show still has, talk about smut and lack of respect?!

      Well, let's hope it can be again!

      Thanks so much for the visit!

      Cat

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      ziyena 4 years ago from ... Somewhere Out There ...

      We started losing respect the very first day "Married with Children" started airing on television ... it's all gone down hill from there. Thanks for reminding us of what used to be Cat! UP

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      Shannon 4 years ago from Texas

      Come on now, stop telling everyone I was born tardy in 1982. You're just jealous because you're older. :-p

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Ha ha, well then you certainly are better at multi-tasking than I am, my kitty-that-loves-to-purr-twin-sister-born-three-months-tardy-in-1982-seperated-at-birth!

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      Shannon 4 years ago from Texas

      Yes, you remember that book, no? If it makes you feel any better, I have 6 tabs currently open. Trying to get organized.. .story of my life, my dear kitty-cat-twin-sister-born-three-months-apart-separated-at-birth.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Hey, I was going to say, my kids know respect, 'cause they know they'd get a boot in they arse otherwise, but I figured you think that was too much :D haha

      Ticky Ticky Timbo :D

      I need to find my way to some of those prose (hey that rhymes!)... just gotta get through the 7 tabs I have open first :D my kitty-that-loves-to-purr-twin-sister-born-three-months-tardy-in-1982-seperated-at-birth!

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      Shannon 4 years ago from Texas

      Eh, I wish my kids knew! I'd like to beat it into them! I just found myself saying shortly before I read this that they have to give respect in order to earn it when they wanted me to do something.

      Ticky Ticky Timbo. . .

      You're very welcome, my kitty-cat-twin-sister-born-three-months-apart-separated-at-birth

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Eh, eh... you like that? Not the image I remember of Mister Rogers, ha ha ha... actually he's singing "Where is Thumbkin", but the still shot is perfection. I guess it is my attempt to be dramatic as I see respect as a dying thing.

      Ha ha ha ha... well if that ain't a mouthful, oh my goodness, I'm laughing out loud!!!

      You're right, respect should be earned, but the sad part is... so many kids are no longer being taught how to give it or earn it :-( My kids know... and I bet yours do too!

      Thanks for stopping my kitty-that-loves-to-purr-twin-sister-born-three-months-tardy-in-1982-seperated-at-birth! Ha ha... I'm tired now :D

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      Shannon 4 years ago from Texas

      You know what caught my eye to read this hub? Your feature picture speaks of respect, yet you have Mr. R there flipping the bird - with two hands!

      Oh, my kitty-cat-twin-sister-born-three-months-apart-separated-at-birth, respect is sorely lacking in both children and adults. It should be earned and one has to give it to receive it.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      HappyMikeWritter,

      Thank you so much, how kind! I simply appreciate the importance of respect and thought some of the world might agree with me. I'm glad you enjoyed it. Thank you for reading!

      Cat

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      HappyMikeWritter 4 years ago

      Many should read this amazing hub about respect. you wrote it incredibly that even me could understand. Thank you for sharing it :-)

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Ed,

      Thank you so much... you have no idea how much that means, especially coming from you. I'm not one to be easily offended, but that is the one area of judgement that can hurt most when criticized.

      You're right, no one is perfect, but those of us who can recognize that are much further ahead than those who can't.

      Thanks Ed, you're the best!!!

      I'll be your Mommy any day :-)

      Cat

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      ahorseback 4 years ago

      Cat , I can tell , as a parent , that you are one of the best ! Once in awhile someone comes along who we can see instantly , that they are a true leader , of course none of us are perfect ! But in order to be near perfect we have to first recognize the problems of our culture .........And YOU got it girly ! .......I want you for a Mommy !.....lol...your bud ..Ed

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      R.Q.

      No, no, no, it's not's ignorance... as a kid in America, you just assume everyone in the world is doing and seeing the same things you are as a child. Well, now he's nothing more than a stiff guy in the ground, he died a few years ago, but definitely an American Icon.

      'Married with Children'... no wonder people think what they do of Americans, ha ha ha! Honestly... it is a funny show and it came out at a time that my age really appreciated it. It stirred up a little controversy back in the day for being a little rash, but, all in good fun... who cares?

      And... by the way... you started it. Besides, what kind of an EMT would I be if I only worried about chest compressions and not respirations? :-)

      All in the name of saving a life, all in the name of saving a life... ;-)

      Keep pettin'

      Cat

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      Romeos Quill 4 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

      Cat

      I'm afraid I have to plead ignorance on this one,petal,although the ambiguity of a clean-cut,wholesome,American institution flicking the bird ,really hit the spot(tee!hee!)...And now an ordained minister?Amazing.

