"SEX" VS "SEXY"
Reshaping A Mental Physique
Since the beginning of time the human physique has inspired artists to exhibit its beauty. The human body has begun beautiful relationships as well as destroyed them. The power of the "sexy" has impelled people to kill and to give oneself up to be killed. This is the "sexiness" related to physical attraction; it heightens feelings of joy and happiness. It takes you to places that you have never been before, creating feelings within you that you've never felt before.
From the budding of adolescence, humankind has been charged by the “sexy.” Using it to point out innermost desires and to shape what is wanted out of a relationship with others.
Losing Our Control
Today children are experimenting with their bodies and the bodies of their peers before the mind and heart has caught up with the physical. In western society, there is no longer a need to marry or give in marriage the very young because of disease and a high death rate. Yet there are an increasing number of children becoming sexually active before puberty and a declining sense of childhood after sex. Children become involved in life beyond their years and seek a life well lived out before the age of 26. Sexting and the perfect body dominate girls as well as boys along with their adult counterparts. Focusing on the physical feeds into increased anxiety and depression as well as a loss of self.
Greed is one of the motivating factors in a society that has loss its grip on its respect for the body. Men and women can be incarcerated by having copious amounts of porn and violating others however an overwhelming number of movies and magazines praise men and women who look like strippers or escorts and are touted as perfect, while others are directed on how to successfully become more like men and ladies of the night in order to attract others. The message is confusing because the invisible line drawn between slut and sexy is left up to what sells a movie or magazine blurring what is offensive and crossing boundary lines.
When Does Sexy Cross the Line?
"Sex" is something born out of "sexy". "Sexy" stirs up the emotions and "sex" is the act that comes from those emotions. “Sexy crosses the line, when greed becomes sex-trafficking and when parents look to please children’s desire for a boyfriend or girlfriend over importance of parent-child bonding. Sexy is out of bounds when the “cool mom” cares more about her appearance and what the child says is "in" or "cool" than making sure her child sees and behaves like his or her age. Sexy ruins the sex with the constant titillation of an over exposed body within the public domain and the promotion of one body type being where we should all want to be.
The abuse of sex, sexiness and the human form should not be excused as human nature just because we desire the other. It is the unrelenting violation of what is natural that should not be tolerated. Unfortunately,the title alone on this hub will attract more out of the hope of titillation than out of curiosity for a definition of sex and sexy.
Bring Sexy Back
The definition of sexy should be defined in modern culture as a person that combines head and heart. If we have a combination like that, the body won’t be left out! Ask anyone what is most important in a person that we are interested in, the body will be an important last place! Our culture is craving the head, heart connection as evidenced by chick flicks and the evolution of men like Bruce Willis in Die Hard and almost any movie from Mel Gibson aka Braveheart. Love, passion, dedication and commitment we need. We need more sexy without the exploitation, without the verbal prostitution and the blatant sexual content.
Give Me What I Crave
So what do we desire? What do we crave when it come to sexy? I can tell you what I would like. I would like to have the sexy put before me in a way that keeps me interested instead of distracted and dysfunctional. I know what private parts are and I would like to be enticed if I must be the sexiness of a man's character as well as his physique.
This is the reason that Jane Austen's novels still become movies over 100 years since they were written! The sexiness of a handsome guy or the gorgeous girl both with a beautiful mind and heart keeps us craving the things that take humanity above the baseline and to the spiritual. Yet we continue serving up the obvious and eating it up as new. The biggest boobs and the tightest rear...originality at its best!!! Yet as simple creatures we fall for it.
I can't ask us to get over it because we can’t; it’s not in our nature. But inside we know that when we access too much stimulation it’s very wrong, the evidence is clear in sex addicts from all walks of life. All it takes is a little flirting with disaster to enter a world you don't have the power to exit from. I am not shy and I embrace both words "sex" and "sexy". I enjoy them the way they were meant to be enjoyed, as natural and awesome as crystal blue skies, breathtaking sunsets and white and black sand beaches and no more....to me its better that way, more freeing to the mind and body. Even if I can't control the ads on this hub, the freedom to enjoy the sexiness of life is something that is great to be a part of.
Your friendly universal,