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Should Your Wedding Bands Match?

Updated on October 20, 2016
The groom began receiving a wedding band  around the start of WWII.
The groom began receiving a wedding band around the start of WWII.

He proposed! He finally did it! Now what?! Get ready for an avalanche of "pinning", marathon binge watching of shows dedicated to choosing the perfect wedding dress, researching photographers/ videographers/ venues, and advice from everyone that finds out about your pending nuptials. Out of all of those, one of the most important purchases you will be making before your I Do’s will be your wedding rings. Besides you and your groom, the rings are the stars of the show. They will be the center of the day. You will presenting them to each other, slipping them onto one another's fingers, promising forever. Clearly you want these symbols of your love to live up to all the pressure they’re under!


A Piece Of You With Me

In addition to deciding the style of the rings, the first and foremost decision would be if the two of you want matching bands. Do you know how this tradition began? You may be surprised to know that the tradition of the groom receiving a ring only began as recently as the start of the 1940s. Being faced with the reality that men would be leaving for war and might not return, many couples were getting married in a hurry. The couple would give each other wedding bands, matching their beloved's during the ceremony. This became the token he had of his bride’s love to cherish during the trying days of war.

Choose the same metal color to achieve a matching look while still showing off your own style preference.
Choose the same metal color to achieve a matching look while still showing off your own style preference.

Choose Your Metal

Many couples are still deciding to carry on the tradition of matching his and hers wedding bands, however, the move seems to be more in the direction of individuality. Brides and grooms are expressing their personalities and preferences through their own style choices. For some brides, the more sparkle the better! In this case, the eternity band, adorned with diamonds all the way around is probably the best choice. As you can imagine, most grooms will not be getting a matching eternity band! One way to keep some sort of uniformity can be to pick your own style of choice but choose the same metal for both rings (white gold, yellow gold, rose gold, platinum, etc.). This will not only give you the matching feel but can also be great for wedding day photos!

A small touch incorporating a detail of the bride's band in the groom's wedding ring is another alternative to traditional matching rings.
A small touch incorporating a detail of the bride's band in the groom's wedding ring is another alternative to traditional matching rings.

Just a Little Bit

Another way to achieve the matching feel without actually getting the same ring is to incorporate a detail of one band into another. For example, if your ring is an eternity band in rose gold but your groom is not too keen on an entire band in rose gold, a thin inlay of the metal in the center of the ring can be added. This will compliment your ring while still giving your groom a look he won’t mind living with during your happily ever after.

Stackable bridal sets are a trendy take on the traditional set.
Stackable bridal sets are a trendy take on the traditional set. | Source

Your Choices Are Stacked

If this is all a lot to consider, allow me to put one more thing on your plate (I am truly sorry but it has to be done)! The latest trend that brides are exploring is stackable rings. When doing so they have their engagement ring stacked along with two bands. Often times two different metal types are chosen to add a bit more flair to the look. In this case, the groom can opt for a wedding band featuring both metals of the bridal set or he can choose his favorite. Once again, the bride and groom’s personal styles come shining through while still maintaining a beautiful uniform look.

Materials like cobalt and wood are becoming increasingly popular as grooms are looking for more resilient alternatives to the traditional gold band.
Materials like cobalt and wood are becoming increasingly popular as grooms are looking for more resilient alternatives to the traditional gold band.

Let Your Personality Shine Through

If you and your groom are totally not with the whole matching idea, no matter how subtle, and just want your individuality flags to fly then go for it! There is no rule saying that you have to match at all. Many men are leaning towards alternative materials such as titanium, carbon fiber or wooden inlays. For the groom that works with his hands, wearing gold or platinum will end up scratching very quickly and easily. Consider choosing another metal or material that will allow him to get longer wear out of it; think cobalt, titanium, or tungsten. Cool colors such as gunmetal or electric blue can be achieved with these metal and inlay options, adding a bit of swag to his new look.

Don’t think that you are being left out! If any of these sounds like something you would love to have too, have no fear! There are many women’s bands that come in these alternatives as well! The key to deciding on these symbols of your eternal love is making sure that they speak to who you are, not only as an individual but as a couple! After all, being a loving couple forever is what you are celebrating with these rings! Happy shopping!

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      Besarien 23 hours ago

      This is a very helpful hub for the newly engaged. It was informative for me too. I didn't realize that there were so many choices now!