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Avoid Dangerous Narcissists At Any Cost

Updated on July 20, 2017
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Poetry and Stories to help raise awareness, and insight, into intrusive, and dangerous, personality disorders, and to encourage healing.

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Stockholm Syndrome

Stockholm Syndrome occurs when the victim of an abuser develops a bond, an attachment, to the abuser, irregardless of the abuser's dangerous character, and the severity of his/her abuse upon the victim.

Mind Games

Returning To The Abuser


Please take me back,

Narcissist!

Thus, I shall be

all the supply

that you will ever need;

Gaslighting

Source


You will flourish

like a well-nourished

garden,

And, I shall again

wither like a dried-out,

useless weed.

Idealize


Please take me back,

Narcissist!

Let us go back

to that eurphoic,

Golden Phase;

Narcissist Unmasked


I shall accept

all your sugary lies,

and crawl beneath your heel

in my love-

soaked daze.

No Contact


Please take me back,

Narcissist!

Thus, the overflowing supply

I shall give you

will be an extravagant lot;

No Contact


I shall stay,

right here,

in-waiting for you;

And oh, by the way, Narcissist,

HaHa... NOT!

Hoover, by Proxy

Hoover, by Proxy, is when the Narcissist keeps tabs, or keeps his/her victim triggered via the Narcissist's Flying Monkeys and/or Enablers, "checking up" on the victim by email, or other means, of communication. The Flying Monkeys, or Enablers, might disguise their dark intentions by asking the victim, "how she/he is getting along?", or statements of concern, "I haven't heard from you in a long time, and miss you". But, the true intentions become visible in the subtle pokes, and jabs, to injure.

Mind Games

New Shoes!

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Flying Monkeys

Narcissists

Do The Flying Monkeys and Enablers know?

Do you think that Flying Monkeys, and Enablers, realize they are being used by the Narcissist to further injure the victim?

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Stockholm Syndrome

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      Tamara Yancosky 3 weeks ago from No Idea Where

      Thank you, Hari! I hope to help others not be ensnared by these reptilian personalities that are so dangerous! Thank you so much for coming to see me!

      Hugs,

      Tamara

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      Hari Prasad S 3 weeks ago from Bangalore

      You have a done a great job by bringing up this poem to the world tamara.

      - Hari

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      Tamara Yancosky 6 weeks ago from No Idea Where

      ha ha ha...you got me, Shyron:-) Good one! Lol... I am so glad you stopped by; please come for a visit again, soon! I will visit your Hub, too!

      Hugs,

      Tamara

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      Shyron E Shenko 6 weeks ago from Texas

      Hi Tamara, do you know one good thing about a narcissist?

      Go to the bottom of the comment to see the answer.

      You couldn't think of anything either?

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      Tamara Yancosky 2 months ago from No Idea Where

      Yes, Tricia. Anyone who is still friends with the Narcissist cannot be trusted. This is not a fanatical statement, but rather one noted from my own experiences with two different Narcissists. Flying Monkeys might know they are being used by the Narcissist, or they might be oblivious to this fact, and think they are doing the Narcissist a favor by pleading his case for him to others, especially that of his previous victim. On any account, it is best for your own healing and recovery to end any friendships with those who are known to be in contact with your abuser.

      I have several other poems on my Hubpages Site that talks about Flying Monkeys, Narcissist's Enablers, and the insidious betrayal of the actual Narcissist. Please try to educate yourself as much as possible because these kind of personality disordered individuals can be traumatizing, and even dangerous to their targets.

      Also, if you'd like the links to my other poems about Narcissists, Flying Monkeys, ETC., let me know and I can post you the links as sometimes the site might be a bit confusing to navigate when searching for specific articles.

      Please feel free to comment, communicate, or get in touch with me if you'd like. I am not a professional in any way, just a survivor of two Covert Narcissists.

      Hugs,

      Tamara

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      Tricia 2 months ago

      I didn't even know what hoover by proxy was...I just knew that I needed to cut off the friendship with a so called friend, after I found out she was in contact with the ex narc! It made me anxious, and I knew she'd become a flying monkey for him! My gut told me I couldn't trust her either....especially after she said... he's changed. He really misses you....etc...blah ...blah..blah.... he misses you...blah blah blah....

      Again,I disnt know the term flying monkey...but she certainly had become one....

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      Tamara Yancosky 4 months ago from No Idea Where

      You are welcome, MsDora :-) I am glad that I am being helpful. Thank you so much for your encouragement.

      Big Hugs,

      Tamara

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 months ago from The Caribbean

      Tamara, it is good that you help us to maintain our awareness because these are some dangerous situations to find ourselves in. Hover by Proxy sounds so evil. Thanks for the education.

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      Tamara Yancosky 4 months ago from No Idea Where

      Thank you, Dream On...I have heard that it can be partly due to genetics, but that a certain type of childhood might increase its likelihood of bringing it out of an, already predisposed, personality. But, there are children raised in very bad homes who did not become Narcissists. And, there are children from very good upbringings who might turn into Narcissists. I don't think it's entirely cut & dry on the exact reason, but there are theories. Thank you for your very lovely comment :-)

      Tamara

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      DREAM ON 4 months ago

      The sad truth of how mean and aweful they are. I wonder how a narcissist turns into one. Did they learn from their parents ? Great poem and like you said bye bye out of my life forever.

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      Tamara Yancosky 4 months ago from No Idea Where

      Thank you, Exploring... Narcissists wear a fake personality to lure their targets into their web, so it can be very difficult to tell the difference between a Covert Narcissist, and a regular person. This is why it's so important to learn about the Red Flags. I really appreciate your visit:-)

      Hugs,

      Tamara

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I love your rhyme. I can't imagine being attracted to a narcissist.....No No No