- Gender and Relationships
Romantic dinner with steaks
What is a romantic dinner? Food, conversation, plans and what comes after. And male and female have different views about each of these components. While the females have more expectation on what's being said or suggested and do not linger too much over meal itself (especially if they are dieting), the males would gladly skip the conversation (but they would also hold on a little, just enough to be polite) and go for the plate, and move on afterwards
It is hard to believe that the ordinary act of eating can be romantic. And that's right. It is not. What could be stimulating about a dinner is the whole atmosphere, the set up, the dreams and expectations of the partners, the promise of a subtle smile, the waiting for the perfect moment to make the decisive move.
A dinner date in a restaurant is rarely exciting, as it gets interrupted by mundane activities, by a waiter, a passerby or, simply, it lacks intimacy. That's why lots of people prefers to invite their partners at home for a romantic dinner. Its success depends of many factors like music, lights, aromas and perfumes, the way the partners looks or behave. And, in the case of men, depends on food. Unlike women, men have a particular love affair with food, specially with meat. There may be exceptions of this rule but most males love steaks.
Foods considered aphrodisiacs
Love comes in testosterone surges
Some years ago a prestigious magazine published the results of a survey where men were asked what stimulates their sexual desire. One of the surprising findings was the aroma...to be accurate, the olfactory sensations of the act of cooking!
I do not remember if the article offered an explanation or not but I do remember the shock of realizing I was so wrong in my ideas of romantic dinner. And if I had any doubts, one TV show swept them away. One night I was watching Master chef America, a food series starring that crazy Hell's Kitchen Gordon Ramsay. In this episode, the competitors, 4 men and 5 women, had to cook the perfect meal for a romantic dinner. The theme was passion fruit.
As they gathered their ingredients and started cooking, you could see a clear segregation between men and women. At the end, the girls' dinner was based on sea food, lamb or fruits, with complicated mixtures of flavors, and the boys' dishes were more simpler, centered on a juicy steak served with a single delicious sauce made from that passion fruit. The presentation of the meal was also different. The girls' plates presented an abundances of details (like in you and me and auntie Jean and maybe my friend Lilli and could my cousin come too?), the boys showed a primitive display around a dominant piece of steak (like in me and you and that's it!). The women dish was speaking about diversity and sophistication with a dimmed sense of excitement, the men meal was addressing the urgent needs of the senses.
After deliberating, the three chefs, all males, decided that none of the girls should be taken in consideration as a finalist. They praised the boys for their great tasty juicy romantic dishes and after other minutes of passionate discussion over the steak, they finally chooses a winner.
So, my conclusion is: cook a steak to your guy.
The thing about the steak
Now, we all know the naked truth: males and females are unlike. Some people would tell you that males are from Mars and females are from Venus. Some others sustain that actually in our inner core we are all the same. But I'm not an expert. I don't know much about chemistry and brain interconnections. Not even the scientists have agreed upon a conclusion on if and how gender are different. Tough, after long researches they came up with few theories that did not prove wrong yet. One of them is based on hormones. According with Wikipedia, a hormone is a chemical released by a cell that can travel along our body and modify or alter another cell, basically "a chemical messenger that transports a signal from one cell to another." Estrogen and androgen are the hormones responsible for sexual development and are produced by both males and females. While men produce more androgen hormone called testosterone, women produce more estrogen. It's simple.
On one hand, some people have thought of the effect of nutrition on hormone production and have generated lists of foods that could increase the level of a certain hormone. Men, for example, are advised to eat lean meats, cabbage, Brussels sprouts, eggs, cheese, nuts if they want to enhance their testosterone. Among meats, chicken and steaks are highly recommended. On the other hand, there are voices that say that food has little importance when it comes to getting more (or less) testosterone.
One thing is clear though: men like steak. If not for the hormone, then it must come from DNA lineage, from their millennium old grandpa who fought with the beasts in the wild and after killing it, brought it back to his tribe to share the raw meat with the rest of the people. And guess who had the biggest hunk?
Women like steak too. There is no difference here. That's why it makes sense to have it for a romantic dinner. And cook it inside, just in case. What if that survey is true and men's sentimental disposition depends on aroma of food cooking.
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