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Rejection - one sad truth

Updated on December 26, 2009

REJECTION - does it hurt?

Is there circumstance when rejection creates happiness? Or simply, rejection only results to gloomy ones? When does someone experiences rejection? How should he / she handle it?

 

 

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Its Christmas time - gift giving is something but natural especially if it is from the heart.

Unfortunately (I wonder if this is the right term to use), I just had this not so wonderful (embarassing) experience regarding giving gifts.

I do not know if that act of mine is right or wrong. All I know is that I bought that gift way back when we are still together - happy in our relationship. I intended to give it to him on Christmas Day. (I normally buy gifts in advance to avoid the holiday rush). But sad to say before the month of December, we broke up.

I asked myself, should I still pursue giving my gift or not. When I asked my friends and a collegue if is it okay for me to give it to him or not, ALL of them said that I must not give it to him anymore. According to them, its awkward and it seems that I was not yet able to get over him.

I followed my heart even though no one agreed and give it to him discreetly. I do not expect anything from him. But to my dismay, he wrote me an email add and told me that he can't accept it given that we are no longer connected and according to him, we already have separate lives. I cried in my desk upon reading his email. My heart was broken again.

I was speechless. Needless to say, I replied to his email and said - throw it, rather than return it.

I now deeply wonder, friends can be lovers but lovers can not be friends. So sad. But in my case, it is true . . .

 

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    • aefrancisco profile imageAUTHOR

      aefrancisco 

      6 years ago from somewhere down the road

      Hi Julie2, thanks for reading my hub ... and for becoming a fan :)

    • Julie2 profile image

      Julie2 

      6 years ago from New York City

      Wow! I can so relate to your story. I have become a fan!

    • aefrancisco profile imageAUTHOR

      aefrancisco 

      8 years ago from somewhere down the road

      Thanks for the thought stars439 - Godbless you too :)

    • stars439 profile image

      stars439 

      8 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      Dear Heart, If you do not mind my thoughts I will say that you are probably young and you will get over this. Someday you will find a true love that will adore the very ground you walk upon and you will be cherished forever more. God will find that for you. God Bless you.

    • aefrancisco profile imageAUTHOR

      aefrancisco 

      8 years ago from somewhere down the road

      Thanks for dropping by pddm67 :)

      Happy New Year too - and LET's ROCK ON :)

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      pddm67 

      8 years ago from Queens, New York

      It is sad that lovers cannot be friends but that may be for the best. You seem like a generous person with a big heart. I wouldn't have given him the gift, but I don't fault you for just trying to be nice. He should have just accepted the gift, offered a sincere thank you, and maybe you could have parted friends, moved on and wished eash other a happy life. It's a new year and I'm sure love will find you :-) Rock on!

    • aefrancisco profile imageAUTHOR

      aefrancisco 

      8 years ago from somewhere down the road

      Thanks for the comment tony0724,

      I do hope . . . I really do hope that time is on my side :)

      Be happy :)

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      tony0724 

      8 years ago from san diego calif

      ae I hope time is healing your wound. Never get angry at yourself for being true to your heart. Some young man will discover you good heart in time. And you look young so time is on your side. Be well ! :D

    • aefrancisco profile imageAUTHOR

      aefrancisco 

      8 years ago from somewhere down the road

      Yup, Stevennix2001 - i shouldn't dwell on the past. I MUST MOVE FORWARD - after all, time machine was not yet invented. . . I can't return time but can always make my life happy in days to come.

      Happiness be with you Stevennix2001 :)

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      Steven Escareno 

      8 years ago

      wow, im terribly sorry to hear that happened to you. that's almost as sad as one story a girl once told me how she got dumped on valentine's day. it's a bit of a long story though. i'm terribly sorry to hear that happened. however, im sure he's the one missing out. besides, you shouldn't dwell on the past because as kind hearted as you are, im sure you'll meet a better guy in no time. :)

    • aefrancisco profile imageAUTHOR

      aefrancisco 

      8 years ago from somewhere down the road

      Thanks princess-sisi - Bless you my dear.

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      Hilda 

      8 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      So sad but true, but god probably has something better in store for you. I'll keep you in my prayers. Come by and visit my hubs dont be a stranger.

