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"Refuse To Be The Other Women"

Updated on January 2, 2010

:Refuse To Be The Other Women"

Don't except less in  your relationship, when you don't have too. you're worth much more.
Don't except less in your relationship, when you don't have too. you're worth much more.

"Refuse To Be The Other Women"

In  today's world; cheating is normal for most men and even some women; that doesn't and respect each other. Most married men aren't content with just having a wife; he wants another women he can play with, outside of his marriage.  any women that get involved with a married man; is asking for trouble.  We do have some women would rather have your man, than to find her own, and these are the women that don't want a committed relationship.  A women that except being the other women ; apparently doesn't have a lot going for her self, or she would know she could do better for her self: than being second best.   I'm sorry, second best has never been enough for me; because I'm a greedy women, when it comes to my man, I want all of his attention, I want the whole enchilada or  nothing.

Today's women. shouldn't never lower their standards to being second best for anyone; because we deserve God's best in a man.  Women make mistakes in becoming a mistress or girlfriend to a guy  that already has a wife and become a second best women.  There are some women that look for a married man with means to get involved with; so they can financially get what they want out of life, but it's not worth the trouble: you will encounter by being the other women.  Being the other women has more disadvantages; than advantages, your advantage in being the other women will be all the passionate love making you can handle and maybe a certain amount of financial gain.

Your disadvantages is that you want  be able to get a commitment from him because he's already taken; yout he don't have a future to look forward to with this man, but he wants monopolize you your time and actions. You take chances with diseases; and pregnancies every time you sleep with him, because you don 't know whether or not his wife is faithful. You are also taking a chance that his wife want find out about you and her husbands affair with you. If you're women with morale's and a conscience; you can't let yourself become involved with this type of relationship, because you already know it wrong in Gods eyes and you're not going to be able to live with yourself.  If you want to be truly happy; you will find yourself a godly unattached, loving man that you can maybe have a future with. 

 Believe me, being the other women is not a logical position to be in; unless you're a women that doesn't care about anything or anybody, including your self.  Like I said; being the other women has never been an option for me,because I always loved being number one, in my mans life.  Listen women, as long as you're tied to a married man; you have no future to look forward to with a single man of your dreams.  But this the penalty when; when you let yourself become involved with a man that's already taken.  None of us should be so needy; that we except what ever we can get, because there are better men out there for us, if we just will take our time and look for something good for us. Women don 't disrespect yourself and God by sleeping around with another women 's husband have enough guts to go find your own. Single women you deserve better than a married can give you.  You are a precious commodity, than any single man would be please to have by his side.

Benny Faye Douglass

 

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    • hi friend profile image

      hi friend 

      6 years ago from India

      very interesting hub. Really thanks for writing such a hub.

      Stay well.

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you for stopping by my hub Chris Eddy111, I appreciate you, your comment, support and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      Chris Eddy111 

      8 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      I thank you for writing this hub because fidelity should be important in any relationship. To the men and women who feel that it's ok to cheat because of boredom or whatever you eventually get what you deserve.

      Thanks creativeone for telling it.

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      RecoverToday 

      8 years ago from United States

      I'm so glad you touched on this subject. It goes hand in hand with my own articles. You have a lot to offer!

    • stricktlydating profile image

      StricktlyDating 

      8 years ago from Australia

      Great advice! I enjoyed reading this Hub! Best wishes.

    • DeBorrah K. Ogans profile image

      DeBorrah K Ogans 

      8 years ago

      Creativeone, Nice hub! Wonderful wise advice!

      As you stated: "You take chances with diseases; and pregnancies every time you sleep with him, because you don 't know whether or not his wife is faithful. You are also taking a chance that his wife want find out about you and her husbands affair with you. If you're women with morale's and a conscience; you can't let yourself become involved with this type of relationship, because you already know it wrong in God's eyes and you're not going to be able to live with yourself. If you want to be truly happy; you will find yourself a godly unattached... Amen!

