Song of Solomon a Case Study of Purity & Passion
In a healthy covenant marriage you are friends as well as lovers
SONG of SOLOMON Case study in PURITY & PASSION
The Song of Solomon is one of the most loving, romantic and poetic Books, How interesting that it is found in the Old Testament of the Bible! Did you know that some of the most passionate “Love Songs” dating back to ancient Hebrew times were written by King Solomon? It was originally called and still is at times known as “Song of Songs.” Here in lies a multiplicity of spiritual wisdom. Well, after all he had (700) seven hundred wives and (300) three hundred concubines! He should know something about relationships. If you ever want to hear some passionate love songs or romantic poetry look no more; The Song of Solomon is the perfect venue! The Key verse: “I am my Lover’s and my Lover is mine; he browses among the lilies.”
God created marriage to be a safe loving relationship between one man and one woman. Your marriage will be whatever you both make it.
GOD who is LOVE is amazingly AWESOME! If you want some “ Sweet Some Things” to read to each other the Song of Solomon is the place to be! Here you will find a delightful poetic sermon that few dare to publicly proclaim. Now, whoever said that the Word could not be sung? This Book is indeed filled with melodic romantic prose. In The Song of Solomon, King Solomon candidly speaks of love between a bridegroom and a bride. Many see the Song of Solomon as an allegory. The groom being God. The Bride is seen as Israel. The sanctity of marriage is affirmed as well as a brilliant illustration of the Love God has for His people.
The world in which we live is saturated by the news media with tales of sexual escapades, sexual freedom, extramarital affairs and homosexuality. The sex lives, sexual abuse and secret rendezvous of the rich and famous celebrities as well as politicians are broadcasted daily! Divorce is raging a battle against wholesome marriages. Any and just about everything goes… This is also attempting to take a stronghold on God’s Church! Many say you have to accept me as I am regardless of my sexual preferences because unconditional love says so? This is not love at all. We are to love people not the sin. God does not sanction making anyone comfortable in sin. Sin is anything that separates us from God, God determines what is or is not sinful!
Did you know that sex originated in the Bible? Yes, It was created by God! How did sex ever become such a dirty word? Man tends to always pervert what God has made for good. The world tries to redefine marriage to suit whomever… It has been twisted and turned upside down by too many. Sex for some is a no strings attached, or just a wild activity of lust void of commitment and a mere wild expressed bodily exercise. Being married is optional. In this case you are just giving away a part of you to an uncommitted partner...
Take some time and see what God has to say about sexual relationships. After all He created us! No doubt He knows what works best for all of us. Take some time and read Leviticus and Deuteronomy. They both candidly have a lot to say about proper and improper sexual relationships. God teaches us to be disciplined in all areas of our lives. When love, trust, loyalty and faithfulness are truly a part of your marriage you strengthen one another. Always keep in mind that marriage is the first institution that God created. Marriage is sacred as well as honorable in the eyes of God. When you honor your marriage vows you honor GOD!
GOD says in HIS WORD: "...NEVERTHELESS TO AVOID FORNICATION LET EVERY MAN HAVE HIS OWN WIFE, AND LET EVERY WOMAN HAVE HER OWN HUSBAND. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence; and like wise also the wife unto her husband. The wife hath not power of her body, but the husband; and likewise also the husband hath no power of his body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again that satan temp you not for..." I Corinthians 7
Sexual intercourse was really meant to be a loving expression within Holy Matrimony. Remember; Marriage is sacred and the marriage bed is undefiled. Within this beautiful union, man and woman celebrate the “two becoming one.” In a Holy Union they are no longer two. Marriage once again joins them together like it was originally intended. God made man and woman as one. He took woman from man. When you come together you once again reunite spiritually, physically emotionally and mentally. This is not a time to drain one another but to reinforce your commitment to one another. It is the closest form of body language when expressed within marriage that one can physically express to another being; I Love you!
The Word says; “And Adam said; This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become ONE flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and they were not ashamed.” Everything God made was good! It is when sex is practiced outside of the boundaries of marriage, not as He intended things begin to get quite complicated... Having sex is not bad or dirty. Sex was made for mutuality between husband and wife, each has a responsibility to one another. Celebrating love, experiencing one another in a intimate private and pleasurable way. It is a marvelous blessing when the Lord allows the producing of children and a time of bonding together. It is the spiritual and physical union sanctioned by GOD within the confines of HOLY MATRIMONY!
