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Recognizing my spouse from a sea of fakes

Updated on December 1, 2014

The Character I want in my future spouse

Let’s be honest, I am getting ahead of myself here, considering I am in my early twenties and I have no potential applicants yet: the key word being YET. But I like to think of myself as an old soul. These days, I look around at the men and ladies of my generation, and my heart bleeds. But who knows, I may have looking in the wrong places, right?

Most relationships these days start off as casual sex, and then girls start hanging around the guy’s place for a few months, and boom, there is your relationship. The foundation being casual sex, something that none of the parties involved took seriously. So basically, the two have never really known each other, they have never seen each other’s weaknesses. I mean, if it started as ‘let me explore your fine body’, there are no weaknesses as such seen. Then later in the relationship, when those dark corners show, people start talking about ‘how this and this changed’, or ‘he no longer pays attention’. Of course he does not pay attention. The center of attention (your body) faded into a mist of boredom after a few months.

So, what is it that I want in my man? I need a man who, first and foremost, has his own convictions, good ones of course, and no one can persuade him off his path. A man who knows where he is going and how he is going to reach his destination. And most importantly, knows what he need a woman for in his life; what he needs a woman in his life for.

I need my man to be able to challenge me. A man who can help me grow. After all, we are supposed to be growing in the relationship. Otherwise I would have stayed single, right? I need him to be able to bring the best out in me, and then, naturally, I will do the same in his character. What you sow, you reap.

I need him to lead in this relationship. He has to be the alpha in this relationship. Show some initiative in wooing me, and in making me happy. Don’t get me wrong, I think that it is essential that a girl spoils her man once in a while, but if it is going to be all the time, the guy has either no ego, or he is just taking advantage. So those girls still insisting on picking him up for dinner and dropping him off every night, girl, get your priorities right.

Companionship is important. Some people think that just because he is around, you now have company. But companionship is more than that. It includes a deep mental and spiritual connection. A person that you understand, and in return, understands you as well. A person that can crack you up after a long day at work, and would not mind seeing his face daily. Otherwise you will be VERY lonely. Take it from me. There is nothing as bad as that ; not being alone but you are lonely.

Anyway, those are just a few of my requirements. Please not that note everyone may have my preferences, but those are mine. That was just a disclaimer. All the best in your search for your spouses.. But remember, if you do not stand for ANYTHING, you will fall for NOTHING.

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It will be till death do us part.Love is always a privilege
It will be till death do us part.
It will be till death do us part.
Love is always a privilege
Love is always a privilege

Finding Love

Every girl dreams of finding that guy that she can relate with from a very young age. It may be all fantasies at first but with time, the character in that guy becomes much more specific and realistic, with virtues that matter in this society. After all, he will raise your children, right? Well, here are thoughts from an old soul in a young body.

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