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Relationship Advice - Caring For Your Partner

Updated on January 18, 2019
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Fernando is a millennial writer, natural philosopher, and Mechanical Engineer looking to reinterpret social subtleties and add social value.

Introduction

Time and time again, we have been hammered by the social media trends of what the ideal relationship looks like. If you’re on Facebook – or even on Instagram – you maybe have seen a reposted post, or something related to what I’m referring to.

One of the most widely-used words: loyalty. What does it mean to truly be loyal to someone in the context of a relationship and why are we so obsessed with its significance? What part in our lives does loyalty play, and why do we fantasize a partner that is as loyal to us as a dog to a bone?

What Is Loyalty

Whether you have an issue with loyalty or someone else does, it doesn’t matter. What matters is understanding what exactly being loyal means in your context.

  • Loyalty means being true. This one is big. If you’re not true to your partner, you’re not true to yourself. If you’re not true to yourself, you’re living a lie. And if you’re living a lie – I’m sure you know where I’m going with here.
  • Loyalty means being faithful. Another big point. But before we go on with this point, it’s important to understand what exactly I mean by faith. You see, every relationship is going to have its faults. Without going too much into detail, having faith is the notion of believing things will get better even though they might have not. It’s believing in a better future and a positive outcome, no matter what. And believing in the relationship.

As you can see, loyalty is a big deal. Being loyal has its perks, and it always helps to either be loyal yourself or to be with someone that is.

Be Yourself

There’s nothing wrong with being yourself around your significant other. Because, when you truly care for the other person – love them, value them – you become loyal. This isn’t something you can just force yourself to become. If you try to become something you’re not, you’ll slowly – or quickly – start to fall apart and your composure won’t last long. You’ll be weakened with the stress and the frameworks of a true loyal person and you’ll hiccup and screw things repeatedly. It’s better to be honest to yourself – if you’re not a loyal person, you’re just not. And even better, you need to understand why you are not a loyal person. Like I’ve mentioned above, you either have the frameworks of loyalty or you don’t. You can’t fake something that you’re not. After all, if you truly were a loyal person to begin with, it would come to you naturally.

This is where being true to yourself comes in and where it falls into place in your life. You shouldn’t be with someone that you don’t truly want to be with for the rest of your life. You shouldn’t be with someone for the giggles or for the fun. You’re cheating yourself and your significant other. By not being true to yourself and them, you’re bound to not be the most loyal partner.

It’s a lot to think about, but either way, you may want to re-evaluate yourself in the case that you are starting to feel shaky about your partner. You both deserve the very best, and if there are any issues that are affecting your loyalty, you should address them immediately. It’s just not fair for anyone.


© 2019 Ferny Vise

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      PoetikalyAnointed 

      2 years ago

      https://hubpages.com/literature/The-Last-Woman-Sta...

      I have plenty more talking about loyalty in all relationships.

    • fer-nie profile imageAUTHOR

      Ferny Vise 

      2 years ago from San Francisco, CA

      Thanks for reading! Can you kindly link me to the poem that you're referring to? I'd love to read it!

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      PoetikalyAnointed 

      2 years ago

      Yes, loyalty is HUGE!

      I just posted a poem that touches on it. It hurts when you realize that your partner nor friends never had it!

      But that's ok though...you destined for three-times each one of them that hurt you!

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