R-E-S-P-E-C-T; Find Out What It Means To Me
Where has the respect gone?
Aretha Franklin was singing about it in the 60’s and she demanded it, but today many people don’t know what respect is and even worse certainly aren’t giving it. The times have changed, oh how they’ve changed. Depending on how old you are and what era you were born it will certainly affect the timeline of this rapid decline in respect. Remember the days of Leave it to Beaver; I do thanks to syndication in the 80’s when I was growing up. It’s funny if you look at any sitcom that originally aired in black and white you will most likely see respect given and received. Mr. and Mrs., Sir and Ma’am, Yes Father, and Yes Mother; how often do you hear these terms in your daily life? I would suspect not very often. Somewhere between the 80’s and 90’s we stopped calling our neighbors Mr. and Mrs., but instead called them by their first names; we equaled the playing field.
I think part of the problem is that so many people are concerned with be equal to others that they have this misconception that showing another respect will compromise their own position. On the contrary, respect is more likely to be given when it is received, it is called mutual respect.
Respect - Aretha Franklin
Respect; Can you define it?
Respect, who should be giving it and who should be getting it? Everyone! It seems that everyone wants respect, but yet so many people fail to give respect to those they want it from in return. What is respect? According to Merriam-Webster, Respect in the sense I’m addressing is; “high or special regard”. No wonder the confusion! Respect according to me is the treatment of another that does not compromise integrity. That is to say no person, either the giver or the receiver of respect is treated, behaves or responds in a manner that would decrease either’s value.
Shh, okay okay whatever you want honey bear
I don't care!!!!!!!
Respect your child
Show a little respect...
One of my biggest concerns is the lack of children I see giving their parents respect. Whose fault is that? Is the media to blame, is modern technology to blame, is it Hollywood and our violent movies and television shows, or is it rap music or heavy metal? No! No is the obvious answer because the first and foremost to blame for children not respecting their children is their parents! Yep, that’s what I said. Who else is going to be teaching our kids respect, Barney or Mister Rogers? Sure, there are ways to assist in teaching respect but it needs to be practiced and the lack thereof needs to be addressed. I see small children telling their mothers how it’s goin’ to be in Walmart. Sure, lets excuse the behavior on their age, but if that behavior is understood to be acceptable at that age what do you think is going to happen when they become teenagers? If a child does not have respect at an early age they aren’t going to magically develop it later, when they become more intimidating.
Does this mean that we as parents should not be giving our children respect? No, but that is not to be confused like treating our children that they are equals to us either, or they will treat us like we are on their level and quite frankly, the role between parent and child should be superior and inferior. A good parent will show their child respect and love and be nurturing and help build good self-esteems, but also provide discipline, rules and consequences. These are tools that children will need in the real world and by coddling them at home will only leave them vulnerable to poor interactions later. A child who is not taught how to respect a parent will more than likely resent that parent later in life, it is an essential life tool.If respect is not taught, given and demanded then self-esteems will probably crumble somewhere later in life and once the child reaches the age in adulthood around his mid-20’s when brains fully develop coping, reasoning and understand, he will blame his psychological or emotional problems on you.
I love you too dear
Lead by example
The respect that parent’s teach and demonstrate their children are essential for all relationships in life; peer to peer, sibling to sibling, student to teacher and lover to lover. Respect starts with the head of the home and one of the best ways to teach and explain respect is to live it. When there are two adults in a home it is crucial that they show respect for each other, for the health and sake of themselves, their relationship and for the child. If a child sees a lack of respect or blatant disrespect between either or both parents then all the teaching and lecturing about respect in the world won’t mean anything. The adults are only cementing the idea that respect is an option and not a necessity.
Time for School!
Has anyone happened to notice the drastic change in relationships at school, student to student and student to teacher? Teachers are no longer aloud to discipline without fear of repercussions from some entitled parent who feels their child was treated unfairly. Students bully students, daily, kids are taking their own lives and taking the lives of other students. Teachers practice the idea that students are their equal, compromising the superior adult role they should have and far too many teachers have had inappropriate relationships with students. No, no no! It is the parents’ job to teach respect, not the teachers; the teachers should require respect and not tolerate the lack thereof. If kids are being taught about respect and I mean being genuinely taught respect then there would be far less bullying because that is an ultimate for of disrespect and it should be foreign to a child. Sure, every child in their lifetime is going to have their feelings hurt at one point or another by a comment made; a comment that may or may not have been intended to hurt. That is normal, that is a part of life. But…no child should be subjected to repeated ridicule, ever. Teachers need to maintain a level of respect in their classrooms without fear. I don’t mean ruler slapping, paddle, dunce-cap, ear pulling kind of discipline like back in the day (the days I might add when children respected their elders.)
I know a parent, who is actually a friend of mine, that told me last year her 8th grade daughter “just got suspended for punching a teacher”. I said; “Oh my God, what did you do?” She replied; “I called the school and told them that the teacher shouldn’t have grabbed my daughter’s shirt, I would’ve punched ‘em too”. I couldn’t even nod my head and smile like I agreed. I didn’t even know how to exit the conversation or the room for that matter. I don’t know what this world is coming to when schools are being harassed because teachers attempt to have some control of their classrooms and students.