- Gender and Relationships
Relationships - Putting Dreams on Hold for a Spouse
I have been watching American Idol for the past 2 weeks and I noticed quite a few women who told the Judges how they had put their dreams on hold for their spouse. One lady said, she put hers on hold to help her partner pursue his dreams. They pursued his dreams and then he ended up pursuing other women. Another had a similar story and was in the middle of a Divorce.
It reminded me of a time in the 90s when I had left an Administrative Officer post in the Civil Service and was fortunate to get a Job as an Office Manager in an American Company. It meant, I would earn £6,000 more than my previous job. A huge step upwards in my career. I was making progress. My partner at the time then got a job with a very big British company and out of love, I decided to relocate with him and one year into the Job, I reluctantly resigned as an Office Manager.
Long story short. Things didn’t work out between us. He turned so mean and they suspended him from work, as there were serious staff allegations against him. At the time I had huge regrets that I sacrificed so much for him, (It wasn't just my Job) but I found the confidence to return to London, stay with a friend and get a job. I got one and a few years later, set up a small business in IT Training. The rest is history. It was a good move.
So, I encourage any woman or man out there, who has made a huge love sacrifice, not to feel depressed about it. It’s a hard blow, but you have to find the courage to recharge your batteries, envision where you want to be and get moving again. When things start to fall into place again, you won’t feel the hurt any more. You’ll just see it as a bad chapter of your Life.
❤ Don’t blame yourself. They say Love is Selfless and Sacrificial….