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Should We Live Together?
Living In Sin
There you are you in your panties and him in his boxers standing side by side brushing your teeth. Did you ever think it would be like this?
You know, they say you never really know someone until you live with them.You really don't know what a person does when they're alone. Or as the case may be, ...what they do when the two of you are at home together. There's a lot to discover when you move in with someone.
Marcie, a girl that lived in my apartment building during college says she's glad she spent three years living with her husband Richard before they got married. According to this girl, she had to know just about everything before she was going to walk down the isle with anyone. She spent time pondering her parent's divorce much of her teenage years. So, hooking up with someone for the long haul wasn't something she was going to necessarily do later in life.
During those years together she found that he didn't like animals, he focused his parties around sports, he golfed every waking moment, and his ex-girlfriend was still in love with him. He kept a photo of his ex from school and special mementos she had given him. Knowing what she knew about Richard it's amazing Marcie married him after those years together.
The good things she found out about him ended up surpassing the bad. Richard is a great cook and he always leaves the kitchen sparkling clean, he can fix anything no matter what it is, he looks great all of the time, and he takes good care of himself. He would never pass by someone stuck on the side of the road, and he certainly would never turn on a friend.
When it comes to Marcie, Richard always ask her if she needs anything from the kitchen when he's on his way there. He covers her with a blanket when she on the sofa late at night. He gets her vitimins for her when he takes his every day. What she loves the most is how is so willing to give her great masages after she does a hard workout.
She also found that you don't just go off into what seems like eternal bliss at first and never fight. Marcie said that first year they fought all of the time. She knew from the start he would never leave things as they were when he thought he was right, whether he was or not. This really got to her, and made he wonder if things were going to work out at the time. After those "living together" years Marci says they learned to be more patient with one another. Most of all she says they both had to learn how to listen.