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Relationship skills: What to do when your family member is going in wrong direction?

Updated on March 18, 2013
What to do when your family member is going wrong path?
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Relationship skills: What to do when your family member is going wrong path?

Family is a strong unit and all the family members tend to know each other well. Husband, wife, children and extended family members in some case, talk and eat their food together. When there are so many people, there are bound to be some differences in their opinion.

Each member has a different perception and takes decision using his or her belief system and values. Sometimes, one family member is going on certain path and the other member thinks in his own mind that this path is wrong. He or she provides personal opinion and the other person is not willing to listen. This leads to frustration. What are the steps that family members can take to resolve such conflicts?

Listed below are few steps that can help to resolve such situations peacefully:

1. When one family member thinks that the other person is going wrong path, he or she need to stop and remember these things. We all have different belief systems and values. These belief systems determine our decision making. What could be the different belief system that the other person is holding, that is causing him or her to take different decision. Please note, that the decision that is wrong in his or her eyes, might be just a different decision and not technically wrong.

2. Once we can understand the reasoning, it is easier to solve the problem. Instead of asking the other person to change his action, we can just expose them to new information. If the new information is useful for them, they might change their belief system and their decisions accordingly.

3. We need to remember that if we try to push our thinking and decision on other family member, it will just cause the relationship to become distant. The other person might grudgingly obey in front of you or even refuse to listen to you next time. This will not be good for either of you in the long run.

4. What is the best solution? The simple and easy solution is to guide and not control others. When we provide our guidance, it is beneficial for the family member. It makes the relationship strong. All the family members feel connected and there is no negative feeling of manipulation or control.

These simple strategies can help families to cope and understand each other when one family member is doing something different which they might think as wrong. They can tolerate each other well. The difficult situations can be handled easily when we look deeper into the root cause of the problems and try to deal with them peacefully.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Hi Jeyaramd, thanks for your valuable feedback.

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      jeyaramd 5 years ago from Mississauga, Ontario

      Sometimes, we feel that we must take the steering wheel away from a driver who is headed for the wall. However, its best when we lightly steer them in the right direction. Its no easy feat. However, we should not risk losing our relationships with those whom we love. These are delicate issues that you have tackled here with great sensitivity. Thanks for sharing this great hub.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Hi Millionaire Tips, thanks. It is good to know that my articles are beneficial to my friends.

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      Shasta Matova 5 years ago from USA

      Ruchi, I have added this hub on my favorite hubs of the week.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks Vinaya and Millionaire Tips, for providing your viewpoints.

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      Shasta Matova 5 years ago from USA

      You are so right, I agree with everything - some actions are just based on a different priority system, not necessarily wrong. Guiding is so much better. If you try to control the other person, they are more likely to do it even more.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      This is quite an interesting read. I appreciate your four-points guide.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Hi Breathing and Thumbi7, for your feedback. Yes, when we guide our family members instead of control, difficult situations can be resolved peacefully.

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      JR Krishna 5 years ago from India

      Yes, I agree with you that we need to guide family members and not control them. Good suggestion. But many a times we react overly and spoil the situation.

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      Sajib 5 years ago from Bangladesh

      It is a very critical and hard subject. We all come from a family. And I belief that only a good and understanding family can produce better human as well as bright generation. So, I myself agree with you that we should support each other of the family in any situation when they fall in problem.