    • aefrancisco profile imageAUTHOR

      aefrancisco 

      8 years ago from somewhere down the road

      Yes. rejection is quite hard. And yes, somehow, i am moving forward. I have to.

      Thanks Art4life for dropping by ;)

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      Art 4 Life 

      8 years ago from in the middle of nowhere....

      rejection is never easy...but it sounds like you have come to grips with it. Things will get back to normal, and through this experience you have learned, and you will find love again.

    • aefrancisco profile imageAUTHOR

      aefrancisco 

      8 years ago from somewhere down the road

      Thanks for the comment fishtiger58. I am also hoping that I can get over this relationship and things be back to normal :)

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      fishtiger58 

      8 years ago from Momence, Illinois

      Very touching and I hope you can someday get over this relationship. All things must come to an end.

    • aefrancisco profile imageAUTHOR

      aefrancisco 

      8 years ago from somewhere down the road

      thanks for the comment breakfastpop especially for the inspiration. :)

      Never ever give up - and there is always reason to smile and be happy.

      Happiness be with you too breakfastpop :)

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      breakfastpop 

      8 years ago

      I feel your pain. A long time ago, I gave my then boyfriend an ID bracelet for his birthday. He said he couldn't accept it because it was too personal. I remember taking it into my bathroom at home and whacking it on the hard tile floor. There is an addendum to this story, we worked things out later on and have been happily married for 43 years! So, don't despair, something meaningful and sweet is just around the corner.

    • aefrancisco profile imageAUTHOR

      aefrancisco 

      8 years ago from somewhere down the road

      James A Watkins ... thanks for the warm welcome.

      How I wish he's as gracious as you when I gave him my present. But then, again, I know, I just followed my heart . . .

      Thanks for the comment :)

      A happy new year for you my dear fellow hubber.

    • aefrancisco profile imageAUTHOR

      aefrancisco 

      8 years ago from somewhere down the road

      ". . . Rejection hurts but time heals . . ."

      I do agree that time heals. Having social life do aid for faster healing ...

      Have a Happy New Year too TINA V.

      Thanks for the comment and advice :)

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      James A Watkins 

      8 years ago from Chicago

      It is tough to remain close after breaking up. Too much mental tension, pain, guilt, all sorts of emotions. But I would surely accept a gift from any of my exes. Why not? That I don't understand. As for you: welcome to HubPages.

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      TINA V 

      8 years ago

      Perhaps, he didn't want to accept your gift because you just broke up with him. The wound was still fresh. But I'm sure you'll get over it soon. You are still young. Go out with your friends and enjoy. Rejection hurts but time heals.

      Have a Happy New Year!

    • aefrancisco profile imageAUTHOR

      aefrancisco 

      8 years ago from somewhere down the road

      heart4theword thanks for the comment.

      and thank you so much for giving me inspiration :)

    • aefrancisco profile imageAUTHOR

      aefrancisco 

      8 years ago from somewhere down the road

      thanks for dropping by reeltaulk and for the comment. :)

    • heart4theword profile image

      heart4theword 

      8 years ago from hub

      My grandfather said this to me, many years ago! "Once friends, always friends!" "Once lovers, never friends!"

      It has rang true time and time again in my life. Yet I have to say now, I am so glad none of the previous retlationships worked out. Because, God did bring me the man of my dreams!

      I then realized the men, I had dated before, were boys, not men. Keep Looking Up!, Your time will come:)

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      reeltaulk 

      8 years ago

      You went against the grain and followed your heart.....there is nothing wrong with that. But sometimes people don't think with their hearts, neither their brains. I believe they think with their feet and just get off on walking all over you. This situation regardless of what had happened in your relationship could have been handled differently.... ciao

    • aefrancisco profile imageAUTHOR

      aefrancisco 

      8 years ago from somewhere down the road

      You just made me smile kabayan :)

      Thanks for the comment and a Happy New Year!

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      reymund 

      8 years ago

      I feel sorry about that kabayan. But, I must say, you have done what you intended to do and you just displayed a firmness of every decision you make and you are risk taker. Why did you not send me the gift? he3, just kidding. nice hub anyway.

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