If you did not know it, there is a lot going on regarding sex in the Bible! The Word talks explicitly about the consequences of “sex outside of marriage.” The world says no problem? “Go for it.” Remember; “Think fire out of the fireplace!” It’s possible but spiritually it is terribly dangerous! The Song of Solomon is a poignant, emotional, moving poetic drama about love. In intimate details King Solomon bears his soul to his lover and she to him. Here is a wonderful illustration that is often over looked putting sex and marriage in its proper place.
Although some say it is a story of God’s love for the children of Israel being expressed in an Allegory? Others say it is a story of married love. But really it is both. God speaks to us in many ways. He cannot be limited to our limitations. He is Omnipotent! He can do whatever He pleases. God Loves us. He wants what is best for all of us. He does not want us ignorant in anyway. It is so good to know that we are saved by HIS GRACE! As you read consider thinking upon this fact that; "GOD IS LOVE!" To really and truly love you must know God. You cannot turn back the hands of time. But you can go forward in the Lord. It is never too late to change, REPENT and start living His way. “All have sinned and fallen short of the GLORY of GOD!” Romans 3
As you stroll through the corridors of “The Song of Solomon” remember GOD LOVES YOU. Ponder and meditate upon His Word. Seriously think about committing or recommitting to living your life His way? Begin building your marriage His way. Think about inviting Him into any of the messiness in and about your life. Allow or begin allowing the Lord to show you which way to go. Let, "Jesus take the wheel" and guide you in the right direction. I assure you God will never lead you wrong... Know this; not everyone desires a God centered marriage.Through the gift of His Holy Spirit He can show you how to bring order, peace, patience, kindness, self control, happiness, respect, strength, joy and so much more to your marriage as well as to the marriages of others. God helps you build healthy boundaries. This also allows balance because you don't take one another for granted. Know that in a Covenant marriage You also have His Blessings upon your marriage bed!
Love physically expressed is powerful between a committed monogamous husband and wife! It can be a conscious time to solidify your marriage and honor your vows. This allows your inner beauty to glow and shine forth, sensitivity and sincerity encompasses mutual fulfillment. It is not a time for a pressured performance. But a time to express your love for one another. These are the moments you bond together in a healthy way. Tender quiet moments together are just as special. Keep the romance going by adding embers to the flame of your marriage! Strive to sustain a quality marriage. Although it began at the altar it should continue on day by day. This helps to keep emotional walls from erecting that can become possible barriers in your marriage. Time is so precious. Tomorrow is not promised! So you do not want to waste time in regrets. You want to make good use of it. Don't disrespect your spouse. Always speak the Truth in Love. Make sure you take time to nurture one another. The Song of Solomon encourages us to honor marriage.
Let us sample a taste of what Solomon shares. This is from The Beloved!
“Let him Kiss me with the Kisses of his mouth
For your love is more delightful than wine.
Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes;
Your name is like perfume poured out.
No wonder the maidens Love you!
Take me away with you, let us hurry!
Let the king bring me into his chambers..."
Wow! Too many glide over this part of the Word. Think about when is the last time you read it? God who created us is the Giver and Sustainer of life. Tell me, who besides Him would know better what works? God has given us the Song of Solomon for a reason. It is yours to discover?
Solomon was the son of King David, he was chosen by God to build the Temple in Jerusalem. His Father David wanted to build the Temple for the Lord, but he was a man of war. God had bestowed upon Solomon an extraordinary gift of wisdom. He was personally selected by God to build the Temple. He has left a marvelous legacy. He also wrote over (3,000) three thousand proverbs and (1,000) one thousand songs! The Song of Solomon itself contains (7) seven poems. It gives a descriptive account about how they met. The engagement, the wedding and the procession, the actual wedding night as well as the marriage itself!
