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The Role of a Wife in Marriage

Updated on November 1, 2016

Roles of a Wife

A wife's role is not just the traditional: cooking, cleaning, and pregnancy. But the role of a wife in marriage is more than just household tasks, although that is one of her major features of nurturing which begins at home. [The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.] Proverbs 14:1

A righteous wife wants to be faithful to a righteous husband and not an alcoholic husband, or a husband that cheats with other women. Most wives like to live in a loving marriage and not an unloving marriage. A loving marriage consists of: commitment, trust, friendship, compatibility, bonding, financial support, love making, acknowledgement, encouragement, and physical attraction. An unloving marriage consists of: betrayal, constant arguing , neglect, verbal abuse, physical abuse, lying, and cheating.

There are many husbands as well that want to be in a faithful marriage. And there are wives and husbands that have a fear of commitment, because they think that they are missing something outside of the marriage. [And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper companion.] Genesis 2:18

Some women don't feel motivated to keep their own home clean, that's why as 'women of God' we should ask God in heaven to give us strength of motivation to want to keep a clean home. To maintain a clean home is one way a wife builds her home, and including nurturing her loved-ones in the home with Godly wisdom.

Role of a Wife in Marriage
Role of a Wife in Marriage

Role of the Wife in the Bible

A good wife don't mind being a helper in many things for a morally righteous husband. Most submissive wives help their husbands by: rubbing his feet occasionally, massaging his back, cuddling while watching a good movie, making him feel comfortable when he's relaxing at home, catering to him, cooking his favorite meals, helping him with his Spiritual growth by reading the Holy Bible more often, entertaining him in visual and sensual ways, rubbing his face and building him up as the head of the house hold with positive words, etc.

Some things that a wife does to submit comes natural and creatively; the role of submission is not a weakness, submission is a great strength that can be used wisely. Submitting to a husband can possibly make him a strong king of his home, and while submitting to a husband build yourself up as a wife by studying your goals, hobbies, education, and career.

A wife that submits to her husband in marriage is a wife that is righteous and Godly. But many wives do not want to submit to a rotten husband, this is when a marriage would need marriage counseling from a Christian counselor. A wife that submits is a wife that is: helpful, supportive, and 'one' with her marriage, hopefully in all positivity. [Nor was man created for the woman, but woman for the man. For this reason the woman ought to have a symbol of authority on her head, because of the angels. Nevertheless, neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord. For as woman came from man, even so man also comes through woman; but all things are from God.] 1 Corinthians 11:9-12

For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and the Savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;...That He might sanctify and cleanse her (the church) with the washing of water by the word, and He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord does the church:

For we are members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones. "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. [Ephesians 5:23-33]

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Supportive Wife

A supportive wife is there for her husband in many ways as his help-mate in the marriage. First of all, a good wife doesn't use physical violence on her husband, and she doesn't initiate calling him awful names. A wife can show her support in her marriage by getting trained in a skill to help her future financially. A wife may also get employment to help her husband to bring in extra income into the household. Or if the wife has children and want to be their full time with her children, but work from home as well, is a great choice too.

Other ways a wife shows her support in her marriage is to keep a clean home: dusting, cleaning dishes, cleaning the bathroom, cleaning the carpet, etc. If the children in the home are able to help with household chores, it's a good idea to have the children learn chores while they are young.

When a husband comes home from work, he of course wants to see a clean home and a hot meal cooked. Again, "A woman builds her house with her hands." A wife can be happy that she is the person in the home that helps make the home cozy and comfortable. Supportive wives may want to live on a budget for the sake of the household finances.

Wives also need to have hobbies of their own, and to do things that she may like to do such as: sewing, walking, dancing, crocheting, reading, socializing, or watching her favorite shows on TV for about 2 hours. A well balanced home consist of a support wife and a support husband; it's a beautiful thing.


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      Joshua Zerbini 5 years ago from Pennsylvania

      Yes I agree, and you are welcome, anytime!

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      Ann810 5 years ago from Sunny Cali

      Hi Josh, thanks so much. A happy wife is a happy life.

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      Joshua Zerbini 5 years ago from Pennsylvania

      Excellent hub on such a relevant topic! Informative and well researched. Great scripture references! Voted up and useful!