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Relationship Abuse - When to end an abusive relationship

Updated on October 24, 2010

Let's make one thing perfectly clear: abuse in a relationship is never acceptable. If you are in a physically abusive relationship, please find someone to help you get to a safe environment. Although everyone knows what physical abuse looks like, many times we don't recognize all of the warning signs of emotional and mental abuse. If your significant other is abusing you, then chances are things will only get worse the longer you stay. Here are some telltale signs that it is time to end your relationship.

 While a little bit of jealousy is a normal part of every committed relationship, if your significant other is overly jealous, then you should be wary of their jealousy. Do they get upset if you even say hello to someone from the opposite sex, then you should try talking them about their jealousy. However, if they are unreasonable and constantly attempting to control your actions, then it is time to call the whole thing off.

 How demanding is the person you are dating? Do they become very angry if you don't do what they say, exactly when they say it? Everyone struggles with being patient, however, if your partner becomes enraged if you if you are less than accommodating, that is not a good sign. You want someone who is understanding and gives you the benefit of the doubt because they truly love you.

 An important part of being in a healthy relationship is being able to compromise and work together for the good of the relationship. Part of that is realizing that a failed is relationship is never solely one person's fault. If the person you are dating never admits to being wrong and makes you feel that everything is your fault, then it is time to call it quits. When someone is that stubborn and oppressive, it is doubtful that things will improve as the relationship progresses.

 When you are with your significant other do they build you up or constantly put you down? Many times people who are verbally abusive make it their goal to tear you down and strip you of your self-worth. This type of tactic is supposed to deter the person who is being abused from leaving because they will feel that no one else will want them. If this is happening, please realize that your partner is playing mind games with you, and all of the negative things they are saying are not true.

If you feel scared or uneasy about the relationship because you feel like you aren't sure when the person will snap, then it is best to not wait until it's too late. Whatever you do, don't hide the abuse from your friends and family. The person who is being abusive will want to isolate you so that you feel they are your only ally. However, your friends and family will not judge you if you find yourself in an abusive relationship. They will be there to support you and help you leave the abuse in the past.


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    • IvoryMelodies profile image


      9 years ago

      I hope this reaches a lot of people. I have not been in an abusive relationship myself, but know people who have and have stayed there for years. No one should have that kind of power over someone else.

      Great hub!


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