      The main American 'family'-type program over here that I recall when I was growing up was Al Bundy in 'Married With Children' - really silly,but made me howl;and that last sentence you wrote...stop it! lol! you're like an explosion in my head,sending it into a thousand different,forbidden places...wow!!

      Keep Purring,

      R.Q.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      R.Q.

      Is Mister Rogers unknown in Enlgand??? I'm shocked... he was the friendly neighbor that rocked our TV sets every day as a child in America. :-) I couldn't resist this picture of him, it is so out of character, not to mention, I recently found out he was an ordained minister!!! (Secret... he was singing a child's song that required hand gestures... just a paused clip from a video).

      Don't forget how important the respiratory system is in CPR, I must keep my lips warm as well :-)

      You're so sweet!

      More love than I know what to do with,

      Cat

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      Romeos Quill 4 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

      Cat

      Whenever I flick on this page,that photo of the guy flicking the double bird tickles me.

      I could be in for a few heart attacks with you around - be sure to keep those lovely C.P.R hands warm!

      ...Your modesty is surpassed,only by your beauty.

      A Captivated,

      R.Q.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      R.Q.

      Oh Romeo, My Romeo... I need look no further for true Romeo! :-)

      Eh... Wonderwoman... I wish, but alas, just a simple girl from a little town, born and raised around a lot of boys.

      I won't be looking to dowse any flames of passion but I will restart your heart of course! :-)

      You're toooo kind my dear, really!

      Your biggest admirer,

      Cat

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      Romeos Quill 4 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

      Cat

      " O Captain,My Captain! "

      I'm happy to soak up the atmosphere from the theatre of your happy heart.Wow! You're just an all-round Wonderwoman really,aren't you?

      Not only could you dowse these flames of passion,if they became too hot,but if I died in your arms,you could also restart my heart with your dainty,fluttering lashes :)

      An awestruck,

      Romeo's Quill

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      R.Q.

      Good morning to you dear… I am feeling good today, even better now ;-)

      Eh… I’m not worried about the flow of my comments, so long as there is a flow above, I don’t care what happens down here… my comments section on all of my hubs are always all over the place and interesting, to say the least.

      I’m assuming you’ve got strong shoulders, but I really hope morons like that don’t get to you. I had to step away for a moment, but I did see you’ve published a new hub and I couldn’t help but notice the connection… I will be checking it out momentarily :D

      I’m a Captain in my Volunteer Fire Department and an EMT, it’s been almost 15 years now. I love working for/with the public, but it’s not the most respected “job” in the world… I’ll tell you that, but luckily, I have big shoulders too! :-)

      Respect; hard to gain, easy to lose… yes, you couldn’t be more right! You said it all and so beautifully I cannot even compare with my humble words! Though, I think I tend to give respect until someone compromises it, whereas some harsh critics make you earn it from the get go. I’m so happy to see you this morning! :-)

      You’re beautiful infinity! Ha! ;-)

      Cat

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      Romeos Quill 4 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

      Cat

      Good morning sweetness;hoping you're feeling well today;

      You can remove those comments,if you want to,if you think it interferes with the flow,and good vibe of your page.You can't be responsible for what some cracker sicks onto your page-it's not down to you to swat flies!Someone must have sent 'him' that video excerpt for his birthday,and 'he' just tried to offload an unwanted pressie!-sad,really.But;to turn a negative into a positive,it did inspire me to publish a Hub,in the form of a rhyme,to highlight these kinds of people,Water off a duck's back to me;they're just a waste of airtime.

      Anyway! Enough of the bitter,and back to the more delicious,and savoury Cat Queen of New York - slurp!lol!

      Drill,you say?Are you involved somewhere in the public services? Sounds intriguing-more strings to your talented bow,no doubt.

      Regarding your reply to my response to your article;respect seems hard to gain,but easy to lose;it is a shame when it is absent,because a good flow of healthy respect tends to act like oil in machinery,making every other quality breathe much easier.I try and respect God,and by extension,makes relating to other folk so much simpler.When the cultivation of manners,morals and values,as you mentioned, become neglected,then things like respect,tend to fall quite far down the list of priorities,because they seem to hold no monetary value to the people with this false perception.

      You're beautiful,Cat;

      R.Q.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      R.Q.

