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Romantic dinner with steaks

Updated on January 15, 2013

 What is a romantic dinner? Food, conversation, plans and what comes after. And male and female have different views about each of these components. While the females have more expectation on what's being said or suggested and do not linger too much over meal itself (especially if they are dieting), the males would gladly skip the conversation (but they would also hold on a little, just enough to be polite) and go for the plate, and  move on afterwards

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It is hard to believe that the ordinary act of eating can be romantic. And that's right. It is not. What could be stimulating about a dinner is the whole atmosphere, the set up, the dreams and expectations of the partners, the promise of a subtle smile, the waiting for the perfect moment to make the decisive move.  

A dinner date in a restaurant is rarely exciting, as it gets interrupted by mundane activities, by a waiter, a passerby or, simply, it lacks intimacy. That's why lots of people prefers to invite their partners at home for a romantic dinner. Its success depends of many factors like music, lights, aromas and perfumes, the way the partners looks or behave. And, in the case of men, depends on food. Unlike women, men have a particular love affair with food, specially with meat. There may be exceptions of this rule but most males love steaks.

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Love comes in testosterone surges

Some years ago a prestigious magazine published the results of a survey where men were asked what stimulates their sexual desire. One of the surprising findings was the be accurate, the olfactory sensations of the act of cooking!

I do not remember if the article offered an explanation or not but I do remember the shock of realizing I was so wrong in my ideas of romantic dinner. And if I had any doubts, one TV show swept them away. One night I was watching Master chef America, a food series starring that crazy Hell's Kitchen Gordon Ramsay. In this episode, the competitors, 4 men and 5 women, had to cook the perfect meal for a romantic dinner. The theme was passion fruit.

As they gathered their ingredients and started cooking, you could see a clear segregation between men and women. At the end, the girls' dinner was based on sea food, lamb or fruits, with complicated mixtures of flavors, and the boys' dishes were more simpler, centered on a juicy steak served with a single delicious sauce made from that passion fruit. The presentation of the meal was also different. The girls' plates presented an abundances of details (like in you and me and auntie Jean and maybe my friend Lilli and could my cousin come too?), the boys showed a primitive display around a dominant piece of steak (like in me and you and that's it!). The women dish was speaking about diversity and sophistication with a dimmed sense of excitement, the men meal was addressing the urgent needs of the senses.

After deliberating, the three chefs, all males, decided that none of the girls should be taken in consideration as a finalist. They praised the boys for their great tasty juicy romantic dishes and after other minutes of passionate discussion over the steak, they finally chooses a winner.

So, my conclusion is: cook a steak to your guy.

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The thing about the steak

Now, we all know the naked truth: males and females are unlike. Some people would tell you that males are from Mars and females are from Venus. Some others sustain that actually in our inner core we are all the same. But I'm not an expert. I don't know much about chemistry and brain interconnections. Not even the scientists have agreed upon a conclusion on if and how gender are different. Tough, after long researches they came up with few theories that did not prove wrong yet. One of them is based on hormones. According with Wikipedia, a hormone is a chemical released by a cell that can travel along our body and modify or alter another cell, basically "a chemical messenger that transports a signal from one cell to another." Estrogen and androgen are the hormones responsible for sexual development and are produced by both males and females. While men produce more androgen hormone called testosterone, women produce more estrogen. It's simple.

On one hand, some people have thought of the effect of nutrition on hormone production and have generated lists of foods that could increase the level of a certain hormone. Men, for example, are advised to eat lean meats, cabbage, Brussels sprouts, eggs, cheese, nuts if they want to enhance their testosterone. Among meats, chicken and steaks are highly recommended. On the other hand, there are voices that say that food has little importance when it comes to getting more (or less) testosterone.

One thing is clear though: men like steak. If not for the hormone, then it must come from DNA lineage, from their millennium old grandpa who fought with the beasts in the wild and after killing it, brought it back to his tribe to share the raw meat with the rest of the people. And guess who had the biggest hunk?

Two men hunting rabbits with their dog, Morland
Two men hunting rabbits with their dog, Morland


Women like steak too. There is no difference here. That's why it makes sense to have it for a romantic dinner. And cook it inside, just in case. What if that survey is true and men's sentimental disposition depends on aroma of food cooking.  


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      cameciob 6 years ago

      Howcurecancer, I love dinner at home too, specially when somebody else is cooking it! just kidding. Thank you for stopping.

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      Elena@LessIsHealthy 6 years ago

      I love dinner at home. 5 stars hub!

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      cameciob 7 years ago

      Hi winsome and nice to meet you. You gave an astonishing explanation of what a steak means to men, thank you. I always suspected it but never believe it that men would first fall in love with the this particularly juicy piece of meat then with the romantic partner. Your answer make it clear enough. I'm glad I finally discoverd the truth. :)

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      Winsome 7 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

      Hello CC, I must apologize for the men who do not explain what steak means romantically. We get hungry and when we are really hungry not just anything will satisfy. An aromatic and exquisitely prepared mignon greets you with a pink blush when you take off its coat. It is soft but gently firm when you touch it and when your mouth experiences it there is an instant thrill in the juices and texture and flavor that must be savored again and again. There is a deep satisfaction that fills up our entire being and although it is enough for now, when that hunger returns the fruit of our passion can be paired only with that exquisite, juicy steak.

      I hope that clears it up. =:)

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      cameciob 7 years ago

      Hi Ge Greek, nice to see you. That's a fun comment! But dinner only supposed to make the partners even more hungrier. Thanks for stopping.

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      De Greek 7 years ago from UK

      We crude base men tend to take things literally. When you invite us to a "romantic dinner", we separate the two. Dinner first, romance later, but that is only out of politeness. We would muchrather have it in reverse :-)))