      Let's pray for those who do not really realize that this is dangerous! By lowering their standards in this way they are really giving parts of themselves away... Thank you for sharing, Love & Blessings!

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Micky Dee, It's true. Thanks for your comment and feedback. have a blessed day. creativeone59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Christalluna, you are correct on all counts, about the man leaving you for someone else. Thank you for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank youm so much for stoping cindyvine, Thanks for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you cr8v1 for stopping by my hubs, I appreciate your comment and your feedback. Blessings to you my dear. creativeone59

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      Micky Dee 

      8 years ago

      Very nice!

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      christalluna1124 

      8 years ago from Dallas Texas

      Creativeone , Great hub. There has always been a saying "If he will leave his wife for you, the one he promised to love before God and man. he WILL leave you for someone else. These women are selfish in my view and have no regard for the woman bearing his children, washing his clothes and cleaning and waiting up all night for him to come in so she knows he's okay, despite the pain he has caused her. One thing they need to keep in mind is the new in sex wears off with time and he will start looking again. It was probally hot and heavy with his wife when they first started. When this happens you will be the one crying and waiting up.

      KEEP YOUR MORALS HIGHS!! this goes for men too, don't settle for anything more than the one and only.

      BEEN THERE, DONE THAT!! the wife.

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      Cindy Vine 

      8 years ago from Cape Town

      Then of course you get the women who enjoy being the other woman as it provides them with an opportunity to cheat on their own husbands.

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      cr8ve1 

      8 years ago

      creativeone59---All I can is AMEN SISTER!!! I know how that feels...I used to be one, but I was unaware that the man I thought I was in love with at the time was married. When I found out, I TOLD HIS WIFE myself! He didn't like that too much, but he got over it soon enough. He's still cheating on her, but she refuses to leave him. And I know what it feels like to have your spouse cheat on you as well...BOTH ex husbands did that to me...not the best feeling in the world! THANK YOU for this article!! YOU'RE THE BEST!!

      Peace,Love,Harmony and Happiness

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Barbara for stopping by my hubs and your comment and positive feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you BK for the truth on both counts Thank you for your comment, feedback and compliment on our picture. God bless you . creativeone59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Godpreacher, for your very appreciated comment and feedback, I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      Barbara Hart 

      8 years ago

      Everything that you said is true and then some. Women fail to think of all those lonely days and nights that they want to see this man but can't because he's with his wife. If he cheats on his wife with them more than likely he's cheating with someone else also. I too would rather have my own man, the whole package nothing less will do. Second of third best will not do.

      Barbara

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      BkCreative 

      8 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

      When you're sleeping with a married man - you're also sleeping with his wife - kind of nasty if you ask me. We can do better!

      Great photo of you and that handsome man by the way!

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      godpreacher 

      8 years ago from Atlanta,Ga.

      Creativeone59,

      You've said it all.

      Great hub, one that should encourage and inspire women to higher heights.

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Hello, I'm just stating facts, I hope realizes their worth and stand up for it.Thank you for your comment and feedback. creativeone59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you RevLady, I think when women realize how precious they are, they'll stop being second or third best. Thanks for your comment and feedback.Godspeed. creativeone59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Veronica, for your comment and feedback on Refus to be the other women, I think it's a true fact and women should appreciate themselves more. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      Hello, hello, 

      8 years ago from London, UK

      Well written and I agree whole-heartedly with you.

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      RevLady 

      8 years ago from Lantana, Florida

      An excellent topic creativeone. It is unfortunate that some women allow themselves to be satisfied with second place (maybe 3rd for all they know). God, through Jesus Christ elevated the status of women and it is sad some prefer to lower themselves from that position.

      We pray for those who have not yet found the way.

      Forever His,

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      Veronica Allen 

      8 years ago from Georgia

      Preach on, preach on! It takes two people to cheat. True, there is temptation all around, but I think if people (men and women) put themselves in the shoes of the "spouse" (that is being cheated on) they will be hurting, maybe it will make them stop and think about all the pain and agony they'll cause if they participate in cheating.

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