      Now... back to what's important... what was that you were saying about me? ;-)

      Honestly, you're too generous with your opinions of me and/or my writing... gee, I thinked I'd need to buy a thesaurus or keep Google handy if I were to spend a day with you in real life... you speak a language that I can read beautifully, but write them? You simply amaze me, over and over and over again :-)

      Geesh, you could probably be my agent, something tells me you could sell anything to anyone... it would be a glorious relationship!

      Seriously, I loved your response, it was so well-stated, it could've been a hub of it's own. Personally, I'm kind of the "easy" person, but there are still things that are absolutely necessary for kids to learn. Gosh, I just don't know where respect and manners, morals and values, etc. have gone. It wasn't all that long ago I was a kid and boy how the world has changed. Someone did a fine job with you as I don't recall the last time I have seen such respect, especially coming from a guy that could afford to be arrogant due to your mind-numbing writing and sweetness... you are beyond a Romeo... I truly appreicate all that you are, honestly.

      The heart has melted,

      Cat

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      R.Q.

      Okay, now I'm just annoyed. I'm sorry Romeo, I wish I could control outsiders. I'm not allowing "his" (a.k.a. faceless, jealous guy with apparently no life and too much time) comment to be displayed. I'm sorry, if you're concerned about other visiters wondering what you're responding to, I can get rid of your comments as well, but will leave them unless you tell me otherwise in the event this moron comes back. Just let me know. I've told you before, you're free to speak whatever you'd like on my pages... I certainly would not expect or accept you not defending yourself though I have this guilty feeling that I should be defending my friend and visitor... I feel like you were left vulnerable on my page... sorry... I don't even understand how or why someone would've gone out of their way to come over here or bother commenting. Again, I apologize... gee, I don't want you to start fearing visiting my pages due to immature nutjobs like this. Honestly, I've only seen this once before. He and that... just knocked the wind out of my sails.

      Still love ya!

      Cat

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      R.Q.

      First, I have to say... ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha! :D

      Second... I just got back from drill a few moments ago and am absolutely blown away by the extent of content in which you have blessed me while I was gone. So bare with me my dear while I absorb what I've missed and I will be back with a more appropriate response! Oh, and I missed you terribly!

      Yours,

      Cat

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      Romeos Quill 4 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

      @Maxunwell??

      P.S. Your video was actually quite funny,but technically inaccurate.

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      Romeos Quill 4 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

      Cat

      My apologies for interrupting your page with this nonsense.Too many decent people being spammed on here,recently.

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      Romeos Quill 4 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

      @Maxwell??

      ...Or whatever your name is.Well,Spammer;that's the second time you've spammed today.Two hits means that you have been triangulated,and electronically tagged.It's always the dumb,faceless cowards who drop themselves in it.

      Do you really want to tangle with Her Britannic Majesty's Royal Air Force Parachute Regiment?I would strongly advise against it,as they don't back down...ever.

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      Romeos Quill 4 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

      Cat

      This articulate Hub article,of which you've obviously spent time,and golden thought in the employment of its' production,is an absorbing,engrossing,and informative quality read.

      The respect problem that I've noticed is where some parents try to treat their children more as friends,rather than a proper father/daughter,son/mother relationship etc...,thus blurring the line of demarcation of proper discipline,which can only detract in the long-term welfare of that child;kids tend to pick up quickly on this particular mode of lazy parenting,and wind up riding roughshod over their then confused caregiver,leading that parent to scratch their head years later,wondering where they went wrong.

      Just an opinion,but I think you should seriously consider writing more of these articles,and make an added income by selling them to a press agency(I haven't checked the ones in New York,but there is a large one here in the U.K. ' SWNS.com'- of which I am not affiliated with,by way of disclaimer).All the major newspapers and magazines buy their stories from said press agency,of which you submit your article to,sign the form,and the highest bidder buys your piece-which you can sometimes sell over,and over again at different times,to different papers/mags.

      So many clicks from me,for a creative, smart and shockingly wonderful Cat.

      Yours Truly,

      R.Q.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Plumber,

      Well, get around to posting them already, geesh! I just think we lose a lot when we lose respect. I see a huge connection between relationships in the world and the lack of respect. I see a lot of kids with a look on their face of "Who do they think they are?"... your elders that's who! Kids aren't taught to respect their teachers anymore... I'm not even sure if they know what respect really is. If they aren't taught respect, chances are they won't demand it for themselves either. Thanks a bunch Plumber!

