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The Importance of Maintaining and Cultivating Friendships for the Stay At Home Mom
Becoming a stay at home mom is a very personal choice and one of the most difficult ones you will make in your life. Not only will you be giving up your career and a second paycheck, you will also be giving up most of your adult connections. One of the most important things you should do when transitioning into your new roll is to reach out and make some 'mom' connections. Here are just a few ways you can reach out so that you can have those adult connections you once had.
There will be days that your only conversation will be answering, "Why, Mommy?" Trust me, it will happen. Some days, you just aren't going to want to do another load of laundry or stare at the same four walls. You need to have some time to connect with other adults besides your husband.
Talking to other mother's will help you, if you are a first time mom. They may have already experienced what you are going through or they may be going through the same thing. Power in numbers.
Your children also need to have interaction with other children outside of the house. Allowing them to meet other children on a playground or in a playgroup opens them up so that they won't be so shy. Children are naturally friendly with other children, we need to nurture that.
If you don't make connections, you will eventually become lonely. This isn't healthy for you or your family. Even if you are a shy person, as a mother, there is something in you that allows you to get past it and meet other moms at the park. Take it from me, I'm one of the shiest people out there!
About Mom Groups
Do a search on the Internet for mom groups in your area. You are bound to find at least one, probably more. One of the best places to look first is The Mommies Network. They have local groups throughout the country and they are for EVERY mom. AP moms, Homeschooling moms, working moms, stay at home moms, work from home moms; The Mommies Network welcomes every mother. It is a great diverse group of girls. If you can't find a branch in your area, you can contact them and they can help set up a new moms group in your area.
One of the best features of this particular group is that each local site has a forum just for their moms. You can chat with all the moms about different subjects and there is a calendar of events where you can sign up if you want to attend. There is always something going on.
There are also more specific groups out there as well. MOPS (Mother's of PreSchoolers) are a Christian based mothers group of, you guessed it, mother's of preschoolers. If you are interested in a faith based group, check with your church or churches in your area.