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Safe Sex-Is There Such a Thing

Updated on August 23, 2013

Is there a such thing as safe sex? This is a very debatable subject and it is 70/30 safe not safe. According to websites, statistics, studies and the like, there is still an underlying response that says no, not as we believe it to be. For starters what does safe sex mean. Let's look at the definition for safe. Webster's new world dictionary says: Safe-adj.-1)a. Free from damage, danger, etc; b)having escaped injury; unharmed. 2)a. giving protection, b. trustworthy-n, safe'ly adv. safeness-n. Now lets look at the phrase, "safe sex." Safe sex is defined in the Webster's new world dictionary as: sexual activity incorporating practices as, condom use, that reduce the risk of spreading sexually transmitted diseases. When you look at the definition of the word safe and the term "safe sex," in perspective, the two don't go hand in hand. Now I can hear the silent uproar, " what do you mean, are you implying that condoms are not safe, are you saying that they shouldn't be used and are you saying that they don't make a difference." This hub came about because my daughter brought home sex education pamphlets from school today. I am a person who likes to do word studies and break things down to try and get to the real meaning of the subject. I was reading over the material and it just occured to me to look into the term, "safe sex." I'm not saying that condoms should not be used, but what I am saying is that we as a society, rely on condoms and not our own self control and thats where our safety lies, not in a condom. Let's look again at the definitions for the word safe-safety. One description is: "free from damage, danger." Based on research of sexual health issues alone, it is appropriate to say that sex with condoms does not leave you free from damage and danger. While research shows that latex condoms(water based), are highly effective in controlling hiv, aids, herpes, etc; by reducing the number of cases where people are infected, most of the studies will tell you that latex condoms are not one hundred percent proof. The accuracy of condoms is based on a percentage of 88-90%. This means that 10-12 percent can still catch sexually transmitted diseases, including aids. I have also read where hiv can be contacted through the mouth. When the aids virus first surfaced studies were showing that you absolutely could not catch aids by way of the mouth. Now statistics show that it is a possibility. Oral sex performed on a man can infect the mouth of the person performing it if they have damaged or receding gums or, any cuts or sores in their mouth, the latter being more prevalent because we don't always feel or see cuts and abrasions in our mouth. Oral sex performed on a woman can infect the mouth as well if infected fluid is released into it. Also if there is menstral fluid involved. If you are sexually active even with a person that you are monogomous with at the time you cannot be sure if the person is infected with the hiv virus because it may not show up in the body right away. It can take up to three months for hiv to be detected in the blood stream, in rare cases as long as six months. Aids can lay dormant in the body up to ten years and suddenly appear on your blood radar and you can be healthy, showing no signs of the disease and still infect others. Testing is imperative to assist you in discovering your partner's health as well as yours if you are going to be sexually active especially with more than one partner. As far as the eyes are concerned research says that it is highly unlikely and it would have to be a large amount of mucus or blood that inhabits the eye in order to be infected. Still other studies show that aids can not live in saliva because it is diluted enough by the saliva to kill its progress. Also it cannot live in the stomach because it is obliterated by the stomach's acid. One of the problems that I have with a lot of these studies is that if STI's(sexually transmitted infections) and diseases like herpes(noncurable), syphilis, chlamydia, crabs, gonnorhea, trich, hpv(non-curable),etc; can be caught in the eyes, mouth, throat and stomach, why is it that the most deadliest disease of them all(hiv, aids), is so hard to catch in the areas just mentioned? I know that all of these STD's have different strands and that they affect the body in different ways and the viruses themselves range in different sizes but the one thing they have in common is how they are caught. It seems as though research on hiv and aids basically says that it is very hard to catch unless there are extreme situations. It can't be caught through saliva by deep kissing but the others can. It can't live in saliva but the others can, it can't live in anything but blood and semen but the others can live in other body fluids such as the eye mucus membrane, etc. In my opinion this seems a little strange. I do know that based on statistics through internet research as well as documentaries, medical experts and the like, the spread of aids is still rampant because condoms are not infallible. Going back to the definition of of safe(free from damage, danger, having escaped injury, giving protection, trustworthy) there is not a one hundred percent possibility like research shows, so there is no safe sex. This does not even touch on emotions and matters of the heart that can be tainted, taking therapy to repair for many. Sex cannot guarantee trust when so many people are sneaking around on their partners and some don't even sneak they have open relationships. Once you sleep with someone you have slept with their past as well, including their partners and there problems. You cannot escape harm or injury, damage or danger or , be free from sexual circumstances and situations but you can court them and take your chances and that in itself is very dangerous. Especially if you are a person who has multiple partners, one night stands etc. Dr. Harold Jaffe, chief of epidemiology, national centers for disease control said: "You can't just tell people its alright to do whatever they want as long as you have a condom. It(aids), is just to dangerous a disease to say that." Dr. Robert Renifield, chief of retro viral research said: "Simply put, condoms fail and condoms fail at a rate unacceptable for me as a physician to endorse them as a strategy to be promoted as meaningful aids protection." Another Dr., Teresa Crenshaw, member of the U.S. Presidential aids commision and past president of the American Association of sex education had this to say: "Saying that the use of condoms is "safe sex" is in fact playing russian roulette. A lot of people will die in this dangerous game." In 1993, The University of Texas analyzed the results of eleven different studies that had tracked the effectivness of condoms to prevent transmission of the aids virus. The average condom failure rate in the studies for preventing transmission of the virus was thirty one percent, that's too high. I have also read during research that the hiv virus is so small that two million of the disease causing agents could crowd on the period at the end of a sentence! That alone should make us consider what we read and accept about condoms. I know popular research says otherwise but it does not stand alone as total truth. Now the question remains, am I against sex, is it not a beautiful thing and the answers are no and yes! I am not against sex because it is God ordained. It is the highest form of pleasure concerning the body known to man and it is beautiful in the way that God ordained it , in a marriage, which is sanctioned by God. God is the creator of sex and it is not safe apart from him. As a society, we give sex too much power and we often abuse it. I also did a word study on (abuse). and it is ab(prefix on the word normal, meaning not normal) and the word use/therefore we have the word, abuse. Anything not used the right way is abuse. The safest way to have sex is, abstinence until marriage like God intended. This decreases your partners and your risk and is backed by God, bringing about safety and a long healthy life. In my opinion, condoms were created to offset and try and control the many issues of disease resulting from our abuse and disobedience in sexual intercourse.We suffer through so many unecessary situations sometimes in our lives when we don't have to if we just would handle things the proper way. There is so much more I want to say but this hub is long enough(smile!) In closing I will say that based on research and the bible, there is no such thing as "safe sex." The term should be rephrased to say, "sex incorporating condoms." As always this was written to encourage taking a closer look at what is before you, resulting in a new way of thinking or, something to think about. Without pointing fingers and much love!!


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    • ladyt11 profile image

      ladyt11 7 years ago

      Thank you for the encouraging words, I'm glad you stopped by!

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      b. Malin 7 years ago

      your work is always so informative and useful. Thank you for your insight.