This refreshing romantic Book describes Solomon’s love for his bride in a way that captivates the refreshing and invigorating qualities that love brings forth! Although life can become very difficult at times. Marriage was meant to provide a committed partner to help, weather the storms of life. Your marriage should not consist of only major complaints, sorrows and problems. Nor should there ever be any physical, mental or emotional abuse. This is not what God intended. You can call on the Lord 24/7/365 days all year long... If your marriage needs to be refreshed, I pray this inspires you. Marriage should be a place where ultimate transparency, physical mutually satisfying intimacy between husband and wife can be shared. Coming together should be a time to lock all the trappings and disappointments of life out and invite in refreshing, excitement. Or simple moments of calm quiet nurturing. Always keeping in mind that God is omnipresent. God is real and when He says He is omniscient He is. There are never gaps or lapses in His infinite memory.
Together you want to celebrate and reinforce the cherished memories that brought you together! You also want to continue to build new marvelous memories.
This might make you blush a bit. But it will also given you a deeper understanding of GOD being omnipresent. Once you get to really know God you will think differently. "Where the Spirit of the Lord is there is Liberty..." Never forget who made you! He really does want to be a part of every area of our lives. He wants you both as husband and wife to have transparent intimacy. Marriage is the ultimate union of "two becoming one" in the physical sense. Here only is it honorable and sanctioned by God. Christ Jesus healed the enmity that came about due to the sin of Adam and Eve...Take note of the detailed description of the body of the man and the woman. The point is; there was no shame ever intended to ever be between a husband and wife. It is not for others to intrude upon... Solomon really breaks it all down to the finest intimate level of detail. Privacy is fleeting to some in this day and age. Some will do just about anything. Nothing is no longer sacred to many...
This is what The Song of Solomon says about him; "... His head is as the most fine gold, his locks are bushy, and black as a raven. His eyes are as the eyes of doves by the rivers of water, washed with milk, and fitly set. His cheeks are as a bed of spices, and as sweet flowers; his lips are like lilies, dropping sweet smelling myrrh. His hands are as gold rings, set with beryl; his belly is as a bright ivory overlaid with sapphires. His legs are as pillars of marble, set upon sockets of fine gold; his countenance is as Lebanon, excellent as the cedars. His mouth is most sweet; yea he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, and this is my friend..."
This is what The Song of Solomon says about her: “How beautiful are your sandaled feet, O princes daughter! Your graceful legs are like jewels, the work of a craftsman’s hands. Your navel is a rounded goblet that never lacks blended wine. Your waist is a mound of wheat encircled by lilies. Your breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle. Your neck is like an ivory tower. Your eyes are the pools of Hesborn by the gate of Bath Rabbim. Your nose is like the tower of Lebanon looking towards Damascus. Your head crowns you like Mount Carmel. Your hair is like royal tapestry; the king is held captive by its tresses. How beautiful you are and how pleasing. O Love with your delights! Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit …”
As you mature your marriage should as well. It should age gracefully like a fine antique. Have you noticed how they become more cherished and valuable with age. Cultures vary in their perceptions of lovemaking. There are some cultures that teach and encourage enhancing the physical lovemaking within marriage. There is a freedom that emerges when the couple together make their physical intimacy a priority. You become like an "Epoxy" glue. Once the two components come together it is virtually impossible to separate! You both are content whether together or apart because you know you are Spiritually ONE! You also know that GOD is always with you! Love between a man and woman is priceless. Remember “GOD IS LOVE” and true love was meant to last through eternity! It is not the same as what I call “Intoxicating Affections” that only mimic true love they do not last; but at some point this will also leave a residue of resentment!
Marriage is only for this side of Heaven
Did you know that there is actually no marrying in Heaven? Marriage is only for this side of Heaven. How interesting! "For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven." Matthew 22. So make a sincere attempt to get it right! The key components of a great marriage is love, trust, mutual respect, loyalty, understanding, empathy, compassion, transparency, devotion and commitment. When you say; “I DO!” Mean it! Remember, loving committed marriages reflect God not domination and control! Your marriage should be a reflection of “How much you Love the Lord!” Remember no longer two; but ONE. “What GOD has joined together let not man put asunder!” I hope you both are blessed, inspired, enlightened, encouraged and actually together enjoy “The SONG of SOLOMON” & your marriage!!!