- Gender and Relationships
Author: W. K. Hayes
Writing about romance, for me is like writing about myself. Sorry but it is very true, indeed. I live for romance. I love to write a well thought-out poem and give it to that special girl. Unfortunately, many woman are as romantically inclined as a man yelling across the house, "Hey woman, get me a beer"! Yea, I said it. Women, today, lack romance just as bad as any man.
Oh, so you don't believe me, huh? I have found my poems lying on the floor with shoe prints on them. I have found my poems wrinkled up and stuffed in a corner with other papers with little, or no, regard for my feelings. I have found my poems in the trash. All thanks to women that wouldn't know romance if it bit them on the butt.
Sure, most guys don't know what romance is either. Fact is, most guys think that if he buys his woman a ring he should get lucky that night. No joke, I've seen that take place right before my eyes plenty of times. "Here honey, take this ring and maybe i'll get some tongiht"! Yea, I about barfed. If you going to spend a couple of hundred bucks on a ring, take her to a nice dinner and surprise her with it when the moment is just right. DUH!
By the same token, if a man does something ncie for you, and the right way, acknowledge him. If he rubs your feet while staring into your eyes, don't sit there and watch your favorite talk show...turn your best friend, the TV, off and enjoy talking with him. And, by all means, if he writes you poetry, count your blessings and keep each one in a safe place, together. Don't just cram the the poems in a book like a flippin' bookmarker.
Romance by definition is nothing short of showing that you were thinking about that special someone, even when you were apart by doing something nice for them like writing a poem, buying a flower or anything they may enjoy. That is for both men and women. All too often, women forget that men appreciate the little things just as much. They may want a particular video game versus flowers but you'll get the same reaction...a very happy partner.
Another way of being romantic is to do things together. That doesn't mean suffering through a football game or going to the opera. It means, sitting down and watching a movie while getting curled up on the couch. You can also try going to Bingo together which really is fun. Another thing you can try doing, as a couple, is arts and crafts. Sit down, break out the coloring books and talk while you color. I know that sounds childish but we spend way too much of our lives having to be adults that sometimes, we forget what we really enjoyed about being kids. You don't have to become siamese twins to be together and space can be important but make an honest effort to spend time together doing fun stuff.
Talking about space. One huge romantic gesture that takes absolutely no effort is telling your husband or wife, "Why don't you go out and have some fun. I've got the kids tonight and you could use the break". (Please tell me you didn't just faint at the mere thought of that suggestion). Seriously, freely giving your other-half space like that sends one very huge message that reads: I trust you.
As always, thanks for taking the time to read my article. I really appreciate it. If you get a chance, post a message...especially if you have any questions. If you need more romantic suggestions, feel free to contact me directly through the website below and remember, Romance is being thoughful.