Respect The Heart
I have been thinking about life and the many mysteries that are intricately woven to make it what it is. After all my mulling, the first question that I really want answered is why men behave the way that they do. Now, one thing that I have learned in my young life is that men do not like being generalized. I cannot count the number of times I have tried to start saying “men are…” before some guy cut me off with a mean glare or an interjection about how he is not “all men”. I have three theories: boredom, dare or challenge and the speed at which men tend to fall in love. So, men out there, please read this article. Do not get offended and please do not take it personally. These are just musings.
I have never quite understood what goes through a man’s head when he deliberately lies to a woman about loving her forever and never hurting her and always being there for her. Do they not feel guilty? Does it not seem cruel to manipulate and play with someone’s feelings? The worst part is that more often than not women rarely go looking for such men. They just come knocking and their charm makes us let them in.
I am not sure. Do they just get bored after a while or maybe they feel that they made a mistake and want a do over? It may be likened to how when someone feels they are about to lose at a video game, they stop and start over in a whole new game. This, however, is not fair to women because life is not a game and love and feelings are a serious matter.
I have often hear about people, both men and women, who generally flirt with someone just because they are bored. After a while this victim begins feeling special. Some have the decency to bail before things become too intense. Others see it as an opportunity to manipulate and get what they want from this person. When they have enough of what they need, they move on to the next person.
We all know lying is bad. We have been taught so in church as well as at home by our parents. Then why should a man lie? It is known that women are more emotional than men more often than not. However, someone once told me that that is an inaccurate point. According to him, men are also emotional, they just do not exhibit their emotions like women do. I couldn’t argue with that because it had some ounces of legitimacy. It is possible. However, I hope it is safe to say women are more fragile than men. So the next time a man thinks about playing with a woman’s feelings, they should remember that.
Some instance in my life actually made me think that sometimes guys get into relationships on a dare. Sounds quite farfetched; I know. However, it seems like a plausible hypothesis. Maybe a group of his friends told him that he probably could not get Paula to fall for him within a month. This man thinks he must prove himself “worthy” of his title. He woos and charms Paula. Mission accomplished. Moving on. He goes out unscratched. Paula is bawling over a bowl of cookie dough ice cream.
Speed of Falling In Love
I once read somewhere that it takes men seconds to fall in love whereas women take days or even weeks. He meets Katie today, asks for her number and by dinner time he is professing his undying love for her. So Katie feels special. She is not quite there yet, but she wants to take a chance on love. They talk for a while. This guy falls in love with Jamie three months later. He ends up breaking up with Katie and we end up back to the bawling over the ice cream scenario.
In conclusion, both men and women have delicate feelings which should not be played with. Next time you declare your love for someone, think about the implications and the effect you will have on this person. Be good. Treat people’s hearts with respect.
© 2018 Valerie