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The feeling of your husband's hand sliding down your thigh and your first thought is NO, not tonight. Why? Why not tonight? What is it that makes us women not want the sexual experiences with our husbands. I understand the stress for us woman outweigh a man, but come on! Men stress to and yet the first things to have on their mind with no issue is sexual encounters with their wife. I've asked my ob/gyn whom is male for some pointers. The first thing he said was maybe your not sexually attracted to your husband. Followed by children, stress, not getting enough alone time with your spouse and some. I'm totally attracted to my spouse, so that one gets thrown out the window. Yes, many marriages have children and their sheets are totally rocking through the week. So what's wrong with my picture. As well as many other couples to. Before kids it was how it should be now. All the time! I've figured out what my issue is, since it's Def not my husband who has the issue. When I was 12, I had something stolen from me that I couldn't get back for my future husband. Dealing with that all alone was very very hard. It made me be self conscious about myself. Things like that either change you to go on better or drag you down. I never was the one who dated lots of boys. When i became sexually active with long - term boyfriends, which totaled in 4 altogether, from age 14-18, I thought sex was a way to keep them bc it was something we shared. WRONG! I was cheated on and lied to. I met my now husband, who was supposed to be a 1 nighter. Let's face it, I was trying to do things differently to not be in the same boat as before. Didn't work that way. Well I carried the "doing things differently" not very long. Over the years, I started slipping. Slipping away sexually from my husband. I, myself am still afraid of being left. Left in the dark for another woman. Scared that if we are always sexually active, that I would get old and he would find something new. Or something for just a short time. All of what I was going through made me miss the signs my husband was giving me. His face said it all. He was so totally attracted to me, to every part of me, so why carry this burden around and make it to where he does cheat on me for not giving him his needs as a man. I'm currently still working on this. After all, it had nothing to do with kids and stress. I figured out for myself what the real issue was and comfronted it. It's embarrassing to know I feel a certain way because of past relationship from highschool. Finally trying to get my sheets rocking again, I have fell in love all over again. Don't let your marriage crumble because of this situatuion. Be open with your spouse to try to solve the issue.