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R-E-S-P-E-C-T...find out what it means...

Updated on November 12, 2014

No disrespect intended

All the years of listening and taking the rude comments, criticisms, ridicule, insults, out of respect to you-respecting what I believed, it means/meant to be family. Respecting in the belief and concept of mercy and forgiveness, and in unconditional love. I endured it all, for someone who in turn, has never given me that same respect.

I can see now why you did not respect me, I did not respect me. After all, if I had any self-respect at all, I would never have put up with being mistreated and judged by you or anyone else, for any reason. For while you may not like, agree, or approve, of me, what I do, what I did, who I am, what I have to say, what I think, or who I am as a person, that does not entitle you to treat or speak to me in a cruel, rude, or demeaning, degrading, insulting, manner. You may be entitled to your opinion, but I am entitled to mine too. I have the right to live my life and to think and feel the way I do. I do not need the approval of anyone, least of all, from someone that cannot respect me the way in which I respect them.

My life, choices, and circumstances, may not measure up to, or compare to you, yours, or anyone’s, which is why I don’t compare myself to anyone. I don’t compare or aspire to be like anyone else, other than the very best version of me I can be. I’m not always the person I want to be, not always the person I strive to be, hope to be, or aspire to be, but I am continually trying to be. Not the best me you think, say, or tell me I should be, could be, and or would be, if I followed your instructions or advice. I'm simply trying to be the very best version of me I think I should be. I am who I am, I don’t need your opinions nor do I need to take your criticisms or insults. If I need help I know who not to call-I know who’ll be there and who won’t, who's been there, who hasn't, who was, who is, and who isn't. If I wanted to be abused or mistreated, insulted, or ridiculed, I can always defer to you, to ‘keep it real.’ Seeing as I am avoiding the negativity however, I respectfully would rather avoid you than deal or listen to you. There are those you can keep in your heart, but not in your life. I am not angry or mad, bitter, or sad, I am ambivalent at best. I don’t hate, loathe, or despise anyone, I just choose not to associate with anyone that thinks that he or she has the right to treat people as though, ‘no one knows better than you.’ You do things your way; you live your life and believe as you do. Just have enough respect for those of us that might not believe or agree with you, or your views-keep your negative comments, thoughts, and or opinions to yourself, unless of course, someone defers to you.

If I need advice or opinions, I tend to seek out credible, knowledgeable, positive, informative, sources, and or role models. I seek to be enlightened and uplifted while seeking to ‘improve’ upon my life and myself. I respect others and their ideas, opinions, beliefs, and choices; however, I deserve the same respect in return. If you feel I am ‘unworthy’ of your respect and still feel the need to weigh in, judge, criticize, and comment, or ‘state your opinion,’ then feel free to do so, after all, that is your right. Just pardon me if I choose to respectfully decline to listen, participate, or engage, with you or anyone else, that doesn’t, won’t, will not, cannot, give me the rights and respect, that everyone is afforded to-the same respect I give to others, the same respect I have always given you. R-E-S-P-E-C-T, I found out what it means to me, and it means everything to me.


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      Raquel L Pierson 6 years ago from Lancaster Ca

      Thanks sis...for always being there for me! Even from across the country-you still manage to be my greatest support! I love you!

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      Kim 6 years ago

      Amen sister! Glad you are finally standing up for yourself! You dont have to prove anything to those that truly love you....we wouldnt change anything about you. Love you and miss you more than words sis!!