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Real Life Struggles Of An Everyday Introvert

Updated on December 13, 2016
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Savannah is an Introvert who enjoys educating other people on the real life struggles that people with Introverted personalities face.

Nobody Understands You

As an Introvert you face many social struggles on a daily basis. One of those being that no one understands you. That and you despise putting on real clothes and leaving the house. (Or is that just me?)

You have probably been called a wide variety of names or labeled as anti-social. My personal favorite is 'hermit crab'. (I would be so happy to live in a shell and not deal with life. You have no idea.)

People with Extroverted personalities however simply do not understand the way that the Introvert mind works. It is not that we are anti-social people by nature. Generally the Introvert does enjoy being social with people they are familiar with. Tey just prefer it in smaller, shorter doses than the average person.

Liking Your Space...A Little Too Much

Introverts tend to take their alone time seriously. They thoroughly enjoy being able to go about their business peacefully without human interaction with anyone else. Once again, it isn't that we don't enjoy being around other people, we just like it to be in much smaller doses.

The Introvert is one of those rare kind who cannot function like a normal part of society if they do not get alone time. With this being said, not only do we like our alone time, but we NEED it.

Like a device whos batteries have completely been worn out, we need to be recharged after social activities. Long weeks at work can seem ever longer to the Introvert if they haven't had any time to rejuvenate and unwind from the constant everyday flow. After a while you may even find yourself feeling depressed, bogged down, and overwhelmed if you have not had the chance to be away from everything for a while. This applies to being who work, who are in school, or who otherwise are required to deal with people on a regular basis. Introverts cannot preform at 100% if they do not have their down time.

Be sure to find the time to rejuvenate even during a busy work week. You cannot function at your best for everyone else if you do not first take care of yourself.

Social Gatherings Can Be A Nightmare

Have you ever found yourself trying to conjure up an excuse that your family/friends haven't heard yet? You sit there, warmly snuggled up in your favorite blanket, thinking of something that sounds better than "I don't want to put on pants and leave the house today." You dread having to get out and spend hours around people you may or may not know, making idle conversation and trying to pass the time. When in all reality, you'd so much rather be right where you are. Warm, comfortable, and left alone.

When you do find the will power to actually get up and get out, those social gatherings can be just as much of a nightmare as you imagined from the comfort of your own couch.

The first half hour to an hour is generally okay. You can kind of get down with this. Its when you start getting ready to leave that things get a little hairy. Everyone wants to talk to you and you can't think of a better topic than your bed or the weather. Its when you start getting fidgety because you no longer enjoying yourself and yet, your almost guilty for leaving so early. Every little thing starts to bother you including the other girl in the corner who keeps looking at you. Agitation sets in and things do not get better from there.

There is so much going on inside of your head and it is almost too hard to hear it over all of the noise of everyone and everything else. Anxiety might even kick in for some people.

Its not that the Introvert does not enjoy social gatherings. It just happens to be an emotionally and mentally exhausting event, especially if it stretches on for a period of time. By the end of the outing the Introvert generally wants to go detox and even take a nap to try to recover from all of their effort at attempting to be social.

Extended Socialization Is Utterly Draining

Extended periods of socialization can be overwhelming and utterly draining to the Introvert. If you happen to have an Introverted personality I would highly recommend not attending social events that you cannot easily excuse yourself from when you become tired.

I can testify as an Introvert that it is frustrating and entirely too much to deal with, to be forced to interact with people when I simply just want to be left alone! I find myself getting irritable, not wanting to be touched or talked to, and even fidgety when I haven't had any alone time to recuperate from the day. If you know someone who is an Introvert and you happen to have invited them out with you, please be understanding that there is only so much they can really take before it takes a toll on them. While you might be completely okay with five hour long party, they are horrified at the thought of having to socialize for that long.

Excuses, Excuses, and MORE Excuses...

By now, you are probably an expert at making excuses on why you don't want to go out. I wouldn't be surprised if you had a little black book of things to fall back on if someone asks you to leave the house that day.

You may or may not have had to use them so many times by now that you just don't care anymore. I can't even pretend like I myself haven't told someone, "To be honest, I just really don't want to get out today." I even went as far to tell my friend when she asked me if I wanted to go get something to eat, "That requires pants."

It is a struggle to make yourself get up and actually be a functioning part of society. Just incase you were running out of excuses though, I have compiled a list that I would be happy to share with you next time you are stumped on what to tell someone who is inviting you out.

Its not that you are an anti-social person or simply don't enjoy other peoples company. You just prefer their company to be short, sweet, and to the point so you can get back to doing what you love. Being left alone.

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      16 months ago

      I am an introvert... social gatherings are a nightmare, you're right about that! Thanks for writing this!

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      John Hansen 

      16 months ago from Queensland Australia

      This was well written, and I can relate to everything you say. I am definitely introverted and love my time alone doing my own thing, and writing etc. although I have made an effort over the years to be more sociable, I am basically a shy person and only comfortable around people I know or in public for short periods of time. Thank you for sharing.


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