- Gender and Relationships
Relationship Desires for 2010
With just a few days to go before the end of 2009, I am a full of great expectation for the coming year. 2009 has been a great year but I know 2010 has so much more to offer. If you like I believe this I am sure you have taken sometime out to reflect and review on what went well and what could have gone better this year.
One of the areas I want to focus on in 2010 is relationships. Relationships are what enrich our lives. They are what in the majority of cases , make our world glow and give us the confidence that if all else fails we have people connected to us whom we can depend upon. Indeed I would go as far as to say if we lose money, jobs etc having a positive relationship with someone can help you overcome even the most adverse of situations.
It is with these thoughts in mind that I have come up with some of the desires I have to ensure that I enjoy positive relationships with those who are already in my life and with those I will encounter in the New Year.
Desire 1. Accept, embrace and love who I am. I have come to realise that unless I accept and love myself for who I am, any relationships I am in or enter into will not be fulfilling. There is an old adage that you cannot give what you haven’t got. So it therefore follows if you do not know how to love yourself, how can you in turn give love to another person. Abuse is inevitable if you do not have the understanding of respect, mutual esteem and love for others. Understanding this is vital for building successful relationships.
Desire 2. Value what I have. Too often we take for granted those who are close to us. These are loved one who tireless and sometimes sacrificially stick with us through the highs and lows of life. Their love is unconditional. They accept us for who we are. In the coming year I want to consciously not to overlook these special people in my life because I would not wish to contemplate life if they were not there.
Desire 3. Seek out new relationships. I have made up my mind that I am going to actively seek out new positive relationships. With the excitement and great expectation of entering a new decade I have decided I do not want to remain the same old me. I want to challenge myself, enjoy new experiences and not remain static. Introducing new people into my circle will help to take me out of the business as usual mentality as I seek for new relationships that will take me to the next level.
Desire 4. Identify my inner circle. No man is an island and no man stands alone was one of the sayings drummed into my head when I was younger. At the time I just thought it was one of those sayings my mum would coerce me into believing in order for me to become more of a team player. Age and experience has now taught me that truly if you want to be grounded and experience success at all levels and spheres of your life you need some key people on your side.
Desires 5. Be more discerning. I have realised the need to be more discerning about the people I allow access into my life. As a person on a mission for 2010 and beyond I have had to come to terms with the fact that not all of my friends will be prepared and or ready to go the next level with me. This is not to appear arrogant but rather an acknowledgement of the changes happening in their lives and mine may not compliment. In addition it is important to recognise when relationships may have come to the end of their course. Some signs of this are when you feel you are being taken for granted, when you are giving more than receiving or when there is a devaluing of your person because they have become familiar with you always being there for them, doing what they say, want etc.
Desires 6. Be Positive. There is just too much negativity around at the moment. I have decided that I will not allow the economic recession to enter into my relationships. I am declaring to myself and friends despite all the doom and gloom around, life for me is going to be positive. Laughter is medicine for the soul and I believe we are going to need a lot of laughter in the forthcoming months if all the economic forecasts are to be believed.
Desire 7. Be a blessing. Life does not just revolve around me (although sometimes I wish it would!) Neither does it involve ‘Metooism’ – trying to do the same as others. Life should be more than just about meeting your own personal needs. When your focus is purely on yourself and your needs it is so easy for you to fall into depression when things do not go well or there is delay. If you focus on others rather than yourself you can experience the joy of being a blessing and adding value to other peoples lives.
And finally in 2010 I am going to keep the Faith. To achieve all my dreams, desires and goals I know I am going to need faith. Similarly if I want to keep and make positive relationships in 2010 it is going to be my faith that will guide me, teach me and show me how to relate in love and effectively.