- Gender and Relationships
Taking That Hint
Pay attention to what isn't being said.
Photo of the day:
Word of the day:
Adumbrate - to outline or sketch, or, to foreshadow
Spanish word of the day:
Insinuar - to hint
Fact of the day:
Up to 93% of all communication is nonverbal, according to a UCLA study.
Quote of the day:
"A boy will tell you that he loves you but a real man will show it."
Rant of the day:
I know I'm not the only one who's gotten a text from a guy, or girl, who's drunk. I know I'm not the only one who's thought about going over too late at night, just because I want to see that person. And I know I'm not the only one who knows that's a bad idea. I shouldn't do it, and neither should you.
But it's hard, because a lot of the time you want to. I want to, anyway. I want to see that person, be close to him, and enjoy the time we have. Last night the guy I'm seeing texted me when he was drunk. Nothing bad, nothing lewd, nothing at all, really. He just texted me hello when he was drunk, and said he was excited for an event happening this summer. That's all. Hopefully all he wanted to do was talk to me.
Tonight I watched a movie with him at his apartment, and then I went home. That's not the way movie nights typically go with us, but it was a little like the drunk text, except the other way around. With drunk texts you know you're not supposed to respond. You know you're not supposed to go over. This was the same, but the opposite. After the movie finished playing, nothing happened, and I knew it was a very polite hint that the night was over. I should go home. So I did.
My point is that drunk texts or completely silent, polite hints about what someone wants are the kinds of things we should pay attention to. If he doesn't just want to say hello, you should ignore that drunk text. If he continues drunk texting you, not only that night but into the future, hopefully you realize that he's not worth your time. He's not respecting you. And as for those other hints, the ones where you're not wanted, well, you should pay attention to those too. Sometimes they're okay. Everyone needs space, and you don't have to light the world on fire every night, but if someone doesn't want you, don't try to make them. It's hard, and it hurts, but take the hint, and find something, or someone, better.