      Cat

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      gaplumber 4 years ago

      Cat, I have several written on this subject, maybe get around to posting them one day. When we were kids it was a slap or spanking if you did not say ma'am and sir, and it was said to anyone that was an adult regardless of race or creed. Yes it is all on the parents, my bus driver and teachers were told to spank if needed and then you got one when you got home. "Spar the rod, spoil the child" agree and voted up

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Paul Kuehn,

      Thanks! It's very frustrating to see how much things have changed in what seems like such a short time since I was a child. We had manners, we had respect and that's all there was to it. Even the trouble makers in town or at school still showed signs of respect, they just got in trouble too. Teachers aren't given any respect anymore and it's too sad, kids aren't being taught how to give it and teachers are afraid to demand it. Personally, I think we just aren't leading by example in our homes anymore. Is respect dead?

      I think that's great the way the students in Thailand show respect. What does this say about Thailand, or worse, what does it say about America?

      Thanks so much for the comments and all the sharing, I'm blown away and honored.

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      Paul Richard Kuehn 4 years ago from Udorn City, Thailand

      Cantuhearmescream,

      This is a great hub and you make absolutely correct points about respect. Yes, respect begins in the home with the relationships between family members. Far too often, a lot of kids come from broken families where there doesn't seem to be much respect. Furthermore, they listen to music which has lyrics not showing any respect to women or people in authority. Is it any wonder that the schools and teachers have an extremely hard time demanding respect from students? In Thailand, all students in my school show their respect to teachers at the beginning of class by standing up and greeting the teacher. Voted up and sharing with followers and on Facebook. Also Pinning and Tweeting.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      mr-veg,

      I will always give respect, even when it's not entirely deserved. I know I don't have to worry about you; you're a wonderful and respectful man. Thank you and you as well.

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      mr-veg 4 years ago from Colorado United States

      Good Job Mommy Cat :) hope we always have the mutual respect going on :) You enjoy your evening and get towards publishing your awesome hubs as usual :)

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      mr-veg,

      You're too kind. I like to play and joke around but there are also issues that I would to see change. There is so much violence and anger and hatred in the world anymore. I think a large problem is the lack of respect, people don't have any self-respect and so they don't demand it and others don't know how to respect because they aren't being taught or shown by good examples. I don't care if my kids are the last ones in the world to know about respect, I'm going to see to it they do!

      Same back to you mr-veg!

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      mr-veg 4 years ago from Colorado United States

      See Cat, this is what I call, put bright light sweetly and effectively on a ongoing issue. I do completely agree with you and I love the concept of mutual respect and the way you described the levels of it ! Equality does make sense but not at the cost of losing respect, and you made it all clear with your precise and sparkling hub ! Kudos to you !! I thought of delving into these hubs and writing down one, but hold on, you are already doing that Job effectively and your determinations shows it all :)

      Great going, keep pouring out the words and am here to catch, spread and appreciate them ;)

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      spartucusjones,

      Gee, thanks! Yes, Mister Rogers and Rodney Dangerfield were necessary; I can't get all mushy on my people all at once. We must be diverse!

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      CJ Baker 4 years ago from Parts Unknown

      Very timely hub. I agree that respect is something that is solely lacking. I also got a kick out of the Mister Rogers photo and the Rodney Dangerfield video.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Michael,

      Awww, you're too kind, that or off your rocker? Just kidding, actually I think you are very perceptive! ;-)

      Right back at ya buddy!

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      Michael John Mele 4 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @Cantuhearmescream girl I am hoping to one day get around to reading all of your hubs...but I'm old and can't go for too long without falling asleep.

      You're one of the best writers here on the Hub.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Michael,

      Thank you buddddy! Thanks for coming by ;-)

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      CJ Sledgehammer,

      Thank you. It is a hard place and time to live. I am a lover of all children and want to protect the all, but unfortunately we are creating a generation of "entitled" kids, kids who think they have more rights than adults. Kids know that teachers have limited abilities nowadays, I'm not saying I think we need to go back to rulers, paddles and ear-pulling, but teachers can only stand by and watch children be disrespectful without many options for discipline. Respect isn't being demanded and it's not being given. How does the youngest of children know to respect a teacher? They are taught in the home.

      I agree that many parents' hands are tied and another majority of the hands are simply sleeping or busy pushing the buttons of an electronic device.

