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Ready for an affair? Bring back the romance
I'm Ready For An Affair
If a decade ago my friends would have told me that after finding the man of my dreams I would be happy to marry him - I would have agreed.
If they had also said that you would be delighted to bear him children - I would have again agreed.
If they had added that after the children and an odd decade of being married you would be ripe for romance and may be an affair - I would have laughed and said they were crazy.
I mean who would want to get involved in an affair when everything was going so well in the marriage? Now if they asked me the same question I will not laugh.
I might even hope for romance. So what does one do when the whole business of life and living takes over so completely that you have no time for each other?
You start an affair. With the one man in your life that you love beyond belief but can't seem to stand for more than 30 seconds before beginning to criticize. You bring back the romance in your lives.
What is it that first brought you together? How did the romance blossom then? Do you remember the first gift you bought him? The first kiss you shared? The first romantic getaway destination? Now is the time to bring it all back.
Here’s a few practical things that you can do to keep the romance going.
Spell out “I love you” using rose petals on his den’s floor. The sheer silliness of the exercise will amuse him.
A Trip Down Memory Lane
Book tickets to your honeymoon destination – make sure you arrange for the grandparents to baby sit as you take off for a well deserved holiday. Take a trip down memory lane and revisit all those places you had on your honeymoon. Also be sure to take home some new and wondrous memories.
When was the last time you sent flowers to him? We always expect to get flowers but don’t seem to understand that they will be just as pleased as we are to get some flowers delivered to them. Far from being embarrassed, which he will claim to be, he will be delighted. So get the florist to make up a huge heart out of red roses and have them delivered to his office.
The Quiet Time
Remember when you could just hold hands and stroll around in the park or garden while the world passed you by? I know you don’t have that much time to spare these days, but at least on a weekend try and make the time to head to a green patch with him. It will help you both feel more centered and collected.
How can romance be sweetened without chocolates? It is impossible to think love with out candies. So have a box of his favorite chocolates gift wrapped and placed on his pillow. I’m sure he will love it, and you all the more.
Bringing back the romance takes more than the first flush did, but the bloom
is well worth the effort.