      A couple of years ago, my teenage niece was punished for something minor at home. The next afternoon my sister-in-law showed up at my house in hysterics because CPS had just left her house. Her daughter had reported to the school that she had been abused at home the night before (which I can assure you wasn't the case). She felt so violated being accused and forced to explain herself to strangers because of her daughter's allegations. It's too sad.

      You're right, setting a good example is far better than simply "having all the answers". Kids are products of their environments and they will pick up what they see. Too bad so many relationships in the world today are unhealthy; we are sending our kids out into the world with chips on their shoulders, bad attitudes and a lack of respect.

      Thanks CJ!

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      CJ Sledgehammer 4 years ago

      Dear Cat:

      A well written and thorough presentation. Well done, my dear, well done indeed. :0)

      Indeed, respect begins with the parents...you are so right about that. It is also known that 75% of classroom instruction revolves around classroom discipline. Talk about a grand waste of time and money.

      One of the main problems we have as a society is the "Nanny State". The Federal and State government make it very difficult to parent these days and they believe our children are their own.

      It is very difficult for many parents to receive proper respect, when the hands of many parents are tied.

      Case in point: A few short years ago, I knew a young fella who knew how to play the system. When his parents sent him to bed before he wanted to...he simply called the police and told them his parents hit him. This happened on more than one occasion. His parents were a good natured couple and I knew their family well.

      You would be surprised how litigious our children have become. The parents feed, protect and cloth their children...but "Big Brother" and the Nanny State own them.

      The best thing a parent can do is to set a sterling example on what it means to be a good man or woman and that requires integrity, morality and a strong character.

      So, take your children to church, to the park, pray together, play together, volunteer together, spend time together and simply love one another. As has been said, "The best gift a father can do for his children is to love their mother."

      Best wishes, behave and be well - C.J. Sledgehammer

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      Michael John Mele 4 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      I freaking love this hub...so well written and full of so much truth...thanks for sharing.

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      KrisL 4 years ago from S. Florida

      Priceless! Love your sense of humor.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      KrisL,

      Just kidding! Actually it's just a still frame from a really old episode in which he was singing "Where is Thumpkin?" at his famous kitchen table. Just so happens that he was on "middle-finger" in the clip. Too funny though isn't it? Thanks for the comments!

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      KrisL,

      Oh the photo of my Uncle Fred? Simple, it was in my photo album... he doesn't know I have it but I don't think he'd mind... after all, I put it to good use. :-)

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      KrisL 4 years ago from S. Florida

      You're making some great points here!

      How in the world did you get that photo of Mr. Rogers . .. um . . . giving us the finger? There's got to be a story there -- or a photoshop miracle.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      xstatic,

      Thank you very much, I'm honored!

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      Jim Higgins 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

      Really well done and interesting! I echo Epi and billubuc's praise.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      epigramman,

      Thank you so much, I'm honored... some people just don't get it. I appreciate you pointing out The Staple Singers song, maybe I'll add the link. I had originally thought to add some kind of capsule asking people to add any songs about respect that they could think of but I wasn't sure how to execute it. Oh, George Carlin could get me into some trouble around here, though my father made sure that I knew him very well growing up. Thank you again, it's not every day someone sings my praises.

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      Gotta love Mister Rodgers flipping the bird , lol.

      And you even included the clown prince of respect , Rodney. lol

      This is a world class hub presentation if I ever saw/read one and another great respect song is Respect yourself by the Staple Singers.

      You are a breath of irreverent fresh air but with all of the great ones (yourself included) like George Carlin and Will Rogers - you speak the truth and show the way - hubbravo to you from the Epi-man for your creative genius. Please check your fan mail.

      Sending to you my sincere warmest wishes and good energy from lake erie time ontario canada 4:55pm courtesy of Colin , Little Miss Tiffy and Mister Gabriel

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Thank you Ruth! It would be nice to think we might be able to get a little respect back, but it doesn't look very promising.

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      Ruth Lanham 4 years ago

      Well said and thank you for saying it.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      btrbell,

      Thank you! I would like to think that I am not alone in caring about the lost of respect, though I'm not sure we'll see any improvements anytime soon. Thanks again.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Great hub! Respect (or lack, there of...) is crucial! You have hit all the critical points. Nice! Thank you!

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      billybuc,

      I'm so honored you stopped by! Thank you. I appreciate the compliment, but really I can't wait to get to your Hubs. Thanks again.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well my new friend, you may not earn much money on HubPages, but you will be entertaining to read, and you speak my language. Excellent hub.